Knowing what to say and when

 A couple of weeks ago, a floral delivery driver I know, walked up to a house with a large, beautiful flowering plant. Assuming it to be a holiday gift, he said to the woman opening the door, "Boy are you a lucky lady." The woman burst into tears. The driver later found out that the plant was a sympathy gift. The woman had just lost her husband. He was trying to be kind by cheerfully greeting her, but not knowing all the facts, he added to her sorrow. I've been thinking about this and realized that we sometimes need to know what to say, and when to say it.

Cassidy's words

Just before he passed away last month, we are told that David Cassidy said "So much wasted time." Since hearing this, I've thought about it a lot and it serves as a reminder for me to cherish every moment.  ("Cherish" of course was a Cassidy hit song).  I don't want to waste a single moment.  I want to always share my gratitude and share kindness to all. 

Here it is

Here it is, what the say is the most wonderful time of the year.  Not just wonderful too, but Christmas Day just might possibly be the kindest day of the year.  Why though?  All the joy and love shared can just as easily happen on those other 364 days.  Let's make it so!

Charity begins at home

So many donation requests this time of year - dozens and dozens of charities asking for money.  It might be a pain to sort through all those letters and emails, but there are indeed many organizations worth giving too and this annual push get them a lot of money.  Of course charity begins at home, so our first responsibility is for the needs of our own family and friends and co-workers.  Not all of us can give with money (sometimes it just isn't there), but we can all show extra kindness and we all can show love and concern.

share a hot beverage

In the top half of the earth, today is winter solstice or the first day of winter - the day with the shortest period of daylight and the longest period of dark.  Oh yes, and it's colder in many places.  Bundle up and share warm wishes with others.  A very kind gesture might be to give folks hot beverages - cider is particularly popular at this time of year.

Mothers

There are great people you meet along the way, who inspire you to do great things yourself.  Mothers so often are those great people.  My own mom certainly was.  All good things that I might do are because of the good things she inspired me to do.  I try to be kind.  I'm not perfect, but hopefully writing this daily blog helps me too.  Today would have been Mom's 91st birthday.  I'll be thinking of her a little extra today I'm sure.  Of your kindness, think of your own mothers too!

Gettin close

If you should happen to be keeping track, we're getting closer to Christmas.  Next Sunday dawns as the Fourth Sunday of Advent and then transitions into Christmas Eve.  Help others celebrate by being especially kind!

Do you know what today is?

Let's celebrate! Do you know what today is? It has been a year of these morning messages about kindness. One whole year! I wonder how many read this regularly. I wonder. Hopefully some of these thoughts have been helpful. Hopefully I have gotten kinder, oh and you too!

the holidays

When we say "happy holidays," most people only think of two or three, but December has many!  Last night at sundown, Hanukkah began and lasts until December 20th at nightfall.  Also coming up are Longest Night:, Festivus, Christmas, Boxing Day, Kwanzaa, and more!  Which ones do you celebrate?  Of your kindness, find out about the customs of others and help make their celebrations happy!

Respect for the dead

I'll never understand how anyone can curse someone who has died.  I woke up this morning to the shocking news that San Francisco's Mayor passed away unexpectedly in the wee hours of the morning, and on social media I saw the most horrible, vile, disgusting comments about him, some of which included his family.  Here is another place where we always need kindness.  Being anything other than kind at the time of someone's death is just plain mean.

No day off

It's Sunday, so no school or work, and therefore no need to be kind, right?  WRONG!  We don't take a day off from caring about others?  Being good and kind is an everyday occurrence we should practice every single day!

No lists

In November, we not only had a month of thanks but also a month of kindness with lists of ideas of various acts of kindness.  No lists this month.  We all have this kindness thing down now.  It comes naturally, and oh it feels so good!

Happy December everybody

So many observances this month including World AIDS Day (today), Advent, Saint Nicholas' Day, Saint Lucia's Day, Hanukkah, Longest Night:, Festivus, Christmas, Boxing Day, Kwanzaa, Saint Stephen's Day, Holy Innocents' Day, Saint Sylvester's Day, Watch Night, and New Year's Eve.   Happy December everybody!

Ending the month but continuing the kindness

As we end the month, I'm not going to mention any more specific ideas (although I certainly will in the future).  I hope a lot of you have joined with me in making November not only a special month of thanksgiving, but also a special month of kindness.  Now, let's keep in going all year long!

30 days of ideas

As the month winds down, here's a few more ideas - Clean graffiti from neighborhood walls and buildings. Buy a stranger a free pizza. Mow a neighbor’s grass or sweep a neighbor’s walk. Offer to return a shopping cart to the store for someone loading their car. Call an estranged family member.  Buy cold drinks for the people next to you at a ball game. Spend some time serving food at a meal program for the needy.  (Often there are more volunteers than are needed on Thanksgiving Day, but today and the days right up to Christmas, they are often short-handed).

Giving Tuesday

It's Giving Tuesday and of course there are even more ideas! Give another driver your parking spot. Tell your boss that you think he/she does a good job.  Open the door for another person.  Give flowers to be delivered with meal delivery programs. Give your full attention to someone in need and simply listen. Stop by a nursing home, and visit a resident with no family nearby. Think about those donations too!

We're not out of ideas

We're getting closer to the end of the month, but we're not out of kindness ideas.  Here are some more for you.  Deliver fresh-baked cookies to city workers. Share your smile generously. Take an acquaintance to dinner. Sponsor people in fundraising walk-a-thons. Make telephone calls in support of equality urging others to put aside hate.

Sunday suggestions

As we near the end of this month (today is the last Sunday) of kindness ideas, I am so grateful for all the contributions from folks who read this.  Together we can make this a kinder world!  Oh and when November ends, we certainly don't have to stop!  Kindness by now if a way of life for us all, right?  Now, some more ideas for today?  Whisper them to me.

The ideas just keep on coming

Kindness ideas are never-ending!  Here are some more.  Send a treat to a school or day-care center. Volunteer at an organization that needs help. Go through your closets and find several nice items and then donate them to a shelter. Buy books for a day care or school. Give toys to the children at a shelter.  Give a Thanksgiving week tip or gift to your mailman or other delivery person.

Leftovers

Everyday should be Thanksgiving and every day should be Kindness Day.  That's just how I feel.  I try to treat others with the respect and dignity that they deserve and I aim to make at least one person smile everyday.  This month we have placed a special emphasis and so today I hope that it's not just a trip to the malls, but that we will spread even more kindness.  Look back on the ideas we have already shared.  Think up some new ones.  Didn't finish all of your big holiday spread yesterday?  Share it!  Who doesn't like leftovers?  Maybe make up some nice turkey sandwiches and share them with hungry folks on the street.

Let us give thanks

Being kind and giving thanks - the two seem to go hand in hand.  That's why I thought it would be great to have a whole month of extra kindness and extra thanks and I am thankful that so many are joining in.  Let us give thanks for all we have and let us eagerly share that, spreading good and kindness wherever we go.  Today, think of those who are hungry and do what you can.  Grab some paper plates and set up a nice array of food from your Thanksgiving dinner, to share with those who might have nothing.  Make as many plates as you are able and then take them to a place where homeless people gather.  Your kindness will be appreciated!

For the feast

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving Day.  All this month we have been suggesting that this be not only the month filled with thanks, but also filled with kindness.  One huge thing that happens on Thanksgiving (as well as Christmas Day, and in some places Easter), is big Thanksgiving dinners for the homeless or folks who just can't afford the banquet.  A kind way to give back is volunteering to help with prep, serving, or cleanup.  Donating food or money helps too.  Having dinner at home?  Maybe make up some take-out containers with traditional food, and then hand them out to folks on the street whom you think will enjoy them.  The list goes on and on!

feeding the hungry

There are lots of folks out there who go hungry, and nobody should have an empty belly.  In two days many of us will sit down to a huge feast.  Think about those who cannot.  As we continue our list of kind acts, consider volunteering to serve at a homeless shelter or other meal program - not necessarily on Thanksgiving Day when more volunteers often show up than are needed.  Help out on those days when nobody else is around.  Meals-On-Wheels or similar programs are usually in need of help too!

Teaching moments

Teaching others to do things can be very kind and helpful!  Teaching someone to read, for example, is a gift that will last forever.  Perhaps tutoring a student, spending more time with your own kids or grandkids, offering to read at a children's library, or volunteering as a helper at an after-school program.  Senior citizens often can use a hand learning things too, especially new technology.  On this Transgender Day of Remembrance, may we also hold in our memories all who have died as a result of hate, and work to see justice and fairness for all.

Giving thanks, being kind

The whole idea of stretching Thanksgiving through the entire month and doing special acts of kindness as well, seemed like such a natural pairing.  (Of course as I often say, I'd like to see this daily throughout the year).  Now about those special acts - we've certainly listed a lot, huh?  We can always add more too.  Anything that is done with love and respect, is worthy of that list.

November 18th ideas

Did you think we could really come up with this many kindness ideas?  Well today we have some more!  Make a point of finding the name of a supermarket or drugstore employee and then praise him/her through that company’s corporate office. Share this blog with friends.  Become active in a cause that is important to you.  When drivers try to merge into your lane, let them in with a wave and a smile.

Your turn

Did you think we could really come up with this many kindness ideas during November? My goodness there are so many more.  Tomorrow I will continue my list, but I was thinking that today could be your turn.  Share with us some ideas of how you can be kind to others or how someone was kind to you.  I can't wait to hear your ideas!

What would you add to our list?

Do we have more kindness ideas?  Of course we do!  Hold a door for someone.  Teach a senior how to text or some other technology they might not be familiar with.  Adopt a pet.  What ideas would you like to add?

Halfway

Well we are halfway through this month, but nowhere near the end of kindness suggestions!  Here are some more.  Volunteer to fix up an elderly couple’s home. Buy a pack of brightly colored stickers and give them to children you meet during the day. Let the person behind you in the grocery store go ahead of you in line. Invite someone new for dinner, either in your home or in a restaurant.

Lucky thirteen

Don't think of today being unlucky because it's a Monday or because it's the thirteenth.  Think instead that you are a very lucky person, sharing your kindness with others and giving particular emphasis on kindness every single day this month.  Thirteen can indeed be lucky!  As you can see, we have a lot of great ideas too with many more to come!  Oh and today is actually World Kindness Day!  Seriously.  Even more of a reason to be kind.

Here are more November ideas

Doing some kind act every single day of the month doesn't have to be a difficult task.  Call up a friend or two just to say hello.  (Note I said call, not text.  Actually connect with them)!  As you go about your day, say something nice to everyone you meet. Be pleasant and you'll notice a lot more folks being pleasant toward you!  Some specific acts?  Leave  a suggestion or two below! 

November ideas continue

Oh there are so many ways to show kindness, as you have already seen.  Please feel free to add your suggestions today (or any day) and let's continue to make this an especially kind month!  How about some Thanksgiving themed ideas too or some surrounding veterans, since today is Veteran's Day.  Donating time to a veteran's health and recovery is a great way to show your appreciation. Check with the VA hospital closest to you.

For the 10th

Here it is the tenth of the month and we have already shared a lot of ideas.  Here are some more.  Have a clean-up party in the park. Bring coworkers a special treat. Give the gift of your smile. Draw names at work/school and have people bring a small gift or treat for their secret pal. Share some of yours in the comments section below.

All month continues

We're really trying to emphasize kindness this month, by listing various random acts every day.  I think people are generally more kind toward others between Thanksgiving Day and New Year's, but why wait?  Let's do kind things every single day!  We already gave you eight days of ideas (and will continue with more tomorrow), but what can YOU add to the list? 

Random kindness all month

Treat someone to fresh fruit Sing at a nursing home. Leave an extra-large tip for the waitperson. Tell a bus or taxi driver how much you appreciate their driving. .

And on the seventh

As our month of kindness continues, we share these ideas.  Tell your parents/children why you love them. Give blood. Give coffee to people on their way to work in the morning. Leave a treat or handmade note of thanks for a delivery person or mail carrier.

Kindness on the sixth

Volunteer to be a tutor in a school. Remember the bereaved with phone calls, cards, plants, and food. Give a bag of groceries to a homeless person. Volunteer to read to kids in the library. Donate time at a senior center. Give a pair of tickets to a concert or baseball game to a stranger. Send a gift anonymously to a friend. Pay for the person behind you in the movie line.

Family ideas

Today is my sister's birthday and she is always doing kind things!  As we continue with a month full of special kindness, I was thinking that we certainly shouldn't ignore our families.  When you are under the same roof, or even in the same community, it's a lot easier, but you can regularly do kind things for family members, even when you are far away.  Frequent text messages, emails, or phone calls help let folks know you care.  My sister bakes a lot, and she always makes something extra for me.  If she isn't going to see me right away, she'll freeze it and then give it to me when we next get together.  What ideas would you like to share?

It's never-ending

Like I said, the list of random acts of kindness is never-ending.  Here are more:  Pay for the meal of the person behind you in the drive-through. Smile. Bring flowers to work and share them with coworkers. As you go about your day, pick up trash. Pay a compliment at least once a day.  Buy some bottles of water and randomly hand them out to strangers on the street. Drop off a plant or a plate of cookies to your nearby police or fire station.

Third day of November suggestions

Start a fundraiser for someone in need and surprise them with money (which you could also present in the form of gift cards or groceries).  Go and sing at a nursing home.  Have a clean-up party in the park. Volunteer your time at an organization with special meaning for you.  Please add to these in the comments section below!

The November list of kindness

Starting a list yesterday, I said there was much more we could include.  Do you have some ideas to add to these?  Make telephone calls in support of equality urging others to put aside hate. Let the person behind you in the grocery store go ahead of you in line.  Leave an extra-large tip for the waitperson. Open the door for other people.   Bring coworkers a special treat.

Listing kind things

The month of Thanksgiving can also me the month of kind acts.  Some ideas: Call or visit a homebound person, especially on the holiday when they may feel even more lonely.  Give toys to the children at a shelter. Say nice things randomly to social media friends. Transport someone who can’t drive. Give a bag of groceries to a homeless person. Tell a bus or taxi driver how much you appreciate their driving.  Can you add to this list?  There are lots of things we can do!

Reverse trick-or-treating

Reverse trick-or-treating is just one of many kind things you can do to celebrate Halloween.  Put on your costumes but instead of going door to door asking for treats, go to specific places (like social clubs or senior centers) and GIVE your treats away!  You might also go to police or fire stations or maybe to hospitals (be sure to ask first though if dealing with patients.  Take treats and donate them to a food bank or shelter too.  All kinds of things you can do for others today.  Have fun!

Spirit Day

Spirit Day (no, not like the spirits we'll be thinking about on Halloween) is an annual LGBTQ awareness day observed on the third Thursday in October that was started a few years ago by Canadian teenager.  It's a time to publicly take a stand against bullying.  Of course I think it is important everyday, but on Spirit Day, Be Brave - Be Kind - Be You!

Conversation hearts

Remember those heart-shaped candies we see at Valentine's Day?  They're called Sweethearts or conversation hearts.  Now I know we still have five months to go before they are due, but I was just thinking of a new type, one we could use all year.  Instead of "be mine," they might say "be kind."  Sweethearts are made by the New England Confectionery Company (Necco), and we're not trying to steal their thunder, but spreading kindness is always good.

be aware of mental health

World Mental Health Day is a good time to remind ourselves that mental illness is no less important that physical illness.  Be aware of the changes others may be going through.  You can make a difference!  Be supportive.  Be kind.  Be compassionate. Be caring.

Ending violence and hate

In a world where this are increasing incidents of violence and hate, it is more important than ever to spread love and kindness.  The horrible incidents over this past weekend have left so many dead and wounded, not to mention the emotional scars.  We should all vow to work for a permanent end to hate and hostility, as we hold in our thoughts and prayers, all affected by the tragic attacks.

Beginning another week

As we begin this second week of October, may it be a kinder and happier we than last, and may we all show more love toward one another.  We can all do great things.  We can all make a positive difference.  Let's spread joy and make the world a better place.

Watch out for the candy

Have you seen the Halloween candy?  It's still early in my opinion (although many store have had Christmas items out for weeks too!) but people are already filling up on sweets, especially all those bite size bars and the special pumpkin shapes and flavors.  Be kind to your friends and don't give them too much, especially if weight or diabetes is an issue.  Be kind to yourself too.  Maybe instead of candy we can start giving out something healthy like fruit or even exercise guidelines.

The importance of WE

In the past few days I have heard so many people say the Las Vegas massacre happened because of this or that - lots of finger pointing all around.  The same sort of thing seems to happen with every tragedy.  "He made it happen.  It's his fault.  If he really cared, he'd do something about it."  After a few days or weeks, there is little thought of the tragedy, and that is where the problem is.  We need to keep on caring.  Together we can change attitudes and behavior and work to prevent horrors.  No one human being is responsible for all of our problems, and no one person can solve it all.  We need each other.  We should all think of "we" instead of "me."  Let's begin by simply being kind to each other.

Never give up

When we see massive deaths from natural disasters and from horrific attacks, of course we get frustrated.  When some beloved celebrities die at the same time, it's even more difficult to deal with.  We are sad and we are angry and we have so many emotions.  We must hope though for a better time ahead.  Let's all show kindness toward others who are dealing with the same difficulties, and above all, let's never give up.  We have the power to bring about change.

Still like what you see?

Last October I wrote here "If you like what you see here, share this with a friend.  Make it a habit of coming to http://ofbeingkind.blogspot.com/ every morning.  Oh and do share your own stories of kindness too!  We really would love to hear from you!"

October is

October is the tenth month of the year but was the eighth month in the old Roman calendar (January and February were inserted later).  That's why it's name means eight in Latin.   October is the month of pumpkins, witches, and candy, even though the celebration of Halloween is actually only a single day - the last day of the month.  October is also All American Breakfast Month, so begin your day with a healthy breakfast.  Oh and October is also a time when we can be more kind to those around us, but actually, that's EVERY month!

Second year

Today I begin my second year of writing these brief daily thoughts about kindness.  Encourage me by sharing your thoughts in the comments and by sharing this blog with others.  Hopefully with me focusing on kindness, I will become a kinder person.  One can only hope!

Fires, storms, and earthquakes

So any natural disasters lately and so much destruction as a result.  It's hard to see the homes that have been lost due to fires, hurricanes, and earthquakes and all of the people who are struggling through this loss, often mourning the death of friends or family at the same time.  The thing that warms my heart and gives me great home, is seeing all the people who spring into action to help in whatever way they can.  I am seeing so much love, compassion, and kindness, and that is indeed encouraging!

Hand in Hand kindness

Such a great example of kindness was the telethon last night for hurricane relief.  The Hand in Hand event raised $76,378 so far and donations are still being accepted.  (Text “GIVE” to 80077 to donate $25 or go to https://handinhand2017.com/ to donate online).  THIS is kindness!

Prayers on 9/11

"Tonight, I ask for your prayers for all those who grieve, for the children whose worlds have been shattered, for all whose sense of safety and security has been threatened. And I pray they will be comforted by a power greater than any of us." -President George W. Bush September 11, 2001

When our brothers are in trouble

The aftermath of Hurricane Harvey and the approach of Hurricane Irma and the wildfires, and all of the natural disasters, it is heartwarming to see people come together.  Human kindness and compassion should always be a part of who we are.  When our brothers and sisters are in trouble, so are we.  Let's always help of neighbors.

School days

It would be right about this time of year, that I would be going back to school (way back when I was that age).  These days most schools return in late July or early August.  Summer break was fun.  People went on trips.  I was usually at a summer camp, at least for a time when school was out.  The first few days back at school were dreadful, except for a few exceptional years.  I had some very kind teachers whom I will always remember.  They taught us how to interact with others and how to always be nice in everything we do.  Going to school those years was a joy!

Such an outpouring

Kindness comes in so many colors and in the past few days I have seen more that usual, with so much directed toward me.  There has been such an outpouring of love and caring that I am truly overwhelmed.  I received birthday greetings from a few folks I seldom see or hear from, there was a card from the management company that owns the property where I live, relatives and friends sent well-wishes, and I even had some kind thoughts from a waiter when he found out it was my birthday.  Wonderful it was and I am so grateful.  It is my wish that everyone be able to experience that kind of love and kindness!

C E L E B R A T E

It's my birthday, but as much as I love a good party, I have never really liked to focus on myself, not even for a day.  I write a blog called "It's NOT about me," focusing on those heroes who make a difference in the world.  Even today isn't really about me.  My mom and dad, with the help of God, were the ones who made it all happen.  Every years as I celebrate, I think first of my parents, especially Mom, and all they gave me.  They were such kind and loving people.  That is something to celebrate!

It's super, man!

Look, Up in the Sky!  No, it's not Superman.  Yesterday though it was an eclipse, and that was pretty super, man!  I was noticing too how it brought us all together - amazing! We were united.  We were all looking in the same direction.  I didn't hear any arguing at all.  It was really quite wonderful.  The eclipse may have united the country for a few hours, but it also proved that we can be united.  So what else can bring us together?  Kindness.  Really.  I think if we all tried to be more kind, the whole country could really rally around that!

The sleeping giant

With all the problems in the world, the past few days have also been quite wonderful.  As we hear more and more about hate groups, I'm also seeing people stand up and show great energy and determination in fighting hatred.  There are times when you think that nobody cares, but this week it is as if a sleeping giant has just woken up.  I'm seeing so many rise up with love and kindness and take a stand against hate.  Yes, it's about time, but it's so wonderful!

August 11th

What does Friday, August 11th mean to you?  Hey!  That's easy - it's another day to show kindness to one another!  (Oh I never get tired of this).  Also, for anyone keeping score, it's 17 days until my birthday!

lazy day

National Lazy Day?  Really?  I can't believe there would be such an observance, but that's what it says on the calendar!  Seriously.  Now I don't mean to be unkind, but aren't there already enough lazy folks out there?  How about if we turn it around.  Let's do more today, instead of less - especially when looking at of being kind.  Let's all be more kind today than ever!

brand new week

It's a brand new week filled with brand new opportunities. May your week be filled with good thoughts, kind people, and happy moments!

favorite month

August has always been my favorite month.  Part of that might be because my birthday comes late in August.  Maybe because where I have lived most of my life, it's the loveliest time of the year.  Over the years though I have grown to like pretty much anytime, even grey and dull February.  I suppose my favorite month has become whatever month we are in!

ten months ago

Ten months ago I began writing these daily thoughts about kindness and I am so glad I did.  What a nice exercise this is for me each morning, and thinking about kindness and writing about it, just might make me more kind myself!

Presence

Another celebrity took their own life yesterday.  We hear about the famous people, but not the stranger across town who commits suicide.  It happens every day and it is sad no matter who it is.  The answers are complicated, but one thing I have seen in the past 24 hours is people saying "I am here if you need me.  Please reach out."  The presence of people who care - people who will listen, can make a huge difference.  As I said, the answers can be complicated but a good place to start is the kind and caring folks who reach out.  I'm so grateful there are people like this in the world!

Thankful for the givers

Today is the 30th AIDS Walk San Francisco, a 10k fundraising walk to fight the epidemic.  While HIV/AIDS is still touching millions of people, the kindness of so many cannot be ignored, and I am thinking of all who have sponsored me over the years in this walk and of all the other walkers and all the people making a difference.  So many giving people, and I am thankful.

Grateful fo have known him

Sometimes the minute you meet someone, you realize they are special and they are going to make a difference in your life.  Years ago I met such a person, who was always a kind and gentle soul.  Yesterday he passed away.  I'll certainly miss his quiet loving nature, but I am grateful to have known him.

Holiday confusion

It seems that whenever there is a holiday in the week, I get confused about what day it is.  I'm sure I'm not the only one.  Already this morning I read something referring to today as Monday when in fact it's Wednesday.  Oh my!  All the more reason we need kindness in our world.  When I make that error, please don't yell or call me a fool.  Gently correct my mistake and realize that I am probably not alone.

Thoughts of the Fourth

My favorite day of the year is Independence Day.  I actually can relate to the Declaration of Independence and the birth of our country - growing up in Upstate New York, I had a chance to visit a lot of the historic sites.  I also happen to love patriotic music and fireworks.  Nearly every year I go out to see some of the pyrotechnics (or watch it on tv) and spend much of every Fourth of July thinking of the wonderful potential our country has.

Sunday Kindness

On Sundays folks are generally out of school and more often than other days, are also off from work.  That would seem to me like more opportunities for doing kind things.  As this Sunday unfolds, just how many people will smile at your kindness?

Thirty one days

I love it every time a new month begins!  July first doesn't mean that summer is half over - it means another new beginning is here, and it means we have another thirty-one days during which we can share love and kindness with all the other humans on this planet.  Wow!  Such a beautiful thing:  more time!

Kindness never dies

June 28 will always be a special day to me.  My dear friend was born 44 years ago on this date.  He was one of the most thoughtful and kindest people I ever met.  Even though he passed away two years ago, the love and the kindness live on in my memory.  Kindness never dies.

And love is love is love is love is love

On this day when many lgbtq Pride Parades and Celebrations take place at various cities around the globe, we still have so much work to do to make this a kinder world.  But I'm encouraged when I think of the words spoken by Lin-Manuel Miranda in June of last year when he was awarded a Tony Award:  "This show is proof that history remembers. We live through times when hate and fear seem stronger. We rise and fall and light from dying embers, remembrances that hope and love last longer. And love is love is love is love is love is love is love, and love cannot be killed or swept aside. I sing Vanessa's symphony, Eliza tells her story, now fill the world with music, love, and pride."

June 23rd

What can I say on this June 23rd that I haven't said before?  Well, it doesn't have to be new, right?  Be kind!  That's always the message!

Like stepping on to the surface of the sun

It's 99° where I live, and it's only 7am.  I keep hearing about other really hot cities.  In Phoenix I'm told it was 122° yesterday!  I told someone that is like stepping on to the surface of the sun!  On hot days like these, kindness is more and more important.  People are not comfortable, so help them with a pleasant attitude.  Stay hydrated.  You might want to carry an extra bottle or two of water to share with others.  Don't forget the animals too.  They won't be liking this heat either!

No hate

On June 12, 2016, a man pulled out a gun and killed 49 people and wounded 58 others in a hate crime inside Pulse, a gay nightclub in Orlando, Florida. It was the deadliest act of violence against LGBT people in US history. It was not the last. LGBT people face hate and violence every day. In some parts of the world, it is even worse. We must remember the massacre in Orlando, but we must also insure that these incidents don't keep repeating. We need to turn to kindness and love and we need to end the hate.

Equality for Unity and Pride

The late San Francisco Supervisor said "It takes no compromise to give people their rights. . .it takes no money to respect the individual.  It takes no political deal to give people freedom.  It takes no survey to remove repression."  During today's Equality March for Unity and Pride, I'll be thinking about Harvey's words.  Someday I hope true equality is a reality.

Sound familiar?

I really like these words of Ralph Waldo Emerson: "You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late." I'm also inspired by this that he said: "Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail."  Do these words of inspiration sound at all familiar?  I wrote all of the above once before in this space, exactly one year ago!

Kumbaya and Imagine?

Just a couple of weeks ago, concert-goers were killed and others wounded, and last night another night of terror in England with more deaths and many injuries.  When will this end?  I'm not saying we can wave a magic wand or that we should all sing Kumbaya and Imagine and all will be well, but surely we can return love and kindness to this world and get rid of all the hate.  I really believe that.  Let's work on it.

President Obama's lgbt messages

During his inaugural address January 21, 2013, President Barack Obama said "Our journey is not complete until our gay brothers and sisters are treated like anyone else under the law for if we are truly created equal, then surely the love we commit to one another must be equal as well."  I should also point out that during all eight years in office, President Obama issued proclamations naming June as LGBT Pride Month.

what you can do for your country

May 29, 2017 is Memorial Day, a federal holiday here in the United States on which we remember the women and men who died while serving in our country's armed forces, and it is also the 100th anniversary of the birth of John Fitzgerald Kennedy. How appropriate that the two should fall on the same day. When I think of service to our country, I can't help think of Kennedy's stirring words "Ask not what your country can do for you — ask what you can do for your country."

If we ALL try

Fighting just about every day somewhere in this world, and so much loss of life this week, including a bomb set off at a Manchester concert killing 22 people including many youngsters and an attack on Coptic Christians early this morning in Egypt has killed at least 23.  Why?  Has our world become evil?  Have love and kindness disappeared?  I hope not!  I really think if we try, we can make this a better world.  I really think if we try - if we ALL try, we can spread good instead of evil.

Danger at a concert

So much hate and so much negativity seems to be all around.  For as simple a thing as attending an Ariana Grande concert to be considered dangerous - to be risking your life, is very hard for me to even comprehend.  Where did the love go?  Have we stopped caring about others?  Have we forgotten how to be kind and caring?  Please tell me I am wrong.  Please tell me that the world is going to return to a safe and loving place.

you have to give them hope

"The only thing they have to look forward to is hope. And you have to give them hope. Hope for a better world, hope for a better tomorrow, hope for a better place to come to if the pressures at home are too great. Hope that all will be all right. Without hope, not only gays, but the blacks, the seniors, the handicapped, the us'es, the us'es will give up." -Harvey Milk, 1978

21st

It's May 21st - reason to be kind.  It's Sunday - reason to be kind.  It's the beginning of a brand new week - reason to be kind.  Every hour, every day, every single moment of our life is another reason to be kind!

Life is worth living

With several celebrity suicides in the news recently I was thinking about the importance of suicide prevention, and also kindness toward the vulnerable and to those who survive.  I was just reading about a Utah woman, who after losing her husband to suicide,  has been surviving his death through the kindness that has been shown to her family.  Kindness makes a difference.  The word needs to be spread that life is worth living and that things can be better, especially when others care about you.

Ending Homophobia and Transphobia

This International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia, which is held on May 17 every year, is a day I wish weren't necessary, but as long as there is hate and prejudice and inequality, today, and other days like this must continue so that folks can get together and reach out to one another, and with kindness and love put an end once and for all to homophobia and transphobia.

The quick and the dead

I have a friend who reminds folks at every Mother's Day to remember their moms, be she among the quick or the dead.  Indeed.  Think too about those friends of yours who have lost a parent during the previous few years, and be there for them.  The first few Mother's Days can be tough when mom isn't around anymore.

Another be good to mommy day

Personally I'd rather show my mom that I love her every day! On the old Captain Kangaroo tv show, they used to sing a song called "It's another be good to mommy day."  I agree!   I don't need a special holiday to appreciate my mom!  The same is true with grandmothers, aunts, and even folks who are like a mother to you. 

Lots of sweetness

Too much Candy Crush for me lately!  Really.  I seem to have become sweeter than ever.  I know I shouldn't be patting myself on the back, but I just seem so incredibly happy, and each day is happier!  (I wonder what will happen when Candy Crush becomes a tv show with Mario Lopez.  Everybody will have the sweetness then)!

With the Mayor

I was at a morning gathering yesterday, with the Mayor of the small town where I am currently living.  Sometimes political events can be difficult.  This one was the opposite.  Everyone was kind and courteous to the others and our conversation was always positive.  Perhaps we should have made a diagram for others to follow!

Special appreciation days

Mother's Day is coming this month and Father's Day next month.  Have you ever thought about Creating extra holidays to celebrate your parents?  You could include grandparents too, along with aunts and uncles and maybe even close friends.  Do a "Nana Appreciation Day" or a "My dad is special Day." It can be as simple as declaring the date of your special holiday and perhaps creating a nice sign or writing a note of thanks.  You can enlist other family members to join you.  Design some "coupons" to give our for an extra special hug or unlimited kisses.  Get creative and truly make someone's day.

The Puppy Episode

It was twenty years ago today that "The Puppy Episode" of Ellen aired on abc-tv.  It's amazing how much better things have gotten, and it was nice on Friday seeing the kindness shown to Ellen DeGeneres, who not only came out on that program, but also in real life on Oprah Winfrey's talk show.  It is sad though that DeGeneres and episode guest star Laura Dern both faced career backlash for this sitcom moment.  It changed lives though and some say it saved lives.  Still a ways to go.

An exercise for kindness

On Sunday I was thinking about those food drives and saying the should be done all the time (some places actually do) and on Monday I was thinking of all those many random acts of kindness.  Writing this each morning helps me start my day by specifically thinking about being kind.  It seems and exercise in kindness can also be an exercise for kindness.  You can help too by sharing other ideas about how to be kind!

Thinking of Saint Mark

Some churches celebrate the Feast of Saint Mark the Evangelist. Whenever I think of Saint Mark, I think of a church in Berkeley, CA named for him.  Some of the kindest people I have ever met are there and there is so much love and joy.  I suppose that should be common in churches, but it doesn't seem to be.  Perhaps they are paying good attention to their patron and the One he followed.

All the time

Remember back around Thanksgiving when folks were collecting canned goods or just after that when toy drives were in full swing and collections for warm clothing?  Why don't we do that ALL the time?  There are people in need at any time of the year, not just for a month or two at year's end.  Think about putting aside a couple of food items every single week and donating them to a food bank, church, or other organization that is helping those in need.  Some places will also accept toys and clothing as well.

For the future

The earth has been here a long time and it will be around for a long time to come, BUT will it be able to sustain life?  Will plants and flowers grow and fish swim in the water and birds fly through the air?  Will cows and chickens, dogs and cats, all manner of life, including humans, still roam the planet?  Environmental protection is important for the future.  They earth will be here, but will it be bare?  Thanks up to us!

Elderly best man

Would you want your 90-year-old grandfather to be your best man at your wedding?  Well, a 27-year-old Indiana man did last week!  Pretty cool, huh?  That's a pretty kind act on the part of both of them!  What a great example of love too.

Suicide is not to be cheered

Two days after a murder that the killer recorded on video and posted to Facebook, the killer apparently took his own life. When Whoppi Goldberg made the announcement during her tv program yesterday, the audience applauded, until Whoppi held up her hands and asked for quiet. Last night convicted murderer Aaron Hernandez apparently committed suicide as well and the internet is lit up with comments of happiness at this and even jokes. I don't understand. I seriously don't. Suicide is not to be cheered.  Has all kindness disappeared. ALL life is precious, even the lives of those who do wrong.

Easter over? Nope

We all know there are folks who try to rush Christmas every year, and the same thing is true about Easter.  Just so you know, Easter lasts four times longer!  Yup.  Fifty days!  Don't celebrate Easter?  Nope a problem, but allow those who do, the joy of this annual remembrance of the resurrection of Jesus.

Easter reminder

Christian evangelist Joslin McDowell tells us "No matter how devastating our struggles, disappointments, and troubles are, they are only temporary. No matter what happens to you, no matter the depth of tragedy or pain you face, no matter how death stalks you and your loved ones, the Resurrection promises you a future of immeasurable good."  A good reminder at Eastertime.

Blessed are you

"Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled. Blessed are the merciful, for they will receive mercy. Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God. Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God. Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness' sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are you when people revile you and persecute you and utter all kinds of evil against you falsely on my account. Rejoice and be glad, for your reward is great in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you." -Gospel According to Saint Matthew

chocolate eggs and bunnies

Easter is coming!  When I was little that meant chocolate eggs and bunnies.  Jelly beans too!  Oh I loved the malted milk eggs!  I might not have been very kind back then, because I don't recall sharing very much.  I will share now though.  Just wait until Sunday.

Happy Passover wishes

At sundown tonight, the celebration of Passover begins for our Jewish sisters and brothers.  Wonderful food and customs - explore this tradition, whatever faith you may come from.  I find it quite inspiring.  Chag Pesach Sameach!

Be kind to everyone day

The second Saturday in April is Be Kind To Everyone Day.  Actually, you won't find that on any lists or calendars, but don't you think it should be?  Come to think of it, we could celebrate that every day of the year!

The capacity to forgive

Thinking of Martin Luther King, Jr. on the anniversary of his murder, these words of his come to mind: "We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies."

3rd

What's the third way to be kind or they way to be kind to people on the 3rd?  Oh my!  I have said this so many times and it will always be true.  There are endless ways to show kindness and it isn't specific to the day or the hour.  Let's just always care about others!

Surprise dessert

When I'm in a restaurant, I seldom order dessert, especially when I am eating alone, but I recall one time when the waiter approached my table with a beautiful looking orange kanten, telling me the table across the room had sent it.  I glanced over and realized that the couple seated there were people I knew.  How lovely though - a nice surprise dessert!  What a kind thing to do,

who's the fool now?

I remember when All Fool's Day was a time of clever jokes.  We would try to be creative and to actually fool everyone.  These days there are just too many mean-spirited pranks.  In my opinion, that's not fun.  That's a terrible thing to do.  Scaring someone out of their wits isn't very kind or funny.  I think the real fool now is the one who plays evil jokes.

Is is really spring?

Funny how the weather varies from place to place.  Where I grew up there might be snow on the ground this time of year, even though it is officially spring.  In some places it's even hot.  Yes, it's really spring, even if it doesn't seem like it where you are.  Why not pick up a nice bouquet of flowers to put you in the spirit?  Wait!  How about picking up two bouquets and giving one to a friend?

thanks Mom

When Mom passed away on March 25th in 2013, I was a basket case. Seeing a loved one die is a difficult thing. Since then though, while I still miss her a lot, I have become stronger. Everything I am is because of her. She was one of the kindest people I ever have known and also one of the most loving. Mom also left me a note to read after she was gone. In it she said I had been the best son a mother could have, and she wished me a good life. "We'll be together again someday" was how she closed. Thanks Mom, for everything.

ideas are endless

More kindness ideas:  Buy extra at the grocery store and donate it to a food pantry,  Buy flowers for someone (postal worker, grocery store clerk, bus driver, etc.).  Bring coffee to a co-worker.  Help someone change a flat tire.  Post anonymous sticky notes with validating or uplifting messages around for people to find.  Compliment a work colleague on their work.  Send an encouraging text to someone.  Let a car into the traffic ahead of you. 

sharing chocolate

Sharing chocolate is pretty darn kind, don't you think? Actually sharing anything is kind. Right now, I could go for some of that chocolate though - maybe a nice cup of hot chocolate - the kind I used to drink at Christopher Elbow's shop! Yum! I'll share. I promise.

blessings of the day

One Saint Patrick's Day (probably long ago) I was blessed with these words: "May you have the hindsight to know where you’ve been, the foresight to know where you are going, and the insight to know when you have gone too far. Have a long life and a merry one, a quick death and an easy one, a pretty girl and an honest one, and a cold pint and another one!"

Sharing stories

I love hearing stories of kindness.  Sometimes on the local news we hear of a neighborhood hero or maybe on Ellen's show or in a facebook post.  The kind acts that people do always warm my heart and getting all the details is such an extra bonus.  Sharing stories can be done here too - just add them in the comments below!

such an outpouring

Yesterday I attended a funeral.  The church was packed - mourners were in the doorway and spilling outside.  At a luncheon and civic memorial later in the day, the crowd was even bigger.  My heart was warmed to see such an outpouring.  Many present didn't even know the man who died, but they knew he was a good man and they knew the wonderful things he had done.

walking the earth like brothers

It's been many years since Martin Luther King Jr. said “We have flown the air like birds and swum the sea like fishes, but have yet to learn the simple act of walking the earth like brothers.” When will we learn?

Women's Day

On International Women's Day, the words of Mahatma Gandhi come to mind: "Of all the evils for which man has made himself responsible, none is so degrading, so shocking or so brutal as his abuse of the better half of humanity; the female sex."

The inspiring Michael Jordan

Ask Michael Jordan why he succeeds. His response is truly inspiring! "I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed."

kind acts

I've listed various acts of kindness here before. Here are a few more: Volunteer to read to kids in the library. Donate time at a senior center. Give a pair of tickets to a concert or baseball game to a stranger. Send a gift anonymously to a friend. Pay for the person behind you in the movie line. Tell your parents/children why you love them. Give blood. Pay for the meal of the person behind you in the drive-through. Bring flowers to work and share them with coworkers. Can you think of more?

Mom's command

My mother always said March 4th is a command (march forth). Of course I think of Mom more often than this day, but when the calendar turns to this page, I think of Mom's command with a smile. May all the world march forth on March fourth and do kind things for each other!

ethics

Did you know that March is National Ethics Awareness Month?  It's true.  It seems to be that being ethical is also being kind.  Would you agree?

Another beginning

Oh how I love new beginnings.  It's always nice to have a fresh start.  It's especially nice when there are more opportunities to do good and kind things for other people.  Let's march forward into March, enjoying another beginning, and make this month the kindest one ever!

The Date

It's almost the end of the second month of the year.  Why do I still keep writing last year's date?  Be kind.  I can't possibly be the only one, right?  Let us all forgive each other's flaws.

Sharing the sweetness

Ten days ago was Valentine's Day.  The next day a LOT of candy was being sold at reduced prices.  There's also candy out right now for Easter and general occasions.  If you can afford it, consider buying up lots of candy, especially when it's on sale, and just randomly surprising people.  Sharing the sweetness is such a kind act.

Month that is least kind

Someone might suggest that February is the month with the least kindness because it has the least days.  Nope.  I disagree.  No month should have less kindness.  In fact I'm hoping you will all help me be kinder each day!

kindest day of the week

It's Sunday - a day when more people involve themselves in recreation and fun things, than any other day of the week.  Maybe we can also make it the kindest day, huh?  I'm sure that can be arranged!

he was a stranger

During yesterday afternoon's rain, I saw a man running beside a motorized scooter, holding an umbrella over the elderly lady seated in it. She was being shielded from the downpour, but he was getting quite wet. I overheard some employees in the store talking about him a few minutes later. I had assumed he was her son, or even grandson, but it turns out he didn't even know her. He just saw her out in the elements, and didn't want her to get soaked. How perfect that it happened on Random Acts of Kindness Day too!

Today's the day!

This is Random Acts of Kindness Week and today is Random Acts of Kindness Day.  Around here of course, we think that EVERY day should be filled with kindness, but since that idea isn't universal yet, we can begin with just one day.  Go out and spread that kindness!

love is in the air

It doesn't matter to me if the jewelers, florists, chocolatiers, and card companies all conspire for Valentine's Day. I just like the idea of celebrating love! A bit more often would be nice though. How great it would be to discover that love is in the air every single day of our lives!

hug a short person

The 13th of February is National Hug A Short Person Day! Seriously. I'm not sure who comes up with these, but this is one I really like. Of course I'd like to extend it to hugging everyone. Oh and I'd actually not want to limit myself to just today. How about every day? The world can always use more hugging!  By the way, is hugging someone a random act of kindness?

a whole week's worth

Kindness - is there every enough? For the next seven days, I'm joined by many in an effort to at least raise awareness. This is the start of Random Acts of Kindness Week! I'm always interested in the new ideas too. There really are so many ways to be kind. Off I go to put smile on faces and to spread kindness wherever I go!

Anywhere she wants to be

That old saying "a woman's place is in the home," is ridiculous to me. Last year I heard a woman critical of Hillary Clinton, say "We have no business thinking we are leaders. That's men's work." Nonsense. Just ahead of International Women's Day, I'm thinking of all the inspiring women in the world and am grateful for their leadership. A woman's place is anywhere she wants to be!

Acts of kindness

Every now and then I have listed things we can all do to show kindness toward others. Here are some more: Volunteer to be a tutor in a school. Buy a pack of brightly colored stickers and give them to children you meet during the day. Let the person behind you in the grocery store go ahead of you in line. Invite someone new for dinner, either in your home or in a restaurant. Give toys to the children at a shelter. Say nice things randomly to facebook and twitter friends. Buy some bottles of water and randomly hand them out to strangers on the street. Drop off a plant or a plate of cookies to your nearby police or fire station. Please add your own ideas below!

we respect all people

“In New York, whether you are gay, straight or transgender, Muslim, Jewish or Christian, rich or poor, black or white or brown, we respect all people – and we will continue to enforce our laws and stand united against those who seek to drive us apart.” New York Governor Andrew M. Cuomo said these words yesterday. Not just the kind thing, but the right thing. This should be true everywhere!

If Candlemas brings clouds and rain

The February 2nd tradition of deciding how much longer winter will last goes way back. An old English poem says "If Candlemas be fair and bright, winter has another flight. If Candlemas brings clouds and rain, winter will not come again." Back in the 18th and 19th centuries in central Pennsylvania, we began looking to a groundhog for predictions. Although he isn't the only one, Punxsutawney Phil became the most famous. All I have to ask is "Mr Groundhog, be kind to us. Let spring come early!"

the month of love

Some folks refer to February as the month of love because of Valentine's Day. I say that love should never be confined. Love is today and it was also yesterday, and will be tomorrow. Instead of the month of love, it should be the year of love, or even better, the lifetime of love!  We do have Random Acts of Kindness Week later on in February, and you KNOW I'm happy about that!

cock-a-doodle-do

If you are paying attention to the Lunar Calendar, here comes the Year of the Rooster! Cock-a-doodle-do! May kindness prevail in the year ahead and may we all be wealthy in terms of our happiness and the joy and happiness that we share with others.

above all put on love

Saint Paul had a thing or two to say about kindness and compassion. This from the third chapter of his letter to the Colossians: "Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony."

Women's marches around the world

With kind remarks from strangers and with smiles and words of encouragement, millions and millions of people gathered for women's marches in Washington, DC and all around the world. The was a march in little Pacifica, CA and London, Paris, Las Vegas, Park City, Miami, San Francisco and scores of other cities. I'm told there was at least one march in all fifty states as well as the numerous foreign ones, and that all of them were upbeat. Change comes about when people work together for the good, and it sounds to me like yesterday was a marvelous example!

We're still the boss

There's a lot of worry surrounding yesterday's activities in Washington, DC but it is important to remember that we are the same people with the same potential. We didn't just crown a king. We're not bowing down to a dictator. What actually happened yesterday is our new employee started his temporary job. We are still the boss. We can still make change. We can!

to bind up the nation's wounds

"With malice toward none, with charity for all, with firmness in the right as God gives us to see the right, let us strive on to finish the work we are in, to bind up the nation's wounds, to care for him who shall have borne the battle and for his widow and his orphan, to do all which may achieve and cherish a just and lasting peace among ourselves and with all nations." -President Abraham Lincoln, March 1865

Thank you Mister President

Thinking of Barack Obama as he begins his last full day as President of the United States, perhaps the greatest President of all time. What a kind and caring man he is and with his wife, Michelle, and daughters, Malia and Sasha he has been such a comforting presence at the White House these past eight years. I know he will be missed.  Thank you Mister President.

Wise words from our President

"We, the People, recognize that we have responsibilities as well as rights; that our destinies are bound together; that a freedom which only asks what's in it for me, a freedom without a commitment to others, a freedom without love or charity or duty or patriotism, is unworthy of our founding ideals, and those who died in their defense."   -President Barack Obama

I still have a dream

"I say to you today, my friends, though, even though we face the difficulties of today and tomorrow, I still have a dream. It is a dream deeply rooted in the American dream. I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up, live out the true meaning of its creed: 'We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal'." -Martin Luther King Jr. (from his I Have a Dream" speech delivered during the March on Washington on August 28, 1963)

Yes, we can

"But for now, whether you are young or whether you're young at heart, I do have one final ask of you as your President - the same thing I asked when you took a chance on me eight years ago. I'm asking you to believe. Not in my ability to bring about change - but in yours. I am asking you to hold fast to that faith written into our founding documents; that idea whispered by slaves and abolitionists; that spirit sung by immigrants and homesteaders and those who marched for justice; that creed reaffirmed by those who planted flags from foreign battlefields to the surface of the moon; a creed at the core of every American whose story is not yet written: Yes, we can."  -President Barack Obama in his farewell address last night in Chicago

resolutions

It's a common practice for people to change undesired traits or behaviors and to resolve to continue good practices and perhaps accomplish certain goals or otherwise improve their life at the start of a brand new year. In 2017, I wonder how many are making any sort of resolution. Did you? Have you had success with resolutions in the past? I always resolve to try to be more kind and to encourage the kindness of others. Good luck with whatever you decide and happy New Year to you all!

Rainy Days and Mondays

Forty six years ago, Karen Carpenter was singing "What I've got they used to call the blues. Nothin' is really wrong, Feelin' like I don't belong." Ever had a day like that yourself? That popular song Rainy Days and Mondays could easily describe today, except for one thing: Nothing needs to get us down. Nothing. It's raining where I live, and it is indeed Monday, but I refuse to be depressed about anything. There are bright corners everywhere. Just look for them.

Anything is possible

"If your family doesn’t have much money, I want you to remember that in this country, plenty of folks, including me and my husband, we started out with very little," said First Lady Michelle Obama in her farewell speech yesterday. "Though with a lot of hard work and a good education, anything is possible, even becoming President. That’s what the American dream is all about." Mrs Obama also said that being First Lady "has been the greatest honor of my life." It was a very kind, encouraging, and emotional speech.

no room for any kind of prejudice

"There’s no space, there's no room for any kind of prejudice in 2017 and moving on," Pharrell Williams said yesterday on The Ellen DeGeneres Show. Speaking about anti-gay remarks that another performer had made, Williams added "We all have to get used to everyone's differences and understand that this is a big, gigantic, beautiful, colorful world, and it only works with inclusion and empathy. It only works that way."

Watched it die

Be honest. How many of you stayed up late on Saturday, just so you could watch 2016 die. It wasn't exactly the kindest of years. But, although its effects will linger on, we have a brand new year with us now, and on this second day, let's think for a moment of all the kind things we can do to make this a great year. Let's begin by being good to ourselves and those immediately around us, and then, let's head out and show the whole world the ways of love and peace.

Writing a new book

It is time to begin this 2017 book. For so many of us, 2016 was pretty tough. A lot of us are really discouraged about what may lie ahead, but today we have opened a brand new book. We can start fresh.  The book might be called opportunity or it might be called hope. We write these chapters. It's pages are blank right now. We are going to put words on them ourselves. Let's make this new book a best-seller!