You Say You Want a Resolution?

Tomorrow we start a brand-new year, and traditionally many of us will begin by making resolutions.  How about you?  What will you resolve to do?  For me it continues to be about kindness.  We can never have too much!  I'm going to try even harder in 2024.  We can make this world of ours a better place, one kind act at a time.

Has this been a kind year

How kind has 2023 been?  Was I kind enough?  Were you kind enough.  Could we have done better?  On this last weekend, I invite you to think back and reflect on kindness.  In my opinion, I can always do better, and I will continue to work on that.  Please join me.  It really makes a difference!

Beautiful lawns and gardens

The groundskeepers where I live do excellent work. The lawns are always exceptional and the flowers and trees so incredibly beautiful. Yesterday, one of the men was packing up tools at the end of the day and I complimented him on the way they had just changed the plants and the rocks surrounding the parking area. "Oh you're too kind." he said. Was that kindness? I was just speaking the truth. Maybe we should all do that a bit more often.

what's it all about

Generosity, concern, consideration, niceness, giving to others (in many cases more than they deserve). That's what kindness is all about.  It makes you feel good too!

Be one

There are so many good people out there in the world. If you're having trouble finding one, then be one!

share some

May goodness be your guide as you go about your day, and may your cup overflow with peace, love and pure awesomeness. Be sure to share some of that too!

Happy Christmas everybody!

You deserve happiness and joy whether or not you celebrate Christmas.  This is true not only today, but every single day of the year! My wish for you is lots of love and kindness today and always. Let us all continue to do our part to share and spread that kindness to everybody.

The gift of presence

It seems everyone is out holiday shopping and spending lots of money that they can't afford.  I really don't need a present.  This year, consider the gift of presence instead!

naughty or nice

Santa knows who has been naughty or nice, but who else knows?  Well I can tell you that your friends and relatives know if you are nice.  They know if you are kind.  Actually kindness is such a wonderful thing that truly kind people get a reputation for being kind.

thorn bushes have roses

Abraham Lincoln once said "We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses."   What a great way of looking at things!  I love a positive attitude, don't you? 

Not just December

Most folks love the parties, the gift-giving, and all the extra happiness that seems to show up every year at this time, but I wish we could all do a better job of spreading it out through the rest of the year.  Why should one month get all the fun?  Kindness is not only for December, but for every month and every single day!

Mothers

There are great people you meet along the way, who inspire you to do great things yourself.  Mothers so often are those great people.  My own mom certainly was.  All good things that I might do are because of the good things she inspired me to do.  I try to be kind.  I'm not perfect, but hopefully writing this daily blog helps me too.  Today would have been Mom's 97th birthday.  I'll be thinking of her a little extra today, I'm sure.  Of your kindness, think of your own mothers too!

Thoughts about kindness

If you are visiting this blog for the first time, I write some thoughts about kindness here every single day.  Sometimes I might quote someone else.  Always I try to me encouraging.  I think the world can always use more kindness.  I would be thrilled to hear from other folks too.  Are folks generally kind to you?  What can all of us do to make this a kinder world?

Tradition

There isn't a single holiday decoration up at my apartment and I haven't sent out any Christmas cards.  I do celebrate.  What am I waiting for then?  Well, I'm very traditional.  It isn't Christmas yet.  I'll be putting up a tree next week, and I will be singing carols, just not yet.  I'm very traditional when it comes to kindness too.  Oh how important it is to be nice to folks!  Oh and I mean always, not just during the holidays!

Everywhere

And kindness spread throughout the world.  What a great thought, huh?  Kindness everywhere.  It shouldn't just be a thought.  It should be reality.  We can make it happen.  There are some things that might be out of our control, but this is not one of them.  Let's pitch in and let us see kindness in every part of the world!

What an incredible gift

Making people happy, being kind to one another - this is such an incredible gift to the world.  When we make others feel good, we make ourselves feel good, but it doesn't stop there.  Those around us are inspired.  Those who hear of our kind acts and the happiness they bring, are generally inspired as well.  One little act of kindness can circle the globe and bring kindness to the entire planet.

Quote

Here's a quote for you on this Friday morning as we prepare for our weekend.  I do not know the source.   "Distance does not separate people, silence does."

feeling with the heart

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart.

so very thankful

Every single day I have things in my life that I am thankful for.  I'm thankful for the opportunity to rise and write something here.  I'm thankful for those of you reading these words.  I'm thankful if I have influenced folks in any way for the better.  Above all though I am thankful for all the blessings of this life.  How great it is to be living here in this day.

It makes me feel good

There are so many reasons for being kind.  At the top of my list:  It makes me feel good.  When people are kind to me, it makes me feel good and when I am kind to others, it makes me feel good.  It works both ways!

wonderful friendship

How wonderful is friendship! I read that the average American has sixteen friends, three of which are extremely close. How about you? I am also reminded that the best way to have friends is to be a friend. Reach out with kindness and be someone's friend.

Awareness

Part of being kind comes down to awareness I think.  We need to take a moment and think about how we are acting and how others see us.  Does our tone of voice seem friendly?  Do our actions bring joy or happiness to others?  More and more I try to be aware of everything I do and I am always grateful to hear the thoughts of others. 

Acknowledgements

Those acknowledgements in our life are important.  When someone does something special for you, thank them.  If you are a charity and you receive a donation, acknowledge it, and say thanks!  When people do exceptional things and make a difference in the world, see that they are recognized.  It is kind and it is courteous, and it just might make their day!

The Holiday Season

When we say "happy holidays," most people only think of two or three, but December has many! Last night at sundown, Hanukkah began and lasts until December 15th at nightfall. Coming up are Longest Night, Festivus, Christmas, Boxing Day, Zarathosht Diso, Kwanzaa, International Cello Day, and New Year's Eve. Oh my! Which ones do you celebrate? Of your kindness, find out about the customs of others and help make their celebrations happy!

Variety

I love December with its variety of celebrations.  Let's come up with a huge variety of ways to be kind too!

Saint Nicholas

The sixth of December is celebrated as the feast day of Saint Nicholas, and it has nothing to do with Christmas.  The legend tells of three bags of gold coins.  Whether or not it is true is really not important.  What Nicholas has come to represent is good honest giving with no expectation of anything in return.  That's what kindness is all about.  We should be kind because we want people to be kind to us.  We should do it because it is good and proper and because it makes other people feel good.  Today, think of Saint Nicholas as you do kind things and expect nothing at all in return.  You WILL get something.  You'll get a wonderful feeling!

laugh as much as I cry

Everything that came out of Maya Angelou's mouth was inspiring, or so it seemed. Ponder this statement of hers: "My great hope is to laugh as much as I cry; to get my work done and try to love somebody and have the courage to accept the love in return." I particularly like the "laugh as much as I cry" part. Human emotion.

happy Monday!

Did someone say happy Monday?  So many hate Monday.  What's happy about it?  Sorry folks, but we have this wrong.  We can find happiness every single day.  We are alive!  Happiness comes in so many different forms.  If you don't feel happy, take a few moments to make someone else happy.

From Arnold Schwarzenegger

Some encouraging words from Arnold Schwarzenegger:  "You can't reason with people blinded by hate. They hate the power of the individual. They hate the progress of women. They hate the religious freedom of others. They hate the liberating breeze of democracy. But ladies and gentlemen, their hate is no match for America's decency."

why

Why do I write this blog? The list of reasons is long, but first and foremost, I appreciate kindness and want to see more of it. Along the way there have been people who have inspired me, especially my friends Toan and Wilson. I don't think we can ever be too kind, and that's why I intend to continue writing about it.

AIDS Day

World AIDS Day, observed on December 1 each year, is a day of solidarity for people around the world who are affected by HIV, a day for voices to unite by sharing experiences, remembering those lost, and standing together in the fight against HIV. Today is an opportunity for every community and each individual to honor the more than 32 million people who have died worldwide from AIDS-related illness.  In your kindness, let us continue the fight, and never forget those whom we have lost.

thirtieth

Today is the thirtieth day of this month. Is that significant? Of course, it is! Every single day of our lives is significant. Today is the day when we share love and kindness. Yesterday was that day too of course, and tomorrow will be as well. The joys of the thirtieth of November are the joys of every single day of our lives!

Something to look forward to

Do you have things you look forward to?  Every December, as Christmas draws near, I look forward to the holiday celebrations.  My birthday was three months ago, and I always look forward to that.  One of the big things I look forward to every single day is seeing friends and neighbors, chatting with strangers, seeing smiles and acts of kindness.  I will never tire of seeing people do nice things for each other.  We can all look forward to that.

Comparison

Why compare yourself with others? No one in the entire world can do a better job of being you than you.  Remember that!

Hope and Joy

We remember two great men today, both of whom happen to have been gay. It was 45 years ago that Harvey Milk was murdered on this date. Four years ago, on this date Louie Clay passed away. Harvey is remembered for saying, "Gotta give em hope." Louie is remembered for saying, "Joy, anyway!" Hope and joy. We all need both in our lives. They are the cousins of love and kindness.

three ways to success

Television's MisterRogers always got it so right!  His words: “There are three ways to ultimate success: The first way is to be kind. The second way is to be kind. The third way is to be kind.” 

thankful for the good

So very thankful am I.  I'm thankful every single day.  Yes, we keep hearing bad news, but somehow, we seem to neglect the good news.  There is a lot of good too.  There is also a lot of kindness too.  We can always make more.  Let us keep being kind and let us keep being thankful for all the good.

It's late

There is a daily pattern for me and it includes writing this right around 7am. I then give some thought to another blog I write, eat breakfast, answer emails, and then produce that other blog. Today I found myself waking up after 7! (I probably ate too much turkey).  I am a bit behind. There is always time though to be kind. Let that kindness shine in all you do!

gratitude

I have always loved the Thanksgiving holiday.  It's not because of the turkey or pumpkin pie and it isn't because of the parades and the football.  I like the idea of gathering together in gratitude.  Most of us don't say thank you often enough and there is so much to be grateful for.  I love the great kindness associated with this day too.  Enjoy your holiday!

we have

We still have hate
We still have racism
We still have unrest
We still have wildfires
We still have political turmoil
   We also still have each other
   We still have the capacity to love
   We are still able to be KIND!

Sharing is caring

We have heard folks say "Sharing is caring" and it can really mean different things.  One kind of sharing is simply exchanging thoughts and ideas.  I try to share some thoughts every morning here for example.  I would love for you to share some thoughts and ideas too!  Right below in the comments section, say something about kindness.  We would love to hear from you!

Remembering Mrs Carter

Yesterday, Rosalynn Carter writer, activist and humanitarian and former First Lady of the United States, passed away.  She will certainly be remembered for her kindness and for her wisdom.  Mrs Carter once said. "There are only four kinds of people in this world: those who have been caregivers, those who are currently caregivers, those who will be caregivers and those who will need caregivers."  At one time or another, she was all four.  

The kindest of all

I was just trying to think of the kindest thing anyone ever did for me.  I'm fortunate to have so many kind people in my life, it may take me a while to come up with the kindest of all.  Actually that inspires me to think up more ways to be kind!

Lend an ear

Do you ever just need someone around to hear you? Sometimes, especially in times of crisis, the thing you need the most is someone to talk to. They don't have to talk back. How wonderful it is to have a person who can simply sit in silence and listen to those who need a listening ear. In times of worry or sorrow or loneliness, this is particularly true. Listening to another person is a great act of kindness.

kindness poem

This is a kindness poem we used to recite in grade school. Does anyone else remember it?

Kind hearts are the gardens,

 Kind thoughts are the roots,

 Kind words are the blossoms,

 Kind deeds are the fruits.

Be kind today

The daily message of this blog is a simple one.  It is one that I hope will lead us all to a better life.  Be kind today.  Kindness is one of the greatest gifts we can ever give.

National Drummer Day

Today is National Drummer Day, so be especially kind to drummers. By the way, do you have a favorite drummer?  Think for just a moment of all the drummers you have ever heard perform, and be glad.

teddys

Today is National American Teddy Bear Day. My apartment is filled with teddy bears. My mom, Teddy, collected them.  I know they gave her great joy and brought joy to all the people she showed them too.  Mom also gave teddys to special people in her life.  Teddy bears bring joy and kindness, so hug one today!

Especially today

Today is World Kindness Day.  I urge everyone to be kind every single day of their lives, but especially today.  We truly can make a difference.

surrounded by kindness

While I may talk about kindness all the time, I know I make my share of mistakes.  I want to be nice and pleasant and show kindness to everyone, but if I fall short, please forgive me.  I'm not perfect.  I can always use help.  I think the more kindness I am surrounded with, the easier it will be for me.  If we all are surrounded with kindness imagine how wonderful our world will be!

Grateful for their service

Many people express thanks every single time they see a military veteran. Today is the day set aside for that purpose. Just saying thanks though is only a part of it. President John F. Kennedy said it best. "As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them."

The kindness of cooking

Cooking a meal for someone is such a kind thing!  TV chef Julia Child once said "I think careful cooking is love, don't you? The loveliest thing you can cook for someone who's close to you is about as nice a valentine as you can give."

letting go of our need to be right

Author and meditation expert Sharon Salzberg once wrote "Sometimes kindness takes the form of stepping aside, letting go of our need to be right, and just being happy for someone."  Indeed.

No thanks

There seems to be a trend these days to not say thank you.  Oh my!  How unkind!  If someone does something special for you, acknowledge it.  Let them know you are grateful.  This is especially true when someone gives you a nice present or money.  Oh and if you donate to a charity, there should be a thank you too!  Money should always be acknowledged in writing too.  It's polite.  It's kind.

What have you to say

You may have guessed that I think kindness is important and I like writing this every morning and encouraging all of you.  I would also really love your feedback.  Am I missing something?  Are there ideas that should be shared?  Has this blog benefitted you?  Say something!  Use the comment section to let me know your thoughts.  Thanks.

Bring back the welcome wagon

There was a time when neighbors welcomed new neighbors.  If someone was moving in to a house of apartment close by, you dropped by with a fruit basket, some fresh bread, or maybe a nice cake.  Sometimes individuals did it and sometimes it was part of an organized official "welcome wagon."  One things is certain though - it was a very kind gesture!

pulled pork and spaghetti sauce

My sister is a good cook.  She's great making fudge, any baked goods, pulled pork, and spaghetti sauce.  She takes goodies to work for her coworkers to enjoy and she brings thing by for me too.  She is one of the kindest people I know too and today being her birthday, I just HAD to mention her.  What a great world it would be if we all had sisters like mine!

let it begin with me

We need more kindness.  I'm not talking about how you should act.  This really isn't an instruction manual.  It's so very important for these words here be directed to me.  We ALL should be kind.  Let it begin with me.

For the future

The earth has been here a long time and it will be around for a long time to come, BUT will it be able to sustain life?  Will plants and flowers grow and fish swim in the water and birds fly through the air?  Will cows and chickens, dogs and cats, all manner of life, including humans, still roam the planet?  Environmental protection is important for the future.  They earth will be here, but will it be bare?  Thanks up to us!

some kind things we can do

Open the door for another person. Leave an extra-large tip for your server.  Treat someone to fresh fruit. Tell a bus or taxi driver how much you appreciate their driving. Give coffee to people on their way to work in the morning. Leave a treat or handmade note of thanks for a delivery person or mail carrier.  Sing at a nursing home. Give another driver your parking spot.  Give a bag of groceries to a homeless person. 

make the most of every day

It is so important to make the most of every single day, and in our kindness, we should help others to also make the most of every day.

Halloween is

Radio personality Elvis Duran is very wise. He once said “Halloween is not only about putting on a costume, but it’s about finding the imagination and costume within ourselves.”

Kindness guidebook

Taking a page from our kindness guidebook, how about buying an extra meal when you go into that fast food place, and give it to the homeless person you passed outside? With so much road rage, be different. When drivers try to merge into your lane, let them in with a wave and a smile. Say something nice to every single person you encounter today. Volunteer at an organization that could use your help. The ideas are endless!

It's free

How much will they charge you to be kind?  Absolutely nothing!  It's free.  Hold that door wide open for the person approaching behind you.  Pay your coworker a compliment.  Share that smile with folks on the street.  There are so many ways to be kind to others, and it doesn't have to cost you a thing!

Think ahead

What really kind thing will you be doing for someone tomorrow or next week? Think ahead.  Plan some very special things. Be bold. Think ahead to a year from now. What will you be doing next fall? Will you be a kinder person?  Go for it!

Sad news

I just learned the sad news that someone I have worked with took his own life earlier this week. He was such a bright star and will certainly be missed. It's hard to believe that he is gone, and even harder that it was as a result of suicide. Every life is important.

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and confidential support for people in distress, prevention, and crisis resources 

for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals in the United States.

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Stop the violence

Children were playing games at a party in a bowling alley.
Locals were drinking and dining at a restaurant.
Last night seemed normal – until it was rocked by the latest horrific act of gun violence.

When will this stop?  When will people care enough to do something.

We need kindness in America.  Stop the violence NOW!

For beautiful lips

The wonderful humanitarian and actress Audrey Hepburn once said "For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone."

Building up others

Putting someone else down doesn't make you look better. Building up others will do that. When you build up someone else, you build up yourself at the same time. Oh and it actually feels good to say positive things about other people!

Great weekend

I had a great weekend and kindness was the principle reason.  When people are kind to you, it makes you feel good and when you are kind to others, that makes you feel good too.  Now, lets let that kindness continue into the week ahead!

make a difference

We can all make a positive difference in the world, and personally I think it should be an ongoing thing. Today though there is a special spotlight. It is Make a Difference Day. What can each of us to to improve the lives of others?  Being kind is a very good beginning!

joy

Saint Teresa of Calcutta said "Joy is prayer; joy is strength: joy is love; joy is a net of love by which you can catch souls."

Timing

The wonderful science fiction writer Octavia Butler, wrote some nonfiction too. She once spoke so eloquently of timing saying "Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it's all over."

Leave a trail

Nobody being kind to you?  Yes, the world can be mean, but you certainly don't have to be.  As someone very wise once said “Do not follow where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.”  You can be a leader in kindness!

Another beginning

Each day can be a new beginning for showing kindness.  Each week and each month we can start fresh too and strive to be kinder, nicer people.  If we stumble and are not as kind as we like, we must never give up, for there will still be a chance to make a new beginning.

Why the smile

The smile on your face is there because of what?  Do you always wake up happy?  Did someone say something to you yesterday that stayed with you?  Do you always smile, or is this now because of some kindness you remember?

mean what you say

Be sure to say what you mean and mean what you say.  Let people know how you feel, being always open, honest and real.      

The most vulnerable

We should be kind to everyone - I say that all the time, but it is especially important that we show kindness to the most vulnerable, the very young and the very old.  Look out for the kids and the elderly in your life.

Often we need patience

Often we need patience in order to find true happiness, because it doesn't always come fast and it sometimes it doesn't even come easy, but it is always worth it!  Be kind to yourself and tolerate those delays.

paraskevidekatriaphobia

Are you afraid?  Don't be.  Paraskevidekatriaphobia (fear of Friday the 13th) is easily overcome with a smile and a confidence that this day can be just as good as any other.  Be kind to yourself.  Never fear. 

Moral support

Last night I received a message from a future leader.  He was sad that he couldn't make a monetary donation to a fundraiser I am participating in, and said "At the very least, you know you have my moral support!"  Least?  Oh my!  Moral support is so important!  This is one of the kindest, nicest people I know, and he is always involved in programs that make life better.  Here he was worried he wasn't giving what he wanted, when in reality, he was giving a truly great gift for which I will be forever grateful.

What's it all mean?

Not sure what I mean when I speak of kindness? Let me use some other words: affection, helpfulness, warmth, benevolence, consideration, warmheartedness, friendliness, thoughtfulness, generosity,  compassion, neighborliness, charitableness, unselfishness, gentleness, concern, understanding, altruism, selflessness, big-heartedness, benignity, hospitality - you get the idea.

Just a natural

Being nice to other people - is that kindness?  Is it love?  Is it a special way of living?  For me, being nice is just a natural.  It just happens, because we care.

Rich or Poor

If someone were to pay you five cents for every kind word you said about other people and collect a penny for every unkind word, would you be rich or poor? Think about it!

feedback

On this wonderful fall day, consider giving us some feedback here. Do you read this blog often? Have you ever shared this with anyone else? Do you consider yourself a kind person? We'd love your feedback!

smile

Smile. Do it a lot. You will find it contagious and notice others smiling too. Oh and just for some added incentive, today is World Smile Day.

remembering her kindness

Funerals are sad occasions of course, but it was so very uplifting to hear the positive words spoken yesterday about Dianne Feinstein.  One of the things I heard over and over was talk about her great kindness.  What a wonderful way to be remembered!

do something nice

Today is National Do Something Nice Day. You KNOW I had to mention it here, huh? It's an actual commemoration on the calendar and it's a perfect time to showcase our kindness.  In the comments below, I'd love to hear about some of the nice things you do today!

Saint Francis Day

On this day honoring Francis of Assisi, these words attributed to him: "Lord, make us instruments of your peace. Where there is hatred, let us sow love; where there is injury, pardon; where there is discord, union; where there is doubt, faith; where there is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light; where there is sadness, joy. Grant that we may not so much seek to be consoled as to console; to be understood as to understand; to be loved as to love. For it is in giving that we receive; it is in pardoning that we are pardoned; and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life."

doing kind things

More ideas of showing kindness: Clean graffiti from neighborhood walls and buildings. Buy a stranger a free pizza. Mow a neighbor’s grass or sweep a neighbor’s walk. Offer to return a shopping cart to the store for someone loading a car. Call an estranged family member. Give a bag of groceries to a homeless person. Treat someone to fresh fruit. Sing at a nursing home. Open the door for another person. The list can go on and on!

never too much

For over 2,000 mornings I have written something here about kindness.  Am I going to continue?  You bet I am!  It's important that I keep reminding myself of how important kindness is to the world and hopefully some of my readers will gain something as well.  I've said this dozens of times and in so many ways, but we can never have too much kindness.

Happy birthday Jimmy Carter!

James Earl Carter Jr. was born October 1, 1924, in Plains, GA, at the Wise Sanitarium (the first American president born in a hospital), the son of Bessie Lillian Gordy and James Earl Carter Sr.  He was the nation's 39th President, but I think he is known more for his great kindness all that he gives back.  Today he turns 99! Happy birthday Jimmy Carter and thank you so much for making a difference!

Be an angel

I was thinking of angels yesterday - the heavenly messengers.  Of course there is another kind.  Have you ever heard someone say "She is such an angel"?  Of course they mean the person is nice and kind.  We should all want to be that kind of angel.

Dianne Feinstein

California's Senior US Senator and former San Francisco Mayor Dianne Feinstein died last night.  In her memory this morning, I offer the encouragement that comes from her own words.  She very wisely said "We're not perfect, and there are some dark patches in our past, but what makes us special is that we recognize these evils, we come to grips with them, and we fix them."

things left undone

Mother Mary Angelica once said "There are many who are not guilty of doing anything wrong but very guilty of sins of omission - the things they neglect to do - the good things - the kind, thoughtful words, compassionate thoughts and hopeful attitudes they might have had towards their neighbor."

Missing Wilson

I miss Wilson Fang!  Eight years ago on this date he passed away.  I'm so lucky he spent some time with me.  He easily could have been the poster-person for this blog.  Wilson was one of the kindest people I ever met. I hope I can be as wonderful a person as Wilson was.  Such great memories of such a terrific person.

From a different time

I was watching an old tv show last night and noticed the folks helping each other on with their coats and holding doors open or helping someone with their chair.  We don't seem to do most of those things anymore.  Why does it have to be from another time though?  Kindness is an always short of thing.  I love it when someone holds a door open for me!  Here is one of the easiest ways of showing kindness - never forget about these little things.

What the world needs now

With all the hate in the world, I am reminded of these beautiful words from Hal David:

What the world needs now
Is love, sweet love
It's the only thing that there's just too little of
What the world needs now
Is love, sweet love
No, not just for some, but for everyone

Mission accomplished

The wonderful Maya Angelou once said "My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style." I'd say she indeed accomplished that mission!

Dream it

I have often said this, but it is so true!  If you can dream it, you can achieve it.   Never give up. Oh and when you accomplish your own dreams, reach out and help some other folks do the same.

Let's do it today

After reading this, take a moment and make a plan for later in the day - a plan to do some intentional things that are nice for other people.  Make a point to be happy and upbeat and to treat those you encounter with respect.  Now, take this today plan and make it a tomorrow plan too and then the next day and then EVERY day.

more or less

Fear less, Trust more

Take less, Give more

Whine less, Thank more

Talk less, Say more

Hate less, Love more

Big Fan

The other day I saw on someone's social media profile "Big fan of kindness."  Well, so am I.  So am I!

Everyone is important

Every single person  is important. Learn the names of the folks you regularly come in contact with (the receptionist, the driver on a regular bus you take, a security guard in your lobby, the server who pours your coffee) and greet them all by name. Say “hello” to strangers too, and smile. These are very simple acts of kindness and they almost always make people smile.

Humble and Kind

Last night while shopping, the store was playing Humble and Kind, a song written by Lori McKenna and sung by country music artist Tim McGraw. I've heard it before, but last night, I was really listening to the lyrics: "Don't take for granted the love this life gives you. When you get where you're goin' Don't forget turn back around And help the next one in line Always stay humble and kind." How wonderful if this could become the theme song for our lives!

It takes a village

It's often said that it takes a village to raise a child.  I agree, but I think it takes a village to do anything well.  We aren't meant to exist in isolation.  One of the kindest things a person can do is to care about neighbors, to care about family, to even care about folks we have never even known.  Let's be part of our villages and let our villages grow and flourish.

Get involved

The world won't be destroyed by those who do evil, but by those who watch them without doing a thing about it.  Be kind.  Get involved.  Care.

Kindest to you

Think for just a moment.  What is the kindest thing anyone has ever done for you?  How did it make you feel?  Think about it and why you remember it.

No special training

Being a kind person doesn't require any special training.  You don't have to go to kindness school.  For many people it just comes naturally, and if it doesn't, it is pretty easy to make yourself kinder each day.  Every day I try a little harder.

Using all your talent

Erma Bombeck was a very talented women. Remember her? She worked on the Equal Rights Amendment, appeared regularly on tv (including Good Morning America), wrote over 4,000 newspaper columns, and published fifteen books. Bombeck died way too early after enduring many health problems, but she gave us so much and did so in a fun way. She was always kind and encouraging and shared things that were simple to understand. One thing that stands out in my mind is when she said "When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say, I used everything you gave me." In Erma Bombeck's case, that was certainly true.

Not just talk

A friend told me she was amazed that I could talk so much about kindness.  Well, it's important.  Not just the talk, but the encouragement and the actual doing.  BEING kind is so very important. Our kindness encourages others to be kind as well, and we can't just talk about it, we have to actually "walk the walk."

Remembering

"Remember the hours after September 11 when we came together as one! It was the worst day we have ever seen, but it brought out the best in all of us." -Former U.S. Secretary of State John Kerry

Perfect moment

Have you ever heard someone say they are waiting for the "perfect moment?" Oh my! I hear it all the time. What a waste too. Don't wait for the "perfect moment." Take the moment and make it perfect.

Stay

I am saddened every time I hear that someone has taken their own life.  Everything is not perfect, but there is so much to stick around for.  Stay.  If you need help, ask.  If you know of someone who needs help, help them. Don't wait until it's too late. 

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straight in the eye

Never bend your head.  Always hold it up high.  With confidence, look the world straight in the eye, and do it with kindness and with love. 

wise words from Steven Seagal

The wonderful actor and producer Steven Seagal once said "My philosophy is that the most important aspect of any religion should be human kindness. And to try to ease the suffering of others. To try to bring light and love into the lives of mankind." I certainly agree with that! 

Random acts of kindness

Can you think of some random ways to show kindness to others? How about these: As you go about your day, pick up trash. Call or visit a homebound person. Make a point of finding the name of a supermarket or drugstore employee and then praise him/her through that company’s corporate office. When drivers try to merge into your lane, let them in with a wave and a smile. Tell your boss that you think he/she does a good job. Pay a compliment at least once a day. Donate blood. Transport someone who can’t drive. Others?

a special birthday

Today is a special birthday. No, not mine. That just happened. Today is the birthday of Arnel Pineda who is the lead singer of the rock band Journey. He also happens to be one of the kindest people in the world. Wish him well today and in his year ahead!

always

When should we be kind?  On birthdays and anniversaries?  Of course!  At holidays?  Yup.  Just an average everyday moment?  Yes, then too.  It's really quite simple.  We should be kind every day of our lives.  We should be kind always!

Politics and religion

So many arguments arise from discussions of politics and religion.  It is okay to have a difference of opinion, but respect should always be included.  If you want to persuade someone to come over to your way of thinking, being rude and nasty isn't a very good way to bring that about.  Kindness is the great equalizer.

It's a win-win situation

The selflessness we show comes naturally for many. It's like breathing out and breathing in. We don't even have to give it a thought. I'm sure you know folks like that. I think it is something that can easily be learned too. It just feels good. Whether it's natural or learned, being considerate and generous, makes others feel good too. It's a win-win situation.

like butter on toast

As I was putting butter on my toast this morning, I thought about how I was spreading it from one side to the other.  How wonderful it would be if we did the same thing with kindness.  Let's spread it all over, like butter on our toast!

Random acts of kindness

Every now and then I have listed things we can all do to show kindness toward others. Here are some more: Volunteer to be a tutor in a school. Buy a pack of brightly colored stickers and give them to children you meet during the day. Let the person behind you in the grocery store go ahead of you in line. Invite someone new for dinner, either in your home or in a restaurant. Give toys to the children at a shelter. Say nice things randomly to Facebook friends. Buy some bottles of water and randomly hand them out to strangers on the street. Drop off a plant or a plate of cookies to your nearby police or fire station. Please add your own ideas below!

Kindness makes me happy

Kindness makes me happy - all of it.  I love when people are kind to me of course, but I love being kind and doing kind things and I love seeing others do kind acts to their families and their friends.  I love seeing kindness toward animals too.  One of the most satisfying things in the whole world is kindness!

a tremendous thing

In E.B. White's classic "Charlotte's Web," there is a wonderful passage that means a lot to me:

“Why did you do all this for me?' he asked. 'I don't deserve it. I've never done anything for you.'

'You have been my friend,' replied Charlotte. 'That in itself is a tremendous thing.”

happy birthday to me!

 Do you know what I would really like for my birthday?  A kinder world, that's what!  Let's make it so!

do my best

"I will do my best. That is all I can do.  I ask for your help - and God's."
                                              -Lyndon Baines Johnson, 36th President of the United States

How to do it

Do you ever pick up any of those how-to books that show you how to build a bookcase or install plumbing or any number of other instructional things?  Is there a book that shows us how to be more kind?  Perhaps we can all write one.  What is the first step we can take to be kinder people.  Are there any directions you can think of that will increase kindness in our lives?

Inspiration

We all find inspiration from somewhere - our parents, God, perhaps a teacher or close friend. I am inspired by so many people, and some of that inspiration is what got me talking so much about kindness. I have a wonderful friend Toan who inspires me in every single thing he does. He has such a zest for life and enjoying it to the fullest. There's a celebrity who greatly inspires me too. Her name is Ellen and the kind and generous things she does are simply amazing. I'm so lucky to be inspired by so many, and at the top of the list is my late mother. Wow! What a great lady!

Be healthy

Kindness can relate directly to your overall health.  A healthy lifestyle is not just about what we eat.  It is also what we consume emotionally, mentally and spiritually.  Have a healthy weekend everyone!

miracles

I don't know a lot about the kindness of Albert Einstein, but I do know of his wisdom. This is one of the most inspiring things he said: "There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."

Bright light

Even when worries are many and things seem dark, there can still be a bright light of hope!  Be that bright light!

Size doesn't matter

Some folks think size matters.  It doesn't.  It doesn't have to be big.  It need not cost you any money too.  Some of the kindest things we can do are simply being there for someone else and showing that you care.

wise words

"Fighting ignorance with ignorance will get us nowhere.  Sharing our own pain by painting another group of people with stereotypes is NOT the way." -Jeremy Lin

Do you believe in magic?

 If magic really does exist, I am convinced we know it better by a different name:  kindness.

I agree with Dr King

I agree with Dr Martin Luther King, Jr who said "I have decided to stick with love.  Hate is too great a burden to bear."  

Simple message

 It's a pretty simple message here every day:  be kind.  

kindest day of the year

What is the kindest day of the year? Many folks might say Christmas or Thanksgiving or some other holiday.  How about today? Why can't today be the kindest.  We can make this happen. Start spreading that kindness!  I say this all the time, but it really is true.

anonymous kind gestures

The world does not have to know of your kindness.  It's absolutely fine to be anonymous.  Send someone a gift secretly or tell someone's boss how good they are, without identifying yourself.  Sometimes that anonymous kindness can even be more special.

Way of life

Oh how I love kindness.  For me it's a way of life.  I can't possibly be unkind to anyone on purpose.  It just seems so foreign.

No money involved

Here are examples of some random acts of kindness. Tell your parents or your children why you love them. Make a point of finding the name of a supermarket or drugstore employee and then praise him or her through that company’s corporate office. As you go about your day, pick up trash. When drivers try to merge into your lane, let them in with a wave and a smile. Just a few ideas.  There are many more of course.  One cool thing is none of these involve money.  You can be kind without spending a dime!

You're adopted

Former NFL player and activist Colin Kaepernick says "My parents told me from the time I can remember that, 'Yeah, you're adopted. But this is your family.' I can remember my mom, she tells me this story: when I was little, I was looking at her, and I was like, 'Why isn't my skin the same color as yours?' 'Oh, you're adopted, but I wish I had pretty brown skin like you,' said Mom." Wow!  Thanks for sharing this with us Colin.  

hot dogs, hamburgers, and potato salad

Growing up I remember those wonderful summertime picnics with hot dogs, hamburgers, and potato salad and maybe some icecream or watermelon.  Those are what I might call kind foods.  (Pizza could go on that list, but it isn't usually eaten at picnics).  Do you have any kind summertime memories from your youth?

beautiful day!

Yesterday was an absolutely day!  I love looking all around at the wonders of nature.  It's cool when you notice other people enjoying it too.  Hopefully today is going to be just as beautiful.

Don't let it disappear!

Just when you began to think that nobody is the world is kind anymore, along comes someone to prove you wrong, and boy is that great.  I actually don't ever think that kindness is ALL gone, but there are times when it seems to be disappearing.  Don't let it disappear!

No place for hate

The hate and violence in various places these past few days is quite discouraging.  I don't even understand the concept.  Love and kindness is so much more positive.  There is always room for more positive attitudes, and as far as I am concerned, there really is no place for hate.

For the future

The earth has been here a long time and it will be around for a long time to come, BUT will it be able to sustain life? Will plants and flowers grow and fish swim in the water and birds fly through the air? Will cows and chickens, dogs and cats, all manner of life, including humans, still roam the planet?  I've been thinking a lot about this.  Climate change is real folks.  Look at the soaring temperatures.  Look at the sea life being cooked in the water.   Be kind to future generations.  We need to act.  

This week ahead

This week ahead I'm hoping will be a good one.  We can't control everything in our lives of course, but we can always be kind.

Make me a list

Every now and then I have given a list in this space of some random acts of kindness.  For folks who are trying to become more kind and to do nice things, I think that can be a good starting point (although it isn't about just being kind sometimes).  Can you think of some random kind acts though?  I'd love to see ideas from someone else.  Let's think about it.

speaking of love

Oh and speaking of love, as I so frequently am, consider these words from Henry David Thoreau: There is no remedy for love but to love more.

Even the plants and trees

Yesterday was such a glorious day where I live.  Even the plants and the trees seemed to be showing kindness to each other.  It's interesting how nice and beautiful always make me think of being kind.

Oh how I love kindness

I love when folks are kind to me of course, but I love seeing people be kind to others too.  Oh my!  Is there anything so wonderful as kindness?  I hope that someday everyone in the whole world will be kind to everyone else.  No fighting - not hate - a world overflowing with love and kindness!

Learning from Emerson

So many wise things came from Ralph Waldo Emerson, like "Don't be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better."  He also said "The only way to have a friend is to be one." I learn so much from reading his quotes.

All done

We are all done with another month.  Oh my!  It seems like I am checking them off like something I'm happy is done.  That really isn't the case though.  I cherish every single day and although we have now come to the end of this month, we can look forward to the next, and the ones after that, and all the adventures yet to come our way!

Continuing to build the list

Every now and then, I have listed here some random acts of kindness.  Here are more:  Give toys to the children at a shelter. Volunteer to fix up an elderly couple’s home. Give a bag of groceries to a homeless person. Call an estranged family member. Leave a treat or handmade note of thanks for a delivery person or mail carrier. Mow a neighbor’s grass or sweep a neighbor’s walk.

love with no strings

We all need to love more freely.  Love should come with no strings attached.  Don’t say "I love you" expecting to hear it back. Say it to make sure they know!

A smile from Christie

Model Christie Brinkley knows a thing or two about smiling, so when you said "Share your smile with the world. It's a symbol of friendship and peace," you know that she knows that to be true!

because of who you are

Do things for people, not because of who they are or what they do in return, but because of who you are.

Let me make this perfectly clear

Every single morning I wrote about kindness.  Does that mean I am an expert?  Does it even mean I am a kind person?  Let me make this perfectly clear.  I am just as flawed as anyone else, but I believe that being kind to one another is the only way to live.  Hopefully I will someday be an expert.  You can be sure I will keep trying!

Dreams

If you can dream it, you can achieve it.  Never give up.  Oh and when you accomplish your own dreams, reach out and help some other folks do the same.

Language of kindness

“Kindness is a language that the deaf can hear and the blind can see,” said Mark Twain. Wow! "The deaf can hear and the blind can see - sounds like a pretty incredible language. We should speak it more often.

being there.

In a world that often feels loud and rushed, I want to be someone who brings peace. I don't have all the right words, but I can be present. I can be kind. I can listen. We never know what someone is carrying quietly. Sometimes our gentleness is the answer to a wish they haven’t spoken out loud.

Hello

Hello.  It's a short word.  It's only five letters and just two syllables.  Hard to believe it can be such a big deal, huh?  Well, a phone call with a simple hello is a VERY big deal.  It can totally brighten someone's day.   Think of those who are always alone.  Think of friends or relatives who are far away.  Say hello!

Your simple random acts

Remember all the times I listed various random acts of kindness?  Did you ever do any of them?  What inspires you to do those simple kind acts?  Help us all out and list some ways in the comments below.

She brought doughnuts

Yesterday I was at a training for hospital volunteers.  (I've already been volunteering, but going to an occasional meeting helps me to stay fresh, and also meet any new folks).  The person making the presentation is also a volunteer and she does such an amazing job.  She even brought doughnuts!  The kindness was so visible in every direction.

at the store

The other day while I was at the store, the lady in front of me was having trouble paying.  She presented a VISA card, but the store doesn't accept VISA.  She was traveling from Canada and it seems the only cash she had was Canadian.  She kept apologizing but really had done nothing wrong.  I asked how much it all cost and it was only fourteen dollars and some change, so I handed the cashier a twenty dollar bill.  You would think I had just given her a new car!  Both the lady and the cashier kept thanking me.  The lady then offered to give me the equivalent in Canadian currency.  Nope.  That's fine.  Glad I could help.  And that was that.  I just know this lady will be helping someone else one day!

Arnel's Foundation

Journey's fantastic lead singer Arnel Pineda did something even more fantastic than his singing, he founded the Arnel Pineda Foundation, Inc! It's a charity organization based in the Philippines and from what I read it is doing amazing things for the kids there. Now I don't know Mr Pineda at all and my only information is what I read, but he seems to have performed an incredible act of kindness and generosity. The world could use more folks like that.

Red hot kindness

During the summer months where I live, it can get pretty hot.  We have reached the triple digits every day lately.  Heat can do many things to people, but don't be overcome by it.  Remember the sunscreen and the water.  A kind thing to do would be to have extra to share with someone who might forget.  (Drugstores often have trial size sunscreen and water comes in all sizes these days).  Many cities have cooling centers on those very hot days.  Don't let yourself get overheated, and if you encounter someone who has, seek assistance for them.

Ice Cream Sunday

Wouldn't you like and ice cream sundae today?  Would that make this and ice cream Sunday?  Oh my!  What a kind thing to do - sharing the joy of ice cream with others/  What's your favorite flavor?  I'm a huge fan of Ben and Jerry's Chunky Monkey!

Kindness always

It's simple.  It really is.  No matter what, no matter when - kindness always.  We need to get more and more people on board with this.  Think of how much better the world will be!

Making people smile

The other day I saw an Instagram post that said, "All I want in life is to make people smile."  What an incredible wish!  This caring, kind, unselfish guy sure made me smile.  My wish would be that we could join him and all smile every single day of our lives.

For the love of music

One thing that really helps me every single day is music.  I love music - all kinds.  I listen pretty much all day.  In a few hours I will listen to a live cello performance that a very kind artist is sharing with the world.  Right now, a Texas radio station is playing classic hits as I type this.  Music really has super powers.

All those donations

I see kindness expressed through donations all the time.  During the year I raise funds for various causes, and it warms my heart when folks contribute.  Recently someone I don't even know gave a large monetary gift.  I see lots of donations come in at the hospital where I volunteer too.  People give money and there are also a lot of donations of used books and magazines, and of course donations of time.

Inspire people

Inspire people.  Make the day happen when someone says "Because of you I didn't give up"  Is there someone who has been an inspiration to you?  Be that person for others.

You owe me

Did you ever have someone tell you how many things they had done for you and how you now owe them?  In my way of thinking, they gave you nothing at all. Gifts don't come with strings attached. Of course if is always very nice to do kind things for those who have done kind things for you, but that should not be your reason. Actually no reason is necessary at all. Give out of the love in your heart, and expect nothing in return. That is the real joy.

We're supposed to be different

How can we discriminate against an entire group of people? I don't get it. When I was little I remember the drinking fountains labeled "colored" and "white."  (I actually used the colored one once in a store, thinking the water was colored, and boy did I get yelled at by the racist storekeeper). These days I see more discrimination based on religious affiliation or gender identity, and I still don't get it. We're supposed to be different. That is part of the beauty of life. We are supposed to discriminate though, because despite all of our many differences, we still are all equal!

Greet everyone

When you enter a room, greet everybody.  Seriously.  This is a courtesy thing and also an act of kindness.  No one likes to be ignored.  This doesn't mean you have to discuss your entire life with everyone you encounter but at least acknowledge those around you.

It just feels good

Writing this blog every single morning has (hopefully) made me more aware of how we act toward each other.  There are so many reasons to be kind to others.  For me, the biggest thing is it just feels good!

Ugly dress

If a woman asks you about the hideous dress she is wearing, there is no great need for you to say it is ugly.  If you are her spouse or a close friend, you might make a suggestion about how she might improve her appearance, but this is one of those times when it is okay to skirt the truth.  Oh and if she didn't ask, what does it accomplish if you simply blurt out that the dress is ugly?  The kind thing to do is sometimes to simply keep your mouth shut.

Quoting Robert Kennedy

"Some men see things as they are, and ask why. I dream of things that never were, and ask why not."  -Robert Francis Kennedy

ALL

Sometimes I wonder how many people have actually read the Declaration of Independence. In the second paragraph, you'll find these words: "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness." Now please note there is no asterisk. It doesn't say except for people of color or people with blue eyes or people who are gay or Jewish people or transgender or any other exception. It says ALL!

never give up

Sometimes it seems like there is more bad news than good and sometimes it seems like the world is full of mean people, but keep positive.  Don't let the negativity get you down.  There is always room for your kindness, so never give up.  You just might change the world!

Hold the door

Waiting an extra ten seconds can seem like an annoyance, especially if you're running late, but holding that elevator for the person who is rushing to catch it, is a perfect way to show you value another's time.  The same thing is true when you hold the door open for a person entering a building behind you.

Happy July!

Let's all do the best we can to make this a very kind month.  Happy Saturday.  Enjoy your weekend. Happy July everybody!

from Marsha P. Johnson

Kind and important words from Marsha P. Johnson: "No pride for some of us without liberation for all of us."

fully visible

"While as a society we are moving toward greater inclusion and equality for all people, the tide of history only advances when people make themselves fully visible." -Broadcaster Anderson Cooper

Lance Bass on homophobia

During this Pride Month, I thought I'd share these words from entertainer Lance Bass:  "When I see ignorant people talk about LGBT people it drives me crazy because I know everything they're saying is brainwashed garbage. At the end of the day, I feel sorry for those people. Somebody taught them to think that way, and consequently they're missing out on so much good in life." 

every single American

"Every single American — gay, straight, lesbian, bisexual, transgender — every single American deserves to be treated equally in the eyes of the law and in the eyes of our society. It’s a pretty simple proposition." -Barack Obama

define yourself

“Accept no one’s definition of your life, define yourself.” -Harvey Fierstein

someday

Someday we won't have to "come out of the closet."  We'll just say we are in love and that will be all that matters.  Someday.  Happy Pride everyone!

It takes no money to respect the individual

"It takes no compromise to give people their rights. It takes no money to respect the individual. It takes no political deal to give people freedom. It takes no survey to remove repression." -San Francisco Supervisor Harvey Milk 

Taylor said

Singer Taylor said it so well last week. “We can’t talk about Pride Month without talking about pain," she said. "There have been so many harmful pieces of legislation that have put people in the LGBTQ and Queer community at risk.”

words from Barack Obama

Former President Barack Obama told us "Each of us deserves the freedom to pursue our own version of happiness. No one deserves to be bullied."

live authentically

Don't ever tell someone that they can't be exactly who they are.  Gender identity and sexual orientation are personal.  WE are in control, not others who might hate us.  Be a friend.  Be someone that others can count on.  We all deserve to live authentically.

more important that ever

Every morning for the past several years, I sit down and write something here about kindness.  Most of my posts are fairly general and could apply to any day of the year.  This month I decided to focus on my LGBTQ+ community.  We deserve kindness and respect - everyone does.  Right now, with so much hate in the world, it is more important that ever.  Show some extra love and kindness this month to everyone who identifies as part of the LGBTQ+ community.

love is love is love

Lin-Manuel Miranda's words from his Tony Award acceptance speech seven years ago still bring tears to my eyes, and on the first day of Pride month it seems so appropriate to remember them.
              "And love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love, 

                   cannot be killed or swept aside.
              I sing Vanessa’s symphony, Eliza tells her story.
              Now fill the world with music, love, and pride."

Why not?

I write here every morning about being kind.  It's one of these subjects that there really is no argument against.  Think about it.  Why not be kind?  What could possibly be wrong with it?

Explore, Dream, Discover

Samuel Langhorne Clemens, better known as Mark Twain, was a great novelist and entrepreneur. He also was quite the motivator! Here are some words of inspiration from him: "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do, so throw off the bowlines, sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore, Dream, Discover."

Kindest ever

I know I have asked this before, but what is the kindest thing someone has ever done for you?  Think about it.  I'll bet it made you feel pretty good, huh?  This is just one of the reasons why we do kind things.

Color

Laundry is the only thing that should be separated by color!  Can you imagine a rainbow with only one color?  oh my!

Give it some thought

Some days it might come naturally, and at other times you might have to think a bit.  There's really nothing wrong with that.  Sometimes those special kind acts that we think up are pretty wonderful indeed.  If like me you are trying to become more kind each day, just give it some thought.

Some random acts of kindkess

Let the person behind you in the grocery store go ahead of you in line. Say nice things randomly to friends on social media. Buy some bottles of water and randomly hand them out to strangers on the street. Volunteer for a cause or campaign that is important to you. Clean graffiti from neighborhood walls and buildings. Leave a treat or handmade note of thanks for a delivery person or mail carrier. Give another driver your parking spot. There are so many random acts of kindness.  Can you think of others?

Not an expert

Kindness is something I strive for in myself, but I am certainly not an expert.  I love when folks are good and kind toward me, and I get a genuinely wonderful feeling when I am the recipient of the kindness of others.  That doesn't mean I am perfect.  That doesn't mean I don't need help along the way.  I always welcome suggestions of how I can be more kind.

Remember me

Some things we can achieve in life, and other things are out of our hands. We can try to be the richest or the best looking or the tallest or the fastest, but what do any of those things really mean? Years after someone meets me, I'd prefer for them to remember that I was nice to them. They don't have to recall my sense of humor or my incredible physique. I'd much rather have them remember that I was kind to them, and to others.

Those Dreams

I have said this before, but it is so true.   If you can dream it, you can achieve it.  Don't ever give up. Oh and when you accomplish your own dreams, reach out and help some other folks do the same thing with theirs.

Invisible people

There was a time - there really was, when folks spoke to each other. More and more it seems like people are texting or otherwise involved with some electronic device. You can say hello to someone and be ignored and you can smile and offer a cheery "Good Morning!" without even a return glance in your direction. It can make you feel invisible! When someone smiles back though, it make a huge difference. When you are noticed, the feeling of kindness can melt your heart.  We are not invisible people!

Go forward

Stop looking backwards. You aren't going that way! Stay in the present moment. Be here now. Go proudly forward!

Just how kind are you?

Many folks who read this probably already do kind things.  I'll bet you are one of them.  Just how kind are you though?  Is it something you have to think about?  Are you only kind toward some people?  I'd love to hear some thoughts of being kind.  Please share!

Say no to silence

Let your voice be heard! Silence enables. Silence is acceptance. Silence is compliance. Silence threatens freedom.  Don't ever stop speaking out!

Be so happy

Be so happy that
when others look at you,
they become happy too!

Keep at it

Never give up is one of my long held beliefs. My values aren't something I change several times a day, as I might change my clothes. I have to stay true to my principles, even if others don't join in. The test for me is simple: is it the kind, just, and fair path. If it is unkind, if it is not fair, if it doesn't treat everyone equally and justly, then it must be wrong. Activism is not a four letter word though and I will not be swayed by threats or setbacks. When it is the right thing to do, I will keep at it, and I will keep urging others to join in.

strangers

Someone once said (I really don't remember who it was) that strangers are just friends we haven't met yet.  How true!

touch

If you want to touch the past, touch a rock. 

If you want to touch the present, touch a flower. 

If you want to touch the future, touch a life.

                                   -author unknown

Heroes of Mister Rogers

Children's television host Fred Rogers said some remarkable things which often come to mind, like "Anyone who does anything to help a child in his life is a hero to me."  He also said more about heroes:  "We live in a world in which we need to share responsibility.  It's easy to say 'It's not my child, not my community, not my world, not my problem.'  Then there are those who see the need and respond.  I consider those people my heroes.'  I agree.  One more thing though - to me, Mister Rogers was also a hero.

Be nice

Be nice
Be kind
Care
Make a difference

Checking in

How is everybody?  Seriously.  Are things going well for you these days?  One of the kindest things a person can do is check in on their family members and friends.  Does someone have a great success they want to share?  How about those though times when you need a friend just to listen while you vent?  Be there.  Let folks know you care.

What does it mean

Kindness.  I write about it here every day, but what does it mean?  Is being kind something we should all be doing?  Well my answer to that is yes.  Yes indeed!  What are your thoughts though?  I ask every now and then, but you are always welcome to comment and to share your thoughts.

Fresh start

Some of us are forced to make a fresh start.  Don’t be afraid to start all over again. Who knows? You may like your new story better.

words from Scott Adams

Think about these words from Scott Adams:  "Remember there’s no such thing as a small act of kindness.  Every act contains a ripple with no logical end."

Kindness even toward those we dislike

Many people are of the opinion that they must never show any kindness to those with whom they disagree or those they dislike.  Nope.  We can be kind to everyone.  Let them do they negative.  We can strive to take the high road.  Sometimes it's just a matter of common courtesy, but being kind and extending a positive attitude should always be they way we operate.  Who knows?  We just might bring about change in those other people!

thanks a lot

Saying thank you isn't something we do as often as we should, in my opinion.  It is quick and easy and doesn't cost anything.  Showing thanks should be as regular as being kind!

Can't get enough

I was remembering an old-time television commercial last night. Can't get enough of that Sugar Crisp, Sugar Crisp, Sugar Crisp. I couldn't get the tune out of my head. Then I started saying Can't get enough of that kindness, kindness, kindness. Oh my! I'm not sure about the breakfast cereal, but I know it's true about kindness.  You can never get enough! 

Hold that door

Remember when folks always opened a door for a woman? How about when people see someone else coming and keep the door open for you? Remember? Oh and if you saw someone running to catch the elevator you are on, same thing. It doesn't seem to happen as much as it once did. Something as simple as holding the door open can make someone's day. It really can, and it's such an easy kind act!

May the Fourth

What is the correct response to "May the Fourth Be With You'? 

Kindness. Kindness is the correct response to anything.

Up on Crumhorn Mountain

I was thinking this morning of a Boy Scout Camp nearly a century old, on Crumhorn Mountain in Upstate New York.  As a scout, I spent a lot of time there.  I learned about nature and about kindness and about how to get along with others.  The scouts back then did a lot of good things, but they excluded a lot of kids too.  I think they have improved.  I think they have finally learned more about kindness.

kindest of the month

What do you think will be the kindest thing you do this month? Oh, there are certainly a lot of loving and nice things we can all do for each other, and everyone can add suggestions, but I like the idea of always trying to outdo myself. Let's be kind to everyone! Let's put some smiles of those faces! Let's all try to be more kind than we ever have been before.

May Day

There was once a big deal made of the first day of May.  In small towns especially, small baskets filled with homemade bread or cookies, cut flowers, or other goodies, would be left at someone's doorstep. You would set down the basket, ring the doorbell, and run away.  Of course there are other May Day traditions in the various places where it is celebrated, but this one seems to be such a lovely act of kindness.  I think it would be a nice random thing to do any day!

That's a wrap

Okay folks, that's a wrap - on April that is.  Of course just because the month ends today, doesn't mean our kindness ends.  We plan to be more kind each day.  I love the feeling when someone smiles and nods at me or when they say thanks.  Being a kind person isn't just for the folks you are kind to - it makes you feel good too!

those April showers

Has it been raining where you live? Somehow I just thought of Judy Garland singing "it isn't raining rain you know, i t's raining violets."  Anyway, they say that April showers bring May flowers.  Think about all we have to look forward to in the days ahead!

Great memories from seniors

I often wish I'd spend more time with Grandpa. Nana and I did things together, and she lived much longer and was quite active.  Senior citizens are often alone, but have so much to share. Nana got out and kept busy, but that's not true of many as they get older.  A day in a retirement community can be very rewarding, and can brighten the day for them.  I like chatting with elders and asking them to share memories - how has the world changed during your life? can you remember your first date? Sharing memories helps both us and them stay connected.

The whole wide world

Oh how I wish I could simply wrap my arms around the whole wide world for a giant hug and bring kindness and love to all.  Every day I want to try a little more until I am truly making a difference and actually bringing real joy to folks.

always stand up for what's right

I know it can be difficult, but we must always stand up for what is right, even if it means we are standing all alone.

Words from Saint Teresa of Calcutta

During her lifetime, Mother Teresa (now Saint Teresa of Calcutta) said many inspirational things.  One of my favorites:  "I have found the paradox that if I love until it hurts, then there is no hurt, but only more love."

Comments or suggestions

Talking kindness every day I think is much harder than being a kind person.  How many ways are there to say it?  I'd hate to repeat myself, but I think kindness is so very important.  So, what do YOU think?  I would so love to hear your comments and suggestions!

Just one kind deed

One kind deed can change someone's day.  Just one kind deed.  Pretty amazing, huh?  One kind deed can even change lives!

Earth Day 2023

We know Dame Jane Goodall largely for her work with wild chimpanzees, but on this Earth Day 2023, I am reminded of something the primatologist and anthropologist once said: "You cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you. What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make."  Let's get out there and make a positive difference and let today be a day of action for our environment and for our planet.

Kind thoughts and actions

I'm not an expert, but it seems to me that if we think kind thoughts, we are more likely to do kind actions.  Agree?  Okay then, let's do both!

Thoughts of Nana

Every April 20th I think of my grandmother - she was born on this date.  I think of Nana more than once a year though.  She was one of the kindest and fairest people I have ever known, and I learned a lot from her.  I think our entire family learned the importance of kindness because of her.

sharing the candy

I hear there is a big sale on Easter candy beginning today!  Buying up some of it and sharing it is certainly a kind thing, don't you think?  Of course sharing the candy is always kind, even when you have to pay full price!

The Joy of Easter

Of all the days in the entire year, what could possibly be happier than Easter Day?  Oh and talk about kindness - oh my!  Alleluia!  Alleluia!

More kind things to do

Take an acquaintance to dinner.  Sponsor people in fundraising walk-a-thons.  Buy cold drinks for the people next to you at a ball game.  Spend some time serving food at a meal program for the needy.  Remember the bereaved with phone calls, cards, plants, and food.  Leave a treat or handmade note of thanks for a delivery person or mail carrier.  Share some ideas here.  There's never an end to kindness.

Remembering Roger Ebert

Film critic Roger Ebert died on this date in 2013. One of the things I remember about him is his encouraging words. He once said “To make others less happy is a crime. To make ourselves unhappy is where all crime starts. We must try to contribute joy to the world. That is true no matter what our problems, our health, our circumstances. We must try.”

Joy to the world

Joy to the world!  Sound like Christmas huh?  Nope.  It's not Easter yet either.  No reason we shouldn't be spreading joy though.  Joy begins with each one of us.

unkind

To me, unkind is such a foreign concept.  We might not all be as sweet and nice as the next person, but unkind to me says mean and rotten.  How could anyone act that way?  Yet sadly, there are some who do.  Oh how wonderful it would be if there were never an unkind action again!

Spring into kindness

How about another month of kindness!  Nobody wants to say no to that.  It's April 1st and I'm no fool.  Let's put aside the jokes and spring into kindness.

little bit more kindness

Our world can always do with a little bit more kindness.  (Or perhaps a LOT more).  Perhaps that kindness should begin with me and you. Let's do it!

Sound familiar?

I really like these words of Ralph Waldo Emerson: "You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late." I'm also inspired by this that he said: "Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail."  Do these words of inspiration sound at all familiar?  I wrote all of the above once before in this space, exactly one year ago!

Kind bars

You have probably heard of kind bars.  They are healthy snacks - energy bars, and have become quite popular.  I'm not promoting them (although I should - they not only taste good, but are good for you), but a funny image just popped into my head.  Instead of thinking of a supplemental bar containing cereals, nuts and such, I was picturing that type of bar where folks go for a cocktail, but instead of libations the bartenders dispense kindness and various ways.  Oh wait!  That might describe this blog.  WE are a kind bar!

Kindness in giving

Yesterday I registered for a walk-a-thon for a cause very dear to me and I began a fundraiser to collect money for the cause.  Within minutes a generous donor was there to help out.  His giving is another fine example of kindness!

believe it

Believe in it until it manifests for you.  Don't overthink how it will happen.  Don’t worry about when it will happen.  Just believe it.  Allow it.  Let it flow in.

popularity

Some folks may think of life as a popularity contest, but that's not how it is.  No matter how hard we try and how nice we are, there will always be those who don't like us for some reason.  Don't let it get you down.  Be yourself.  Stay positive.  Keep spreading the love, even when it is not returned.

Maya Angelou's thought

On this Valentine's Day, I am reminded of this thought from Maya Angelou "In all the world, there is no heart for me like yours. In all the world, there is no love for you like mine."

Random acts

Here we go with some more random acts of kindness.  Buy a pack of brightly colored stickers and give them to children you meet during the day.  Invite someone new for dinner, either in your home or in a restaurant.  Share your smile generously.  Buy some bottles of water and randomly hand them out to strangers on the street.  Clean graffiti from neighborhood walls and buildings.  Buy a stranger a free pizza.  Mow a neighbor’s grass or sweep a neighbor’s walk.  Offer to return a shopping cart to the store for someone loading a car.

Hello everybody

Hello everybody!  How are you this morning?  I hope that many of you show up here every day, but if you happen to be a first-timer, let me offer a special welcome.  I hope you'll come back too.  This is a blog about being kind.  No bells and whistles here.  We don't even have fancy graphics or photos.  About the same time every morning, I sit down and write something about kindness.  I hope it helps.  I know it has helped me.  I now seem to think about the kindest way to approach things in any situation.  Please feel free to share this with your friends and to make comments below.  Oh and come back often!

February!

The second month of the year already!  February!  (Don't you wish everyone could pronounce it)?  Anyway, this is a good time to remind everyone about the importance of being kind.

last day

It's hard to believe that we have already reached the last day of the month!  Wasn't New Year's just yesterday?  Oh my!  Has January been kind to you?  More importantly, how kind have you been?  Let the kindness continue right into the next month, an all our days to come.

my phone buddy

There is a guy in another city (where I used to live) who does an excellent job of keeping in touch.  I'm always glad to receive his telephone calls.  Sometimes you just want a good conversation and he is always there.

Caring people

I know so many loving caring people.  It inspires me to be more loving and more caring too.  I love when I see a random act of kindness, even when it is people I don't even know.  It warms my heart.  We need more such moments though.  I just KNOW we can do it!

Do your little bit of good

Wonderful words of encouragement from Desmond Tutu: "Do your little bit of good where you are; those little bits put together overwhelm the world."

Kindness to everyone

Show kindness toward your friends, and your family, and your coworkers, and even the strangers you encounter.  Show kindness to everyone!

Do Re Mi

Do Re Mi is the name of the musical that gave us that song Make Someone Happy. I love that song. I love the idea of making someone happy even more. Let's start at the very beginning (that sounds like another Make Do Re Mi) - making someone happy makes me happy. Wow! It's a never-ending circle. That' the way is really should be!

you are appreciated

Being told that you are appreciated, is one of the simplest yet most incredible things that you can ever hear!

Positive

Some folks say I am always positive.  Yup.  I agree.  Let's all be positive.  Let's all see the good in our world!

Albert Schweitzer said

"Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate." -Albert Schweitzer

like breathing out and breathing in

The selflessness we show comes naturally for many of us. It's like breathing out and breathing in. We don't even have to give it a thought. I'm sure you know folks like that. I think it is something that can easily be learned too. It just feels good. Whether it's natural or learned, being considerate and generous, makes others feel good too. Oh my!

Sharing is kind

Sharing is a very kind thing to do.  I'm not just talking about sharing your property.  There are many ways to share.  May I suggest sharing this blog for example?  Tell your friends!  Oh and share your own thoughts about kindness with us.  Just write in the comments section below.

We love our animals

Although my sister has loved all the dogs she has had over the years, there was a very special pug she called Bug.  I think he was her favorite of all.  I know he was a favorite of my.  The other night Bug ran into the street and was hit by a car and killed.  I can't tell you how many kind wishes have been sent my sister's way.  Pets aren't human, but they do become part of the family.  We love our animals and that's how it should be.  Thank you to everyone who shares the love!

The Little Things

I've written here about specific things we can all do to show kindness, but we don't need lists.  We don't need to keep thinking up more and more random acts of kindness.  Yes, those are great but it's the little things we do each day that are so important.  It's the natural kindness that we do without even thinking.

My elderly neighbor

Sometimes I worry about folks who live all alone, especially those in advanced years, but there is no need to worry about my elderly neighbor.  Folks are always dropping by for short visits to say hello.  Some offer to take him on errands and others bring food or other goodies for him to enjoy.  The other day he told me he felt like a lucky guy with so many kind people in his life.  Indeed!

Actually making a difference

The incredible Isaac Asimov once said "However, I continue to try and I continue, indefatigably, to reach out. There’s no way I can single-handedly save the world or, perhaps, even make a perceptible difference, but how ashamed I would be to let a day pass without making one more effort."  This is the sort of thing that actually does makes a difference!

Oddball

I'm probably an oddball, but I love the winter!  The cold months are my favorite and where I live we recently had a big snowfall, which was so pretty to look at.  Of course there are nice things about the spring too and that is just days away.  I love seeing flowers poking their way through the snow!  Maybe I'll send some flowers today.  That's not such an oddball thing.  Everyone loves flowers!

Aesop says

A quote attributed to the Greek fabulist and storyteller Aesop says "No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted."  How true that is!

Happiness and joy

Hello!  Happiness and joy to all of you!  May this be a wonderful Saturday for you and may kindness surround you both now, and always!

Friday the 13th

Always be kind to everyone, but today be especially kind to those with paraskevidekatriaphobia.  Being afraid of Friday the 13th is a real fear.

way of life

 Kindness isn't just a specific act, it's a way of life.

Danish Proverb

Remembering that Danish proverb:  "He who gives to me, teaches me to give."

Specific acts

Being kind is so many different things.  Some people try to think up specific acts.  I do that sometimes myself.  Being nice can be a pleasant greeting and a smile.  I like to think of it as a way of life.  Those random acts of kindness can be such powerful tools though to help us stay on the path.  Even the nicest people need encouragement sometimes and intentionally doing something kind is great tonic to keep us moving forward.

Reach Out

See a neighbor struggling with her groceries?  See a homeless person asking for a donation?  See the coworker who has just lost his spouse?  See the troubled individual who is all alone?  Reach out!  Don't let anyone need to be alone.  Give the best gift you possibly can - the gift of your kind presence.  Being there for others is such a rewarding gift.

Tell me a story

I could tell you a story this morning, but I usually tell you stories of sort here.  I'd like to hear some of yours too!  I'd really love to hear about so very kind act that someone once did for you.  (It doesn't even have to be recent).  A story about a kind act you did for someone else would be lovely too.  Come on!  Tell me a story!

Compliments

So many compliments lately - not only directed at me, but I have overheard folks complimenting each other.  Another great example of kindness!

More random acts of kindness

Pay a compliment at least once a day.  Transport someone who can’t drive.  Make telephone calls in support of equality urging others to put aside hate.  Say something nice to everyone you meet today.  Tell your children why you love them.  Call or visit a homebound person.  Send a treat to a school or day-care center.  Volunteer at an organization that needs help.  Go through your closets and find several nice items and then donate them to a shelter.

follow those dreams

Everyday is a new opportunity to follow our dreams!  One of my dreams is for the entire world to be filled with kindness.

Inspiration from Emerson

I really like these words of Ralph Waldo Emerson: "You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late." I'm also inspired by this that he said: "Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail."

What is there to say?

A blog about kindness?  Yup.  That is what this is.  What is there to say?  Well, apparently a lot since we have been doing this for a couple of years.  What are we missing though?  Add some of YOUR thoughts in the comments section below.  Of and kindly tell your friends too!

resolutions

I'm not sure how many people make New Year's resolutions these days but setting goals can always be a good thing.  I'm sure you already know what I am going to say now.  I resolve to be a kinder person, and I hope that you will join me.

Happy New Year!

Celebrate!  It's a holiday!  Today we begin 2023, and I KNOW we will all be kind to each other, not just today, but throughout the year.  Let's share the joy.