We're done

As we await the brand-new year, we're just about done with 2024.  I hope it was a good year for you and a kind year.  Now, let's make 2025 even kinder!

make it big

It is true that simple acts of kindness can transform people’s day, but what about something large? Lets go the extra mile and do something big like free yard work for an elderly neighbor or changing a flat tire for someone on the side of the road.  Getting into kind habits is wonderful, but if we make it big, think about how much more wonderful.

only the laundry

My mom said the only thing that should be separated by color is laundry, but when I was little, I remember seeing "whites only" signs and public water fountains were all labeled "colored" or "white." I didn't understand it. I still see people not wanting to interact with people of different races or ethnicities and I still don't understand it.  Why be separate? The more we experience each other, the more we experience life!

goals

The tragedy of life doesn't lie in not reaching your goal. The real tragedy lies in having no goals to reach.

They add up

Those little things - they add up. Small acts of kindness can mean a lot. I remember when I was little and we would go out in the cold for the winter festival where I lived. Our little bodies would be freezing and Mom would give us a great big hug. It was just a small gesture, but it sure helped to warm us up! That nice hot apple cider helped a lot too!  With the cold months arriving, I was thinking back to winters past.  I remember when we would go Christmas caroling and people would invite us into their home for a nice hot bowl of jook or some steaming hot chocolate.  It's those little kind things that people do that mean so much. 

we're not finished

So many holidays!  Oh my!  I love this time of year.  Whatever you might be celebrating today, let's all be kind and nice to each other.  I'd love to see that celebration every single day of the year!

It’s Officially Christmas

I'm listening to Dan+Shay sing "It’s Officially Christmas." They are correct of course. Today is Christmas Day. I know a lot of people don't celebrate and then there are those who have been celebrating for over a month now. Yes, we are all different. In our kindness though we should respect that. So often this is called the "Season of Giving" and what better gift is there that the gift of kindness? Happiness to you all!

make someone happy

One of the happiest things for me is when I make someone happy.  It doesn't have to take a lot of effort.  It's usually pretty simple.  Talk to people.  Be interested in their life.  Show that you care.  It's amazing but if you make someone happy, you will find that it also makes you happy.

My tradition

There isn't a single holiday decoration up at my apartment and I haven't sent out any Christmas cards.  That my surprise you. I do celebrate, I'm very traditional and it isn't Christmas yet. I'll be putting up a tree tomorrow afternoon, and I will be singing carols.  I'm very traditional when it comes to kindness too.  It is ALWAYS important!

make my day

Remember the catchphrase spoken by the character Harry Callahan in the movie Sudden Impact? "Go ahead, make my day!" Well today, make someone's day. (No, not like in the film). Just do something kind. There are so many possibilities. In fact, I think together we can make many people's day!

change a person’s life

It would seem that actor Jackie Chan agrees with me. It was he that said, "Sometimes it takes only one act of kindness and caring to change a person’s life."  Indeed.

Kindness from Mom

My mother was a very kind person.  People noticed.  It was part of who she was.  I hope a lot of that rubbed off on me.  I try.  Today would have been Mom's birthday, and even though she passed away several years ago, this is one of those days she is especially present in my mind.  I want to do things that would make her proud.  I miss you Mom!

The kindest one of all

How many facebook friends do you have?  How about your followers on Instagram or twitter?  Over the years we meet a lot of people.  Do we stay in touch with all of them?  Probably not.  For me it's the nice ones - the kind ones, that I always want to stay connected to.  Think about all the folks in your life.  Now, who is the kindest one of all?

Hot Chocolate

There was a wonderful British soul band that was popular during the 1970s and 1980s, called Hot Chocolate, but you know I am actually going to say something about the beverage. What I have to say is really pretty simple. I happen to like hot chocolate (cocoa) just about any time, but especially when the weather is cold.  One of the kindest things anyone can do is to offer me a piping hot cup!

We can top that

When we were younger, most of us had a competitive spirit.  We wanted to win at sports or academia or maybe something as silly as who can eat the most hot dogs.  There is certainly nothing wrong with trying to improve and do better.  How about it we worked on being kinder?  Yesterday I think I was a kind person, but I can top that.  I can do better.  We all can.

Can you make a list?

Occasionally I have listed some things that we might do for each other.  These random acts of kindness are only a starting point.  The list of ideas is endless.  I have found that just by thinking about it, I have a desire to do more and more kind things.  How about you?  Can you make a list?  Think of some kind acts.  Share your ideas with us too!

halfway

We are already halfway through December!  Oh my!  This month always seems to go so fast.  We have nearly reached the cold months of winter, and very soon the year will end.  Let's keep the kindness going and warm everyone with good feelings!

A difference

Which feels better, being kind to someone, or having someone be kind to you?  Is there a difference in the feeling?  Both are nice, huh?  When you see that someone appreciates your efforts, there just isn't a better feeling!

every person

every person has a voice.
every person  has a story.
every person  has a dream.
every person  has an ability. 
never be afraid to share yours.

Start spreadin' the word.

I have said "Start spreadin' the word" here before, and I hope some of you will start leaving a word or two also.  Comments can be left after any post.  Feel free to include your own kindness ideas.  I just know there are some wonderful ideas out there!  Tell others about this blog.  Spread the word and spread the kindness!

Tell them now

I'm seeing such a wonderful outpouring of positive statements about people who have recently died.  That of course is a good thing, but I can't help think about the thoughts that weren't expressed during a person's lifetime.  If you love them and respect them, tell them now.  Let them hear it directly from you during their lifetime.  Don't wait until after they are gone.

your comments and feedback

The counter tells me a lot of folks visit this blog. Of course, we don't know if you actually READ the words here.  Perhaps a bit of feedback would help.  Leave a comment below.  Say a kind word or two. Encourage us with a story of kindness.  We'd really love to hear from you!

Your meaning

Kindness.  What does it mean to YOU?  It's easy to talk about being kind, but are we all on the same page here?  What is your meaning?

Share it

Kindness is not something to hide in a closet or to only bring out for special occasions.  Oh no!  Something this special needs to be out in the open.  Something this special needs to be shared!

Are you a kind person

Are you a kind person?  A little self-examination can be a good thing, so take a good hard look at yourself.  Are you nice to people?  Does it just happen or do you have to really work at it?  I know that it is harder for some folks to be kind, but it is possible for ALL of us.  Sometimes it might take a bit more effort, but every single one of us can be kind.  Let's do it!

Be there for them

I keep hearing reach out. Share your problems. Talk about it. Reveal it. Ask for help. Yup.   All of that is good of course, but if we truly care, it is up to us to reach out to others. Do you know someone who is all alone and possibly feeling lonely or depressed?  Don't wait for their cry for help. Be there for them!

good in every day

Every day may not be good, but there is good in every day.  Say it again.  Every day may not be good, but there is good in every day.  Remember that.  Don't let things get you down.  Be kind to yourself!  Now, one more time - Every day may not be good, but there is good in every day!

Gratitude

When someone is kind enough to give you something, return that kindness by acknowledging their gift and saying thank you.  Someone buys you lunch?  Say thank you!  Someone gives you a present?  Say thank you!  Someone donates to a fundraiser you are sponsoring?  Say thank you!  I think written thank you notes are especially appropriate.

Make someone happy

I woke up on this Friday morning and the first thing I thought of was to make someone happy! (Yes that is indeed an old Jimmy Durante song. June Christy, Doris Day, Perry Como, Barbra Streisand, Aretha Franklin, Sergio Franchi, Dinah Washington, and Judy Garland also recorded it, along with a number of others. That isn't the point I am making though). Making someone happy shouldn't be too difficult. Will you join me?

Oh, The Places You'll Go

Theodor Seuss Geisel (whom we better know as Dr Seuss), must have been a very kind man. His numerous children's stories are fun, but they are also inspiring. This morning I am thinking particularly of these words from Oh, The Places You'll Go! "You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You're on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who'll decide where to go."

three things

I know I have said this before, but since I agree so much, I just have to say it once more.  The words are from novelist Henry James who said (to his nephew Billy James) "Three things in human life are important. The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind." I agree!

the joys of kindness

For me there is something especially joyful about not only doing kind thing, but also witnessing them.  I love seeing other people do nice things for each other.  It really makes my day!

Turkey jook

One of my favorite memories of kindness is the time I was given a nice big bowl or turkey jook (some people call it congee or rice porridge) a few days after Thanksgiving.  It was so delicious and I can still remember how good it made me feel.

let us give thanks

I think of Thanksgiving Day as one of the kindest days of the year.  We gather together and give thanks and we also share.  Sharing is such a wonderful part of kindness.

Impossible

The great Muhammad Ali said and did many thing that have inspired me.  Here is an example.  He said "Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they've been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact. It's an opinion. Impossible is not a declaration. It's a dare. Impossible is potential. Impossible is temporary. Impossible is nothing." 

together

Support each other,
Respect each other, and
Be there for each other.
We are all in this together!

come naturally

This isn't difficult to any degree.  It isn't very hard at all.  Being kind should just come naturally.  It's not something you need to think out or make great plans for.  It just is.

tons of great things

Relaxing and enjoying nature is often a great time to think about all the good things that come your way.  I am so fortunate to have tons of great things in my life - not just now, but tons of great things always.  How wonderful is that?  I think that's what makes me want to share these great things.  Of course every time I share my great things, I get a whole lot more back!

Early beginnings

It was a children's novel by Esther Forbes that first made me aware of standing up for others and trying to make a difference.  That book, Johnny Tremain, had a message that will stay with me forever.  Learning about love and kindness came earlier, largely from my mom and dad and a kind priest who always believed in me.  That is one of my guiding lights as I write these brief messages each morning.

Check your memory

Think back. Do you remember a kind act that someone did for you? How did it make you feel? It doesn't have to be a huge event - it doesn't have to require any money or gifts. Kindness is a way of life for many of us, and certainly you have been the recipient at some time. Check your memory. Didn't it feel great? Wouldn't you want to share that feeling with others?

Lincoln words

The sixteenth President of the United States, Abraham Lincoln said some terribly inspiring things like "I like to see a man proud of the place in which he lives. I like to see a man live so that his place will be proud of him." Lincoln also said "I dream of a place and a time where America will once again be seen as the last best hope of earth."

The niceness

I remember when I was little seeing the niceness of the spring plants poking up through the snow.  I remember the hyacinth plants that I loved for both their beauty and that wonderful smell.  I remember how nice the changing of the seasons made folks feel.  That was when I was little in Upstate New York.  I don't seem to see the niceness as much anymore.  Why is that?

A simple phone call

Yesterday morning the phone rang, and I was delighted to hear the voice of a friend I haven't spoken to in a couple of years.  (We have emailed and messaged, but this was our first time speaking to each other).  It made my day!  Something so simple and so kind - a phone call.  Kindness doesn't have to be complex.

Who said?

I love this saying:  "No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted."  I totally believe it.  I searched to see who said it and found unknown as well as Aesop.  Therefore, I can't say for sure who these words belong to, but like I said, I totally believe it!

why are you doing it now?

If you say your job is something you "don't plan on doing forever," I just have to ask you a simple question:  Why are you doing it now?

Unkind vs Kind

Have you ever had unkind things said about you? How did that make you feel? Now, take a moment to think about when kind things were instead said about you. I'll bet that felt a whole lot better, huh? If we all learned this simple lesson, we could make every day so much better.

Sharing stories

I love hearing stories of kindness.  Sometimes on the local news we hear of a neighborhood hero or maybe on a tv talk show or in a Facebook post.  The kind acts that people do always warm my heart and getting all the details is such an extra bonus.  Sharing stories can be done here too - just add them in the comments below!

Be kind to everyone day

The second Thursday in November is Be Kind To Everyone Day.  Actually, you won't find that on any lists or calendars, but don't you think it should be?  (I just made it up).  Come to think of it, we could celebrate that every day of the year!

care

There was a time when everybody cared about everyone else.  Really.  I'm not taking about being nosy.  I'm talking about genuine concern for other people, even if you don't know them.  That seems to have disappeared, and that makes me sad.  If you have a big family or a lot of friends, it might not seem like a big deal, but for others it does matter.  What a wonderful feeling it is to know that someone cares about you.  It also really feels good to be the caring one.

This is a kindness-only zone

Let's not be uncharitable, mean-spirited, mean, uncaring, cruel, unpleasant, nasty, vindictive, disagreeable, vicious, spiteful, malicious, unsympathetic, callous, unfeeling, or anything else that is negative.  Let kindness be the only way for us.  Let positive feeling and a happy spirit guide our way.  This is a kindness-only zone!

The Duke

My memory of actor John Wayne, "The Duke," is that he was a big man with a big heart. Despite being very conservative, there were things he said that have made a positive impact on me. One such saying: "Tomorrow is the most important thing in life. Comes into us at midnight very clean. It's perfect when it arrives and it puts itself in our hands. It hopes we've learned something from yesterday."

Speak up

Did you ever attend a theatre performance that moved you to tears?  Have you ever witnessed something that was so wonderful that it will stay in your mind forever?  Did a stranger ever make your day just by showing a little kindness?  Well, speak up.  Let them know how their actions effected you.  It just might make their day!

Let's get rid of hate

Love and kindness is always the way.  I actually think it should be the only way.  Sometimes it's extremely frustrating to see so much negativity and hatred.  I don't understand it.  Let's get rid of hate.  Let's show respect for others.  Come on!  We can do it!

beyond the plateaus

Bruce Lee lived a very short life, but it was an inspiring life. He said so many profound things. One of my favorites is "If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them."

Happiness and success

I believe it was Albert Schweitzer who said "Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success." I was just thinking about that. How happy are you?  How successful are you?

Hey there!

Hello!  Hey there!  How ya doing?  I hope things are well for you.  Smile.  Try to be happy even if you are in the midst of some difficulties.  Share your smile freely.  Share you joy too.  And be sure as you go through your day to spread some kindness!

My sister's birthday

Today is my sister's birthday.  I hope it is a happy one for her.  In your great kindness, let us always remember our siblings and all the folks in our lives as they celebrate milestones.  My sister is very nice.  Do feel free in joining me in sending her good wishes!

spread it

Goodness and kindness.  Spread it everywhere.  We need some everywhere.

From Tom Giaquinto

In his book Be A Good Human, Tom Giaquinto says this very important thing:  "We change the world a little each day with our kindness."

I need your help

If you read this every day, you already know that it is about kindness.  In my opinion, we need more of it.  I need your help though.  We all need to do our part.  It's an everything sort of thing too.  We aren't just kind for special events, but always and everywhere.  I'm not perfect, but I am trying to be a kinder person, and I hope you will all join me!

Kindness all around

Some days I see so many examples of kindness, it truly warms my heart. Yesterday it seemed to be everywhere, and I will tell some of those stories in the days ahead. Occasionally I get a little discouraged and think the world is falling apart. All of a sudden, I realize that kindness is all around. Such a great thing to realize.

Happy Halloween!

Costumes and candy!  Oh my!  This day also has so many built-in opportunities for kindness.  How creative can you be?  Be especially kind today to the children who are dressing up and trick-or-treating.  Oh, and have fun too!

comments

I'm grateful for the opportunity to share some thoughts here in this space every morning and there is a counter that tells me how many people click on here each day, but it cannot tell me if you actually read these words and what you might think about them.  Every now and then if you take a moment to comment here I would appreciate it.  I'd especially like to hear your own stories of kindness.

Homework Assignment

I do have many ideas, but I'd love to hear what you have to say as well, so here's your homework assignment: Think up a way to make this a kinder world.  Feel free to think up many different ways if you like. Then, share your suggestions here so that we can all join in implementing those ideas. Let's see how many different ideas we can come up with!

The beauty of the earth

Each morning I see things I haven't noticed before.  I see trees and plants and flowers I wasn't aware of and I notice the clouds in the sky and the birds that fly past me and even the occasional rabbit that runs away as I approach.  When you live in a big city, as I used to, you might not be as aware, but I have friends who notice and rejoice in the beauty of the earth.  When you see this, you have to think about preserving it.  We need to think about keeping the beauty around for others.  We need to be kind to our planet, just as we are kind to each other.

remember

Remember: You are special. You have purpose. You are loved.  Never forget that. This is true of every single person.  Remember it.  Remind others too. You are special. You have purpose. You are loved.

Obama on Change

Now more than ever, let us not forget the wise words of former President Barack Obama, who said "Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek."

It's really pretty remarkable

Kindness has a way of lifting us up, just like the eagle soars high above.  Kindness brings out the best in us and those around us, allowing us to reach new heights of compassion and understanding.  It's really pretty remarkable!

from Archbishop Tutu

Remember the words of Archbishop Desmond Tutu who said "Do your little bit of good where you are; it’s those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world."

as natural as breathing.

I don't know when (or if) everyone will catch on, but being kind is such an easy thing and important thing.  I hope that someday it will come as naturally for everyone as breathing.  We can do it!  I KNOW that we can!  Be kind!

Always

If someone asks you when you should be kind to others, there really is only one answer:  always.  Being kind isn't just for special occasions, it is something that should happen every single day of our lives!

inspiring

I love those who inspire us, like that Ralph Waldo Emerson said "What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside of you."

personal growth

The path from desire to action is not just about achieving goals. It is also about personal growth and transformation.  I certainly want to grow as a kind person.

knowledge and wisdom

About knowledge and wisdom, a wise person (I'm not sure who) had some profound words.  "Never mistake knowledge for wisdom. One helps you make a living; the other helps you make a life."

wonderful quote

I'm sure I've shared this wonderful quote here before. It's one of my favorites and comes from Ralph Waldo Emerson. "You cannot do kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late."

Be civil

Sometimes all the arguing in the world makes me want to scream, especially in the areas of politics and religion.  Let's be civil and let's be kind.

I want to be one

I want to be a good person.  I want to be a nice person in general.  I hope that I along the way I can influence others too, not only by my words, but more importantly by my actions.

footprints

Former First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt said, "Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart."  Lets all try to leave some footprints!

how many ways

How many ways are there to say "be kind"?  Well, if we are basing the answer on the number of posts here in this blog, it would be over 2,400 but that is only a tiny part of it all.  We all show kindness in our own ways, and that is a wonderful thing.  The ways are endless!

who

Every one of us have met someone who is kind.  If we are fortunate enough, we have met several people who are.  Kindness is not just for family and friends.  Hopefully we encounter kindness in the workplace, at school, when we are shopping, and even from the celebrities we enjoy.  Think for a moment about who might be on your list of kind people.  Let's all do our best to add to the world's kindness.

cans

My grandmother used to keep an empty coffee can to collect any coins she might accumulate during the day.  When the can was full, she'd donate it.  Another thing about cans, many of them are recyclable.  That is indeed kind to the planet. Many people participate in food drives to help out those who may have little or no food.  Food in cans is especially good because it lasts longer.

Light Up My life

Remember back when Debby Boone sang "You Light Up My life"? It's a happy song because lighting up someone's life is such a kind and happy thing to do. Today and every day, do your best to light up someone's life!

gifts don't come with strings

Gifts don't come with strings attached.  Has someone ever told you how many things they have done for you and how much you now owe them? In my way of thinking, they gave you nothing at all.  Of course, it is always very nice to do kind things for those who have done kind things for you, but that should not be your reason. Actually, no reason is necessary at all. Give out of the love in your heart and expect nothing in return. That is the real joy.

kindness for the animals

Do you have a dog or cat or any pets at home? Are there any animals around the places you frequent? Sometimes when we talk about kindness, we forget about the animals, and they need kindness too. Treat the animals of the world with the same love, kindness, and respect that you like to have shown toward you.

surrounded by kindness

For some it just comes naturally.  I think so of it has to do with tradition and how people act around you.  If we are always surrounded with kindness, then it would seem we are more likely to be kind.  Of course I am no expert.  What do YOU think?

Now

I keep hearing the stories from funerals of friends and loved ones commenting on how much they loved the departed person.  Yes, this is good to be sure, but I can't help wondering if they said that while the person was alive.  Never wait to express your positive feelings toward someone.  Let them know you love them NOW.

Some kind things to do

Some kind things we can all do:  Donate time at a senior center.  Make a point of finding the name of a supermarket or drugstore employee who helped you, and then praise him/her through that company’s corporate office.  Tell your parents/children why you love them.  Share your smile generously.  Call or visit a homebound person.  As you go about your day, pick up trash.  Go through your closets and find several nice items and then donate them to a shelter.

self kindness

You are not too old and it's not too late. Never give up. Be kind to yourself. You never know what your future might bring.

Everything is not about YOU

Pandemics are real, whether or not you know someone who is sick. Racism is real, even if you are not a racist. White privilege is real, even if you don't feel it. Police brutality is real, even if that cop you know is kind and just. Your world isn't THE world.  Everything is not about YOU.  Burying your head in the sand and pretending something does not exist, won't make it so.

I admire kind people

Rabbi and Jewish theologian and philosopher Abraham Joshua Heschel once said "When I was young, I used to admire intelligent people as I grow older, I admire kind people." You KNOW I agree with that!

Not a guru

More than once, someone has called me the Kindness Guru. An expert on kindness? Oh, dear no! Wouldn't it be great if we could all be an expert?  I do look for our world to be kinder each day. That requires us all to do our part, and that certainly includes me. This blog is meant to encourage the readers, and also to encourage me. I hope I will become better each day.

look forward

"Look forward with hope, not backwards with regret."  Wise words, huh?  (It isn't an original thought, but I can't recall who said it).

Stay

September is National Suicide Prevention Month, and I want to remind everyone again that life is precious.  Stay.  The world is better with you.  

We can all help prevent suicide. The 988 Lifeline provides 24/7, 

free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention, 

and crisis resources for you or your loved ones.

988

Missing Mister Rogers

I sure am missing Mister (Fred) Rogers.  He was such a kind man and always pointed us in the right direction.  He once said "As human beings, our job in life is to help people realize how rare and valuable each one of us really is, that each of us has something that no one else has, or ever will have-something inside that is unique to all time."

playing

We don't stop playing because we grow old.
Nope.  We grow old because we stop playing.

Sunshine

Those who bring sunshine to the lives of others cannot keep it from themselves.  Bring some sunshine.

simple message

 The purpose of this blog, the message of this blog, is very, very simple.  BE KIND!

sharing is caring

Each morning, I write here in this place about kindness.  I'm not an expert, just one voice.  I invite you to join with me though.  Share this daily blog with your friends and share your thoughts about kindness in the comments.  Sharing is caring!

kindness to those who have passed

When I was young, I was taught to never speak ill of the dead.  Nowadays it seems to happen all the time.  I'm not suggesting we lie.  What I will suggest is that if we live a life of kindness, nobody will have a bad word to say about us.  For those who have already passed, is it necessary to speak of their faults?  Regardless of the way they lived, can we not remember them with love?

Humility

Here are some very wise words from C. S. Lewis:  "Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less."

like a wildfire

The wonderful Whoopi Goldberg once said "When you are kind to someone in trouble, you hope they'll remember and be kind to someone else. And it'll become like a wildfire."

Treat people with kindness

Treat people with kindness. Behind every face there is a story that could use a little more love. You can be the supplier.

universal language

Kindness is the universal language that blind people can see and the deaf can hear.  We can all relate to kindness!

wise words from Jesse Jackson

Listen to these words from the Reverend Jesse Jackson who said, "Never look down on anybody unless you’re helping them up."

be my friend

Don’t walk in front of me, I may not follow.

Don’t walk behind me, I may not lead. 

Walk beside me.  Just be my friend.

miracles

Sometimes miracles are just good people with kind hearts.

Better, so much better

The world is so much better when people are kind to each other.  Our day is so much better when we are kind to others and they are kind to us.  Everything is so much better with kindness.

Aesop's quotes

I love most of Aesop's fables, but I also like a lot of his quotes, like this one.  "No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted." 

Daily Kindness

No, I am not an expert in kindness.  I keep reminding you of that because folks keep saying that I am.  I'm not perfect by any means and I never will be, but I want to be a kinder person.  Each day I try to do a better job.  By writing here every morning about kindness, I'm hopefully not just encouraging you, but also encouraging me and causing me to be more aware of my own actions.  

Friggatriskaidekaphobia

Friggatriskaidekaphobia, fear of Friday the 13th. Many reasons for this, but especially in numerology where twelve is considered the number of completeness (12 tribes of Israel, the 12 Apostles, 12 signs of the zodiac, 12 days of Christmas, 12 hours of the clock, etc). The number thirteen is then considered a transgression, going beyond completeness. This day though doesn't have to be unlucky.  Be kind to yourself. Don't add unnecessary worry. Be kind to others too. I think we can make this a very lucky day - certainly a very kind one!

equality and opportunity for all

I cannot understand at all how destroying families through deportation benefits our society in any way. Whatever happened to basic human kindness? Whatever happened to the fundamental American promise of equality and opportunity for all?  How can we think of some people as "illegal"?

He takes after his father

When someone says "He takes after his father (or mother)," I always think of that in a kind way, unless of course his father was a multiple ax-murderer.

Overflowing mind

Some days when I wake up my mind takes a little longer than my body.  Perhaps my brain is still processing those overnight dreams.  Most days though I find my mind is overflowing with thoughts and ideas.  What will I write about kindness here in this space?  What will I put in another blog I write?  I'm so grateful for good health and the ability to think.  I'm so grateful for all the kindness in the world that inspires me to want more!

neuroscience

Being kind to other people actually benefits the brain of the giver more than that of the receiver.  Leave it to neuroscience to help make us more kind!

There can never be too much

Kindness is such a good thing, there can never be too much.  More and more kind acts, and we can still enjoy more of them.  Kindness brings about happiness.  Let's never stop!

good advice

Accept what is,
  let go of what was,
    have faith in what will be.

forgotten thoughts

When I woke up this morning, I had a wonderful idea of what to write here.  I usually have some thoughts, but this was very specific and involved a song.  Unfortunately, that's all I remember!  Did you ever forget something so completely in such a short period of time?  Oh well!  Perhaps I will remember and can write about it another day.  In the meantime we can all certainly remember to be kind!

CARE

Students and teachers at Georgia’s Apalachee High School, where a teenager carried out a deadly mass shooting yesterday, are on everyone's mind this morning. That certainly is the kind thing. In my opinion though tragedies like this should never occur. We need to all care more about our kids and their educators. School shootings can be prevented. First though we all have to CARE.

Helping me

I began this daily blog to help bring more kindness to the world.  I have absolutely no idea if there has been any success.  I must say though that this is helping me.  I've said it before here, but it can be repeated.  By thinking each morning about kindness in the world, I think I am becoming kinder, and that certainly must be a good thing!

begin with a positive thought

A good beginning is always a great idea. Begin your day with a positive thought. No matter how tough yesterday was, a fresh opportunity to make it better awaits you today. Positivity is a powerful thing. Be kind to yourself!

a few random acts of kindness

Here are some things we can all do to show kindness toward others: Volunteer to be a tutor in a school. Buy a pack of brightly colored stickers and give them to children you meet during the day. Let the person behind you in the grocery store go ahead of you in line. Invite someone new for dinner, either in your home or in a restaurant. Give toys to the children at a shelter. Say nice things randomly to friends on social media. twitter Buy some bottles of water and randomly hand them out to strangers on the street. Drop off a plant or a plate of cookies to your nearby police or fire station. (Please add your own ideas below)!

Suicide Prevention Month

September is Suicide Prevention Month, and I'm going to say something about this several times. While suicide prevention must be addressed year-round, the month of September especially reminds us that we can make an impact and help those in crisis and their loved ones.  Every life is important.

We can all help prevent suicide. The 988 Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention, and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals in the United States.

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water

Lots of hot days where I live. One very kind thing to do on days like this is to buy bottles of water (those little ones work just fine) and randomly hand them out to strangers on the street.

Become an inspiration

Let your life really mean something. Become an inspiration to other people so that they may try to do more and to become more than they are today.

Listen

Listen to your heart.

Share the love.

Always be kind.

birthday kindness

Today is my birthday, and I already know there will be a lot of attention given to me.  I'm grateful for the kindness of course.  I'm also grateful for the daily kindness - the folks who are kind by nature and don't need any sort of special reason or occasion.  I'm grateful for the folks who read these words here too.  Thanks so much.

Be on time

Someone I know is ALWAYS late. Seriously. I have never seen him on time for anything. He'll invite me to do something with him and then I wait and wait and wait.  Is he coming?  One of the kindest and most respectful things we can all do is to be on time. We’re all busy and every one of us should stop making people wait for us.  

Size doesn't matter

There are those who think that when you speak of kindness, you are referring to some huge lavish extravagant action, but that really isn't the case.  Size doesn't matter at all.  In fact it's the little things that mean so very much - the smile or the nod hello.  The daily niceties of life are the foundation of kindness.

A wonderful kind lady

Whenever I see someone being obviously kind to someone else, it makes my heart sing.  Last night I encountered such a person.  I swear, kindness should be her middle name.  This wonderful kind lady was smiling and happy and doing nice things for several people, not expecting anything at all in return.  Oh my!  We need more like her.

Guidelines

Trust before you love. 

Know before you judge. 

Commit before you promise. 

Forgive before you forget. 

Appreciate before you regret.

keep those cards and letters coming

How often do you receive mail?  I don't mean email or texts, but actual physical paper inside an envelope that is delivered by the Postal Service right to your door.  Folks don't do it nearly as much as they used to, and that's a shame.  It's such a kind thing to let someone know you are thinking of them and it's so nice to open a card from a friend!

Disney dream

The great film producer, animator, voice actor, and movie pioneer Walt Disney only lived to be 65 years old, but he accomplished so much. Whenever I need any sort of encouragement, all I have to do is look at his brilliant life.  Disney once said "If you can dream it, you can do it."

All by myself

Does "all by myself" work for you?  I know there are people who thrive on being all alone.  I am not one of them and I know that is true for many.  Have you ever felt lonely?  Some people are lonely all the time. What can we do about that?  Well, a phone call might help or a card in the mail.  A short visit can help usually be a good thing. We each have it in our power to help cut down on the loneliness out there.  Even folks who are new to town and don't know many people yet, can have lonely moments.

No worries

Have you noticed that retails employees don't say "you're welcome" these days? Most of the time it seems to be "no worries," which wouldn't bother me if I were Australian, but I'm not. I'd have no issue if they said "my pleasure." I might even prefer it. It's all about courtesy. "No worries" just seems way too indifferent to me. In courtesy, it's always better to take the high road.  "I'm so glad I didn't cause a problem or worry you," should not be what you are thinking.  Instead I want to feel glad I was there.  Wow!  She said it was her pleasure.  How nice! 

Just one word

One kind word can change someone's entire day!  Think about that.  Just one word.

Let me count the ways

How many random acts of kindness can their possibly be? Let me count the ways. When a new business opens in town, drop of a plant or fresh flowers to welcome them. You can do the same thing when a new family moves into your neighborhood. Donate blood. Volunteer to be a tutor in a school or perhaps at the local library. Let the shopper behind you in the grocery store go ahead of you in line. Say nice things randomly to folks on facebook or X. Smile. Cheerfully greet those you come in contact with. Oh my! There are so many ways.

The Call

Yesterday was a busy one for me.  At a bit before five though, everything became wonderful.  It was a caring person calling me on the phone that made everything so special.  People don't seem to take the time these days, for themselves or for each other.  I'm glad this friend took the time though and made that call.  It truly made my day!

More Kindness

More than anything, I would like to see more kindness.  I really don't understand how anyone could object or disagree.  It doesn't cost money or require special training.  It doesn't even have to cost us any extra time.  Being nice and being kind should be a natural thing that we simply do.

Just because

“Just because” can be such a sweet reason to do something.  Let's be kind today,  just because.

Wonderful daughter

In the hallway of my apartment building I ran into a young woman whom I thought I had seen from a distance earlier.  "Are you a new neighbor of mine?" I asked.  No.  She was checking on her mom.  We chatted for a while because this women seemed so nice, it was almost impossible to believe.  She was coming over every two hours to put drops in her mother's eyes.  Normally she came a bit less but still was around a lot helping with chores, getting groceries, and just keeping Mom company.  I think that's pretty wonderful!

Say it often

"I wish I had the chance to say goodbye. I would like to have thanked you for your service, your friendship, all that you were to me." I can't tell you how often I hear that when someone passes away.  Why did they wait though?  Tell people what they mean to you now. Say it often, and not just with words.  Why wait until you are standing at someone's deathbed to let them know how you feel? 

Another few minutes in bed

Another few minutes in bed this morning would have made me very happy, but it's not the only thing. Right now, I'll be happy to get some smiles. I'll be happy when I see others who are happy. I'm pretty easy to please. Oh I can get more sleep - I might even go to bed a bit earlier tonight. Right now though, I just want to share some joy!

Bring food

I was watching a tv program from Australia the other day, and there was mention of taking a casserole to a neighbor.  How lovely.  It seems like we used to do that in this country.  Taking cookies, soup, or a casserole to a new neighbor, or someone who just lost a family member, or a friend who’s had a serious health diagnosis is such a kind thing to do.

who they are

Love someone for who they are,
not who you want them to be.

gratitude

Showing gratitude is one of the simplest yet most powerful things humans can do for each other.

Patience

The ability to wait for something without frustration is a useful skill to have. How many of us are really good at this though? It may take days, even weeks for some of the results from yesterday's voting to become known. Take a deep breath. Relax. Right now is when that patience can really some in handy. Look out for your friends, family, co-workers, and neighbors too. Waiting can be tough on everyone. Worry and frustration won't make things any better though.

never-ending kindness

Sometimes kindness comes unexpectedly from folks far away that we barely know. That happened to me last night, and it wasn't just one incident. The same person show concern for me over and over and some very nice actions followed. The beginning of a great friendship with this never-ending kindness actually brought tears to my eyes. I won't go into detail, but this made me very happy.

And the livin is easy

Remember that old song?  ""Summertime, and the livin is easy."  I could almost burst out singing!  That living we sing of just isn't quite as easy for everyone though.  Remember that.  Your kindness toward others can go a long way!

Those who come in to our lives

Everyone comes into our life for a reason; some good, some bad.  Be kind to each one of them.  We can make a difference in their lives, just as they make a difference in ours.  Each person who comes into our lives, helps to make us who we are.

Jonah Kim on love

My friend Jonah Kim is one of the most inspiring people I know. He says "It's easy to love those who love you, that is, when they love you the way you want to be loved. It isn't so easy to love those who wrong you time and time again. But we are human and we are bound to fail those we love over and over again over the course of a lifetime." Jonah continues "Some say this kind of love can only exist between parent and child. If you have never experienced the desire to love this way, perhaps you haven't learned to truly love yet. This is why divorce rates keep rising; majority of matrimonial vows are defenestrated in the first year because the 'I' is so much more important than the 'love you'." 

Sunrise music

Does music make you happy? The sun is just now coming up where I am, but I'm already listening to happy peppy music (oldies) and it helps charge me up for the day and it certainly helps me to be happy. I try to be pleasant and kind always, and being happy leads me in that direction. You might say that good music makes me a kinder person.

question from a philosopher

Here's a question for you this morning from the French philosopher Jean-Jacques Rousseau:  "What wisdom can you find that is greater than kindness?"  You're welcome to mull that around today, but I'm sure you will find there is none.

my birth month

It's my birth month!  I am so grateful for all the blessings of life so far that you KNOW I am going to be extra kind this month.

Kindness to animals

Kindness is not something that is restricted to other people. We should all be kind to the environment, and especially be kind to animals. Look into the loving eyes of a cat or a puppy. You can see in an instant that kindness is what the deserve!

be a friend

Today is International Friendship Day. Being a friend is one of the kindest things anyone can do. Be there. Make a difference in someone's life.

for one’s community

In her many years, Supreme Court Associate Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg said a lot of important things, but one that stands out for me is this quote, that I believe is so very true: "To make life a little better for people less fortunate than you, that’s what I think a meaningful life is. One lives not just for oneself but for one’s community."

Enjoying your summer

So are you enjoying your summer?  You know what would make it even more enjoyable?  You already know what I'm going to say.  Kindness.  Yup.  Kindness makes everything more enjoyable!

special kind things to do

Kindness is something we do all the time, but some special kind acts?  Here's a few ideas:  Send dessert to another table when eating out.  Donate your old eyeglasses so someone else can use them.  Help a parent with their baby stroller.  Talk to the shy person who's sitting by themselves at a party.  Help someone with heavy packages.  Let the other person have the parking space, even if you arrived first.  Other ideas?

Because of who you are

Show kindness to everyone!  Make no exception.  Do it not because of who they are, but do it because of who YOU are!

Inspirational words

I have always been moved by these inspirational words from Helen Keller: "The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched - they must be felt with the heart."

I love you

Let me say it again - I love you.  You may not know who I am or anything at all about me, but I love you.  If people can hate for no reason, than I can love for no reason.

Tuneful Tuesday

I woke up hearing Melissa Etheridge sing Tuesday Morning, and then for some reason I started thinking of other "Tuesday" songs. There are a lot. I came up with 25, but there are probably more.  How many can you think of?  I wonder what day has the most songs written about it.  Anyway, have a tuneful Tuesday, and as always be kind!

Good and bad

There is good and there is bad.  I suppose it has always been that way and always will be (even though I don't understand why there should be bad), but can we at least try to have more of the good?  I have said this over and over and it will always be true - love and kindness is the best way to go.  Always.  No exceptions.  Let's do all we can to spread more kindness!

JOY

Saint Mother Teresa was such a kind person, such a joyful person, such a loving person - it's no wonder she has been declared a saint.  She once said "Joy is prayer; joy is strength: joy is love; joy is a net of love by which you can catch souls."
 

Say no to hate

You cannot be a kind person if you spend your time hating others.  Kind people stand up against hate and know that there is a better way.  There is never a good time to hate someone for who they are because we are all created in the same way and all are deserving of love and respect.  Always say no to hate and yes to love!

Unforgetable

We always remember the good stuff, right?  I can remember those wonderful moments when folks did really kind things for me, and I also remember when I witnessed their kind acts toward others.  You know what?  I can also remember the reaction to things I have done for others.  it might have given them joy, but I think it gave me even greater joy seeing their happiness.  That is truly unforgettable.

Dishonesty will stare honesty out

A dishonest politician?  Really?  This makes me think of these words from Charles Dickens: "I have known a vast quantity of nonsense talked about bad men not looking you in the face. Don’t trust that conventional idea. Dishonesty will stare honesty out of countenance any day in the week, if there is anything to be got by it."

be careful with your words

Something to think about:  a  tongue has no bones, yet it is strong enough to break a heart. Be careful with your words.

living by our words

Writing here every day about kindness is not enough. I have to practice what I preach. I have to BE kind. In the words of John F. Kennedy, "As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them."

Be one

The world is filled with nice people. Some days it might be harder to find them, but if you can’t find one, then be one!

what you do for others

The wonderful entertainer Danny Thomas once said "Success in life has nothing to do with what you gain in life or accomplish for yourself.  It's what you do for others."

couldn't care more

I have no idea who said this, but it isn't my own original thought. (I have searched, and can't find it, but I am certain I read it somewhere or heard someone else say it). "In a world full of people who couldn't care less, be someone who couldn't care more." Yeah, it's not my original thought, but I certainly agree with it!

Are they stars?

Look up into the sky, and think about this wonderful Eskimo Proverb: “Perhaps they are not stars, but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy.”

rude behavior

I am not a fan of rude behavior.  Nope.  I am not a fan at all.  There seems to be more and more of it too.  Now kindness is not the opposite of rudeness, but if someone is being rude, it would be impossible for them to also be kind.  Let's show courtesy to everyone, and kindness too!

The little bit of love that I sow

Priest and theologian Henri Nouwen, put forth some great questions when he asked "Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone's face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I love?" Father Nouwen said "These are the real questions. I must trust that the little bit of love that I sow now will bear many fruits, here in this world and the life to come."

teaching our kids

Some kind advice: Let's not teach our children to be rich. Instead, let's educate them to be happy, so when they grow up they will know the value of things, not the price.

In other words

Think of some other words that describe kindness. Here are a few: good will, helpfulness, indulgence, goodness, hospitality, humanity, patience, grace, serviceability, solicitousness, tact, and  thoughtfulness.  Also graciousness, magnanimity, cordiality, benevolence, courtesy, decency, sweetness, good intention, altruism, tenderness, and affection.  Oh and also charity, understanding, unselfishness, amiability, beneficence,  forbearance, clemency, gentleness, and consideration.

too late

Ralph Waldo Emerson certainly had a way with words! His religious views were often considered radical during his lifetime. I can relate to so many things he said though, like this: "You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late."  Yes, I posted this quote before, but I really like it!

The Fortune Cookie

My fortune cookie said "All great things had small beginnings." Indeed. We want a better world. We want a better life for our children. We want a more kind and more caring humankind. "Oh it is so difficult. It's too big for me!" So often we can become discouraged. What can one person do after all? Well we can change the world. We can make things better. Even if we are the only one at the beginning, we just need to remember that all great things had small beginnings.

From Ms Winfrey

Oprah Winfrey once said "Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough."  True words!

Independence Day

On this Independence Day, I am remembering these important words from Frederick Douglass: "The life of the nation is secure only while the nation is honest, truthful and virtuous."

day by day

Take life day by day and be grateful for all the little things. Don’t get stressed over those things that you can’t control.

Love on a two-way street

Don't they love me anymore?  Oh my!  Did you ever think about friends or relatives with that question, because you never or rarely hear from them anymore?  Ask yourself one more question:  when did they last hear from you?  It really is a two-way street.  If we want so desperately to hear from them and to be included in their lives, it would seem to me we should be including them in ours!

Oh Canada!

I regularly chat with a dear woman from Canada. Today, Canada Day, I am especially thinking of her. Formerly known as Dominion Day, today celebrates the anniversary of Canadian Confederation which occurred on July 1, 1867, with the passing of the British North America Act, when the three separate colonies of the United Canadas, Nova Scotia, and New Brunswick were united into a single dominion called Canada.  Special kindness today to all our Canadian friends.

do it some more

It's the last day of June.  Tomorrow is Canada Day and a few days later the US celebrates Independence Day.  Every day though is special.  Every day is an opportunity for more kindness.  Has this been a kind month for you?  I certainly hope so.  Now as we go into July, let's do it some more!

testify to love

Songwriters Paul Field, Henk Pool, Robert Riekerk, and Ralph Van Mennen hit a home run when they wrote Testify to Love. On what is LGBTQ+ Pride Weekend in many places, I'm thinking of the incredible lyrics of that song: 

               "For as long as I shall live, I will testify to love
               I'll be a witness in the silences when words are not enough
               With every breath I take, I will give thanks to God above
               For as long as I shall live, I will testify to love"

remembering a friend

Today would have been the 51st birthday of a dear friend who was the very picture of kindness.  Cancer and took him way too soon.  I will always remember him though and am so grateful he came my way.

Will we ever learn

Many years ago the Rev Dr Martin Luther King Jr. said “We have flown the air like birds and swum the sea like fishes, but have yet to learn the simple act of walking the earth like brothers.” My question is "Will we ever learn"?

I may be wrong

I was just thinking, and I may be wrong, but there was a time when writing words like I do here every morning, would be totally unnecessary.  There was a time, and again I may be wrong, when everyone was basically kind.  Maybe it is just how I want to remember things.  Maybe it is just how I hope it will someday be once again.

Behind the music

Todd Rundgren has always been one of my favorite musicians. The moment I hear the first notes of Hello It's Me, I get a lump in my throat. I remember that Rundgren once said "Music is the way I understand how to communicate now, the way that I've learned how to communicate . . . but it will eventually have to go beyond that. You see, I've realized that music is not what keeps people involved - it's the attitude behind the music."

Einstein's truth

One of humanity's greatest minds, Albert Einstein, once said "There are two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle." You don't have to be an Einstein to know that's the truth!

My Goal

It's my goal every single day to be a kinder, nicer person, and to never be the one who broke someone's heart, but to instead be the one who helped to mend it.  I will keep working on this goal day after day and try to improve.

Saturday

It is Saturday the 22nd day of June and it is a day to be kind to one another.  Isn't that true every single day?  Of course it is!  I just wanted to remind us all.  Yes, we should always be kind.

blood

We don't make blood in labs.  When someone in a car accident needs blood, it comes from our donations.  If a cancer patient or a woman in childbirth needs blood, it comes from us.  One of the kindest things a person can do is to donate blood.  I have said this for years, and it is true.  Your blood donations truly save lives.  Think about becoming a blood donor.

Life is too short

Life is just too short, too unpredictable and too complicated. Be happy no matter what.  A smile sometimes is all you need.

Kind Willie

You have probably heard already that a great athlete passed away yesterday, the incredible San Francisco Giants Legend Willie Mays. Besides his skill in baseball, I keep hearing folks talk about how warm and generous and kind he was. Nice. That is the way a person should be remembered. May we all be that kind!

kind words

Over the weekend I received the novel that a dear friend wrote and so I quickly sent him a message of thanks. He is such a loving and generous person, so I wasn't surprised that he responded to me for thanking him. He also said "your 'kindness blog' is lovely!"  I have no idea how many people actually read these words every day, but his kind words are certainly encouraging, and I am grateful.

Not that long ago

Not that long ago I mentioned hearing of someone's death.  We for some reason had stopped keeping in touch.  I regret that.  There were so many opportunities to say what I felt about this person, but not anymore.  Don't wait.  Tell people who you feel about them now.  Show your love and you concern for those people in your life while you still have a chance.

Good

How much good do we see each day? 

What can we do to add to the good? 

Add good. Be kind.

to laugh

Peanuts cartoon creator Charles Schulz, was a very inspiring man. One of the things I remember he said was "If I were given the opportunity to present a gift to the next generation, it would be the ability for each individual to learn to laugh at himself." Indeed. Thank you Mr Schulz.

enjoy life

I've said this many times and it is so important. We should all make the most of every day. Enjoy life. Do what we can to makes the world better and help our neighbors to also make the most of every day.

equally

Voltaire said it. “All the citizens of a state cannot be equally powerful, but they may be equally free.”

cures

A kind word, a good laugh, and a long restful sleep are three of the best cures for anything.

Pie

Can you bake a cherry pie?  How about an apple one?  How about baking one for someone else - or maybe some bread or cake?  One of the kindest things you can do is to give a nice freshly baked item to someone.  Yum!

Be kind to animals

Being kind to our neighbors is important of course, but it is also so very important to be kind to animals.  We hear about animal cruelty a lot, which I find disgusting, and I'd love to see a campaign for humans to remember they share this planet with over 2.16 million animal species.  Let us be kind to them!

It's Sunday

It's Sunday and the beginning of another week.  That might not seem like a big deal, but I am grateful for each and every day of my life and am especially grateful for every opportunity to be kind to others.  So, let's get going!  Where will you be showing kindness today?

Is there anything better than love

Ask yourself this: What is better than love? Seriously. Can you come up with an answer? Is there anything better than love? I don't think so. We can always use more of it, as a matter of fact. There is nothing better than love! No sirree!  Nothing at all is better than love.

turn the page

Life is like a book.  If you never turn the page, you will never know what the next chapter holds.

what this is all about

Just in case you stumbled upon this blog for the very first time, let me tell you what this is all about. It's pretty simple. This is about kindness. I want to be a kinder person and I want this to be a kinder world. Please help!

Wisdom of Maya Angelou

Maya Angelou was so very wise. She said, “We all should know that diversity makes for a rich tapestry, and we must understand that all the threads of the tapestry are equal in value no matter what their color.”

Hold the door

Remember when folks always opened a door for a woman?  How about when people see someone else coming and keep the door open for you?  Remember?  It doesn't seem to happen as much as it once did.  Something as simple as holding the door open can make someone's day.  Such an easy kind act!

Thank you Mister Rogers

Fred Rogers was always such a comfort and was so encouraging. He told us "Being kind means responding to the needs of others—and people can be kind, no matter how old or young we are."  Thank you Mister Rogers!

Melissa said

“Love is never wrong.” 

       -Melissa Etheridge

the rainbow of humanity

As LGBTQ+ Pride Month begins, I remember these words from rainbow flag creator Gilbert Baker: "What I liked about the rainbow is that it fits all of us. It’s all the colors. It represents all the genders. It represents all the races. It’s the rainbow of humanity." 

another month

Today we end the fifth month of the year.  Wow!  Sometimes it seems like time flies by.  How has 2024 been to you so far?  Do the people you come in contact with seem more kind these days?  How kind are YOU?  Be proud of yourself if you think you are improving, but never stop and never give up.  We can always improve.

My epitaph

There are all sorts of things that people say about us after we pass away, but I would like my epitaph to be, He was a kind person.  What a great way to live life and a wonderful way to be remembered.

Spreading around that kindness

Bring coworkers a special treat.  Give the gift of your smile.  Tell a bus or taxi driver how much you appreciate their driving.  Draw names at work/school and have people bring a small gift or treat for their secret pal.  Deliver fresh-baked cookies or holiday candies to workers at government offices.  Sweep a neighbor's sidewalk.  Collect warm clothing during this cold season for those who don't have any.  So many ways we can all show kindness!

distance

Distance does not ruin a relationship. You don't have to see someone everyday to care about them.  These days it is even easier to show your care, even from far away!

true heroism

On this Memorial Day, I remember the words of tennis great Arthur Ashe who said “True heroism is remarkably sober, very undramatic. It is not the urge to surpass all others at whatever cost, but the urge to serve others at whatever cost.”

Discrimination is NOT kind

I will never understand discrimination in any form.  When I was little I remember the separate drinking fountains labeled "whites" and "colored."  I remember when guys with long hair were thought to be bad.  Oh yeah and there was the looks people gave when they encountered two people of different races together.  Banning gays in the military went on way too long and now apparently we are reintroducing a transgender ban.  Why?  I don't get it.  This is one of the most unkind things I can think of.  How can you ban an entire group of people?

On the chalkboard

Go write this 100 times on the chalkboard:   I AM A KIND PERSON.  Wait!  Better yet, let's all just BE a kind person!

self-kindness

To truly practice self-love, you have to learn self-kindness, and being kind to yourself means getting serious and committed to your dreams.

All things break

Everyone has tough days from time to time. I am reminded of some marvelous words from L.R. Knost, She gets right to it saying "Do not be dismayed by the brokenness of the world.  All things break. And all things can be mended. Not with time, as they say, but with intention. So go. Love intentionally, extravagantly, unconditionally."

What was I thinking?

Did you ever sit down and start to write something, but then your mind goes blank?  What was I thinking?  Have I run out of things to say?  Is there not even one more thing to be said about kindness?  Oh my!  You know the answer of course.  There is always more to say because there is always more to do, until kindness becomes a way of life for us all!

self training

We would all do good to train ourselves to live in the present without regretting the past or fearing the future.

Karen was singing

Fifty-two years ago, Karen Carpenter was singing "What I've got they used to call the blues. Nothin' is really wrong, Feelin' like I don't belong." Ever had a day like that yourself? That popular song Rainy Days and Mondays could easily describe today, except for one thing: Nothing needs to get us down. Nothing. It's raining where I live, and it is indeed Monday, but I refuse to be depressed about anything. There are bright corners everywhere. Just look for them.

In appreciation of all those teachers

Letha Sines is someone I will never forget.  She was my sixth grade teacher and gave us so much!  My aunt, who later became a teacher also, was a student of Miss Sines too.  Even my sister had the great experience of this wonderful teacher, although by her year in sixth grade, she had become Mrs Letha Munson.  I fondly remember Lou Ella Gridley who taught me in fifth grade too, and Mrs Doyle from the fourth grade.  I appreciate them all, and my numerous friends and relatives who went into teaching.  Such a giving profession!

spread the kindness

Let me talk to you a bit about niceness or affection or helpfulness or hospitality or warmth or friendliness or unselfishness or benevolence or consideration or warmheartedness or neighborliness or charitableness or gentleness or understanding or thoughtfulness or generosity or big-heartedness - in other words, kindness. That's what this daily blog is all about. Spread the word, and spread the kindness.  

How you make people feel

Just about everything I ever heard from the incredible Maya Angelou, makes me feel good. It's so appropriate that she is the one who said "I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."

being happy

Being happy does not mean that everything is perfect. What it means is that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections.

Kindest day of May

What is the kindest day of the month of May?  How about today?  We can make this happen.  Start spreading that kindness!

Your presence

Reaching out to people who are grieving doesn't happen as often as you might think. Don’t pretend nothing happened. If you don’t know what to do, simply be there. Your presence will mean a lot.

hospital week

Highlighting our hospitals, health systems, and health care workers and the innovative ways they are supporting and connected to our communities, yesterday we began Hospital Week. As a hospital volunteer of many years, I can tell you one thing for certain about hospitals. You will encounter a LOT of kindness there!

another be good to mommy day

On the old television program Captain Kangaroo, I can remember them singing "Another Be Good To Mommy Day."  Of course every day is such a day.  Today is Mother's Day and while people will do special things for their moms, I want to encourage you all do remember the wisdom of Captain Kangaroo.  Don't just be good to your mom today, but every single day.

feedback

Whether this is your first time here or if you read this every day, I'd love some feedback.  Why do you read this blog?  What does kindness mean to you?  What is the kindest thing anyone has ever done for you?

What can we possibly do?

Do you think this is a kind world we live in?  Can we do better?  Would more kindness be a better thing?  Think about it for a moment.  What can we possibly do to bring more kindness into our lives and the lives of all those we come in contact with?

Valerie Bertinelli on happiness

Actress Valerie Bertinelli once said "Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy. There's going to be stress in life, but it's your choice whether you let it affect you or not."  

What are you expecting

Have you read this blog before?  Do you read it often?  Just what are you expecting to see me write about?  Kindness of course!  Being kind is enjoying life.  Oh my!  The kinder people are, the better our world is.  Don't you agree?

giving blood

Want to hear some amazing numbers?  Every 2 seconds someone in the United States needs blood and or platelets. Approximately 29,000 units of red blood cells are needed every day in the US and nearly 5,000 units of platelets and 6.500 units of plasma are needed. Wow!  Blood cannot be made in a lab.  When blood is needed it comes from the kind and caring donors who truly save lives.  That's why I mention it here so often.

nurses

Nurses are amazing, and on this Nurses Day, I want to quote Maya Angelou who said "As a nurse we have the opportunity to heal the mind, soul, heart, and body of our patients. They may forget your name, but they will never forget how you made them feel." I agree. It has been said "Save one life, you’re a hero. Save 100 lives, you’re a nurse."

Always kind

There are tons of random kind things we can do for others (like paying the bus fare for the passenger boarding behind you, or introducing yourself to new neighbors, or volunteering for a charity, or giving a hot cup of coffee to a homeless person), but being kind doesn't have to be a specific special thing we do.  It's really about the nice way we always interact with others.

being called selfish

Nineteenth century academic and theologian Richard Whately told us "A man is called selfish not for pursuing his own good, but for neglecting his neighbor's."

Springtime ease

The beauty of the spring and even the generally nice weather seem to make everything a little bit easier.  That seems to even include niceness. 

Don't wait

I have said this many times before, but it really cannot be said too much.  Tell people who you feel about them now.  Don't wait.  Yesterday I learned of the death of someone I have many fond memories of.  We had been out of touch, and now it's too late.  Don't let that happen to you and those you care about.  Show your love and you concern for those people in your life.

new month

It's a new month and a new week and a new opportunity to show our kindness!  How wonderful!  Happy May everybody!  Be kind!

more love

More love.
Our world can always use more love.

Why wait?

Do you have a friend or relative that you just adore?  Have you ever told them so?  Why wait?  How about when someone gives you a gift.  Let them know right then that you appreciate it.  This is true also with your coworkers, fellow students, those who may work for you, even the bus driver that picks you up each day.  If you have really good feelings about them.  Let them know.  Why wait?

The Kindest of All

I'm sure people have done kind things for you in the past, right?  It feels good.  That's why I like encouraging kindness. Think for a moment about all those wonderful things that folks have done for you in the past. What was the kindest of all?

Henry James on kindness

Novelist Henry James said (to his nephew Billy James) "Three things in human life are important. The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind."  I certainly agree! 

School poem

This is a kindness poem we learned in grade school. 

Does anyone else remember it?

Kind hearts are the gardens,

Kind thoughts are the roots,

Kind words are the blossoms,

Kind deeds are the fruits.

Don't be a sore loser

In competition, not everyone comes in first place.  It shows good character and great kindness to accept defeat graciously.  Nobody likes a sore loser.

What is better than love?

Ask yourself this:  What is better than love?  Seriously.  Can you come up with an answer?  I called February the Love Month, but we had last month and can have more now.  Love is all around.  How wonderful, because I think there is nothing better than love!

the kind people

I love hearing stories of kindness. Sometimes on the local news we hear of a neighborhood hero or maybe in a Facebook post. The kind acts that people do always warm my heart and getting all the details is such an extra bonus. Sharing stories can be done here too - just add them in the comments below!  I really never get tired of here about kind acts and the kind people in our world.

Earth Day

Today is Earth Day. I happen to think that every day should be Earth Day. but that's another matter. Let's just concentrate on today for the moment. I talk here about kindness, and usually am talking about being kind to other people, but there is another kindness that is extremely important. Be kind to our planet. Be kind to the future generations who will live here. Today, set some goals for our relationship with the good old Earth.  We CAN make a difference!

Volunteer Week

This is National Volunteer Week in the United States, so thank you to those who volunteer. They really make a difference. Benefits of volunteering are enjoyed by the community effected of course, but also by the volunteers themselves, in knowing that they contributed to the betterment of society in some manner. if you don't already, consider volunteering. You might begin with your local hospital.

missing Nana

I miss my grandmother.  She was such a kind person and I have so many fond memories of her.  (Today would have been her birthday).  Thanks, Nana, for making a difference!

forever

What we do for ourselves remains with us, but what we do for others remains forever.  

footprints

This morning I want to share some powerful words from former First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt: "Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart."

No war

War is never a good thing. There is currently fighting going on in Myanmar, Russia, Ukraine, Israel, Lebanon, Sudan, and several other countries. Yesterday there was talk of another world war. This is nothing new. Throughout history there has been fighting and killing, but it doesn't have to be this way. We can actually sit down and work out our differences. We can actually respect each other and be kind. We can, but we don't. I really don't understand it. Let's all say, "no war" and mean it.

What else is there to say

I talk here every day about being kind.  What else is there to say?  What am I leaving out?  How do we make this world a kinder place?  What do YOU think!  I'd really love to hear your thoughts.

hearts will always remember

Our minds won't always remember exactly what happened, but our hearts will always remember the feeling!

You matter

You might not have heard it lately.  You might not have ever heard it (although I hope that isn't so), but you matter.  To some folks it is obvious.  Too often though we fail to say it or to show it.  Regardless of that, you matter.  You will always matter.  Never think otherwise.

Good is something you do

Italian cyclist Gino Bartali said "Good is something you do, not something you talk about. Some medals are pinned to your soul, not to your jacket."  Wonderful words.  Think about it.

The things I see

It really warms my heart when I witness the kindness of others.  Despite all the negative news we hear, I am seeing more and more nice gestures, often by strangers.  The other day I got up to pay for my breakfast at the restaurant where I occasionally treat myself in the morning, and the hostess told me a couple that had just left had paid for me.  I have no idea who they were, but this is what kindness is all about.  I am truly grateful!

important words

The words are from Henry David Thoreau, and I have probably shared them here before, but that's okay. They are important! He said "The most I can do for my friend is simply to be his friend. I have no wealth to bestow on him. If he knows that I am happy in loving him, he will want no other reward. Is not friendship divine in this?"

joys in life

There are few joys in life that equal a good book, a good conversation, a good walk, a good smile, a good hug, or a good friend.

speak with kindness

Good words bring good feelings to the heart. Always speak with kindness. Always.

a job you love

Choose a job you love and you will never have to work a day in your life.  Really.

starting another week

As we start this second week of April, may it be a kinder and happier we than last, and may we all show more love toward one another.  We can all do great things.  We can all make a positive difference.  Let's spread joy and make the world a better place.  Be kind!

Remembering Ewing

It was only in the last several years of his life that I knew him, but the kindness he showed toward me, my mother, and every single person he met was inspiring.  Ewing was a genuinely nice man, and from the stories I heard from those who had known him longer, he had always been nice.  He was an adventurer too, having hopped a freight train and traveled across the country in his younger days.  He was also a man of great faith - always active in his church, and in his community.  Memories of Ewing will always stay with me.

more than ever

 Be kind.  It's always important, but now more than ever.

Be Kind

It's a pretty simple message that I share here every day.  I hope it helps me be a better person and I hope it touches and motivates you as well.  We can never have too much kindness in our world.  Let's just keep adding more and more.  Be kind!

true relationship

A true relationship is someone who accepts your past, supports your present, and encourages your future. Be kind to yourself and to each other. Fully accept and encourage each other.

How about you

How about you? I keep listing random acts of kindness here, but what about you? Please always feel free to add ideas in the comments section below or to just tell us a story about kindness. There are so many wonderful heartwarming stories out there, and sharing is caring!

no joke

Pranks?  No thanks!  I've never been a fan of the jokes and pranks that are popular on All Fools Day.  Some of them are just plain mean.  Here is what I suggest instead:  let's find many creative new ways to show kindness.  Seriously.  No fooling!

That's it

We're done with March now. That's it! Let the month go out on a very kind note though. See how many people you can make smile today.  See how many hearts you can warm.

together

 I am convinced that together we can all help make the world a better place.

thank you so much

I would love to reach out to all of the kind people in this world and say "thank you so much for your kindness."  It truly makes a difference.  We need more people like that.  We will always need more kind people.  Kindness is never out of style.

powerful

Acts of kindness are uniquely powerful and impactful.

not even a tuna sandwich

There is nothing better than kindness, not even a tuna sandwich.  Seriously.  Being kind makes you feel good.  Having kind people around you is pretty wonderful too.

some kindness ideas

Regulars here know that I have listed various acts of kindness here before. Here are a few more: Bring flowers to work and share them with coworkers. Volunteer to read to kids in the library. Donate time at a senior center.  Pay for the person behind you in the movie line. Tell your parents/children why you love them. Donate blood. Send a gift anonymously to a friend.  Pay for the meal of the person behind you in the drive-through. Can you think of more?

rise above

It has been said "Where there’s a will, there’s a way.  Don’t let your challenges hold you back.  Rise above and remember that anything is possible."  I don't know who said that, but it certainly is true.

The Lead Singer

There's a certain singer in a popular band, who so very kind and nice.  Posing during a recent performance with a little boy attending his very first concert.  He made that little boy's day, and with such a simple act.  Oh and I'm not talking about an isolated incident.  I hear about the kindness of this singer all the time!  I need to journey to one of their concerts, so I can see it up close for myself!

thinking of you

Live your life so that when your friends or your neighbors or your children think of kindness and love and fairness and integrity, they think of you.  

mistakes happen

Have any of you ever made a mistake?  Human beings aren't perfect.  None of us are.  We do seem to hold some though to unreasonable standards.  When someone makes a mistake, it seems to me we should accept that.  Of course if they do something intentionally bad, that's another matter.  Let's be kind to each other and accept that nobody is perfect.  

musical kindness

How many songs are there with the word kind in the title? Now I'm speaking here of when kind is used as an adjective. As a noun (meaning sort), there are many. Tim McGraw's Humble and Kind came to mind right away.  Try A Little Kindness by Glen Campbell and Frank Sinatra's Please Be Kind would also make the list. Are there others? How about some songs that encourage kindness?

be kind anyway

Surrounded by meanies?
Be kind anyway

gratitude

Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.  

What we need is love

We can remove statues and symbols all day long, but it's the hate in people's hearts that needs to be removed.  We need to share love and kindness.  We need to put aside violence and destruction.  Hate is never a value we should be embracing.  What we need is love.

looking forward

Do you have things that you look forward to? Spring is just around the corner, and I always look forward to that. Easter is a favorite of mine too.  Every December, as Christmas draws near, I look forward to the holiday celebrations.  One of the big things I look forward to every single day is seeing friends and neighbors, chatting with strangers, seeing smiles and acts of kindness. I will never tire of seeing people do nice things for each other.  I'm always looking forward to something!

actions

Your words will lose value if your actions don’t match.  Don't just say you care about people.  Show it!  It's has been said many times that actions speak louder than words.

make a difference

How will YOU impact someone's life today?

Think about it. Make a difference!

Kind nurse

Due to a lengthy hospital stay, a man was forced to give his dog to the local animal shelter. In an act of great kindness, one of his nurses went to the shelter and adopted his dog. She brings the dog to visit him daily, and when the man is discharged from hospital, she plans to give the dog back to him.  True story that warms my heart!  

Good Samaritan Day

The term "good Samaritan" comes from the Bible parable where a Samaritan helped a stranger who had been robbed and beaten and left to die by the side of the road. Today is National Good Samaritan Day recognizing the unselfish actions of those who provide help when it is needed. The day is also known as Good Samaritan Involvement Day and celebrates kindness in all its forms.

love what you do

Don't waste your life trying to impress other people.  Do those things you love and love those things you do.

why not

In all seriousness I must ask:  can anyone give me a good reason not to be kind?  It would seem to be so very obvious that kindness is the only way, so why not?

how do you spell kindness

It is probably a little different for each of us (and there is no right or wrong answer), but how do you spell kindness?  H-O-M-E-M-A-D-E-S-O-U-P.  Oh my!

Hospital Hugs

I was working my volunteer shift at hospital yesterday when an outpatient (there for some tests) came up to me and asked if I remembered her.  I sure did!  Her husband had been a patient there several years ago and knowing he was in his last days, she tried to stay positive and one day asked if I would give her a hug.  Well it became a regular thing.  Lots of hugs.  One day in the cafeteria she walked up to where I was sitting with tears streaming down her face.  Her husband had died.  We hugged.  Yesterday she told me I had been a big help and thanked me.  We hugged once again.

amazing women

This is International Women's Day, and I'm thinking at the moment of some fantastic people in my life who happen to be women.  My mom is at the top of that list.  She was amazing and was always kind.  I miss her a lot.  Think today of the amazing women in your life and be thankful.

without them knowing

Real generosity is doing something nice for somebody without them knowing! What a great feeling to see their happiness and joy.

Happy Wednesday!

How are you doing this morning?  I hope all is well.  Thanks for reading my words here.  Some days I have a lot to say, but it is all meant to encourage us to be better people.  I'm not sure if it's working, but I'll keep on trying.  Happy Wednesday and be kind!

words from Dr Brothers

Psychologist, columnist, and tv personality Dr Joyce Brothers always had wonderful things to say.  Remember her?  Dr Brothers once said "Love comes when manipulation stops, when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable."

March Fourth

Today is March Fourth, which my mother always said was a command (march forth).  I think of her words every single year.  It's amazing how some things always stick with you.  Anyway, let's all march forth on this March Fourth!  Remember also to be kind.

Soup It Forward

When my mom made a pot of soup, it was nearly always enough to feed an army. I think that's true for most of us, so how about sharing?  Deliver a nice hot pot of your delicious chicken noodle or split pea to a family or friend in need, or to someone under the weather.  Today is National Soup it Forward Day on encouraging us to deliver love and kindness by the bowlful.  I could go for a nice hot pot of potato soup!

center of attention

Do we do kind things so that people will like us or so we will get attention?  I hope not!  Being kind is part of who we are.  It comes naturally.  No special reward is necessary.  Nobody needs to give us credit for our kind acts.  Truly kind people don't need to be the center of attention.  

time marches on

Today we begin the third month of the year.  Wow!  Doesn't it seem like we just celebrated New Years?  Time marches on folks.  We should cherish every single day.  Let's also make each day enjoyable for others.  Be kind.  Make a difference.

BONUS

February doesn't always give us as much time to be kind.  Instead of thirty or thirty-one days, February usually only has twenty-eight.  This is leap year though with twenty-nine days, so on this bonus day, be extra kind!

Go beyond reason to love

Writer and author Thaddeus Golas said "Go beyond reason to love - it is safe. It is the only safety. Love all you can, and when you are ready all will be shown to you."

kindness at the concerts

It seems just about every day I hear about some kind thing that singer Arnel Pineda has done.  He really connects with his audience at concerts, and I just saw pictures from two different venues where he was posing with a little boy.  You know those kids were probably at their first concerts and that warm happy memory will stay with them forever.  Thanks for making a difference, Arnel!

in times of anxiety

In times of anxiety and when we are experiencing extreme stress do you know what helps calm your anxious thoughts?  Kindness.  Yup.  Here is just one more reason why being kind is so good.  I have heard this from experts and also experienced it myself.  If a court ruling has you frustrated; if crime in the streets has made you tense; if there is stress in your life due to hatred and injustice, try doing something especially nice for someone.  I don't mean to minimize life's problems, and we certainly should work on correcting the ills of society, but a kind act can also be a wonderful tonic.

Beginning a new week

 It's Sunday, and that means we are beginning a new week, one where I hope we will all experience a lot of kindness.  I hope that people are kind to us, and of course I hope we will all be kind ourselves.  I am certain we can do it!