Being nice to other people - is that kindness? Is it love? Is it a special way of living? For me, being nice is just a natural. It just happens, because we care.
Saturday, August 19, 2017
The world might judge people by the color of their hair, the way they dress, or even how cute their smile is, but the important beauty is found inside. Some of the most incredibly beautiful people in the world, are folks that others may call ugly. I like to look beyond that first image and see how someone lives their life - are they nice? are they kind? do they care about others? THAT is where the true beauty is!
Friday, August 18, 2017
Raising funds for a large charity, I was very pleased last night to receive a large donation from someone I have known for many years, but when I saw that on my fundraising page he had written that I have "always had a big heart," it made my day. The money was certainly great, but oh those words! We don't go through life looking for compliments, but when they receive them it is such a beautiful tonic.
Thursday, August 17, 2017
Do you remember the Story Lady? She may have been called something different, but there was probably someone who read to you in school when you were little, or perhaps it was in the library or a local community center. It might have been a teenager or an older person. It might even have been a man. Oh and reading for others isn't limited to children. Reading to the blind or the elderly is pretty wonderful too. While some of these folks might be paid, many are volunteers. What an incredible act of kindness, huh? It makes me want to go read a story with someone right now.
Wednesday, August 16, 2017
Tuesday, August 15, 2017
With all the problems in the world, the past few days have also been quite wonderful. As we hear more and more about hate groups, I'm also seeing people stand up and show great energy and determination in fighting hatred. There are times when you think that nobody cares, but this week it is as if a sleeping giant has just woken up. I'm seeing so many rise up with love and kindness and take a stand against hate. Yes, it's about time, but it's so wonderful!
Monday, August 14, 2017
Racial tensions, fear of war, drug addiction, a slowed-down economy - so many things in the news that give us fear. In troubled times it is even more important to be kind to one another. Let's reach out and show love to others - even those strangers we have never even met.
Sunday, August 13, 2017
The hate and violence in various places these past few days is quite discouraging. I don't even understand the concept. Love and kindness is so much more positive. There is always room for more positive attitudes, and as far as I am concerned, there really is no place for hate.
Saturday, August 12, 2017
Friday, August 11, 2017
Do you have wonderful friends? How about your family? Do you enjoy the people you work with? Think about it. When did you ever say it to them? Compliments don't cost money because they are priceless. You really can make someone's day too, and just using a few words. Don't just think about how much you like someone or something they do. Say it.
Thursday, August 10, 2017
National Lazy Day? Really? I can't believe there would be such an observance, but that's what it says on the calendar! Seriously. Now I don't mean to be unkind, but aren't there already enough lazy folks out there? How about if we turn it around. Let's do more today, instead of less - especially when looking at of being kind. Let's all be more kind today than ever!
Wednesday, August 9, 2017
Tuesday, August 8, 2017
Doing laundry can be expensive. Buying a bottle of water from a machine is ridiculously costly. Actually any coin-operated machine will likely cost more than you would expect. Surprise others by springing for their wash or beverage or other automated expense. Leave a few quarters near the coin slot of washers, dryers, or other machines, or collect a number of quarters in a plastic sandwich bag and leave it with a "this one is on me" note. Quarters can make someone's day!
Monday, August 7, 2017
Sunday, August 6, 2017
After a medical incident this week, I haven't really felt much like going anywhere. Yesterday, there was a knock at the door, and a dear friend was standing there with a gallon of milk and several bags of groceries with meat, bread, eggs, soup, and more - a gift from he and his wife because they "thought it would be helpful." Indeed. Of course I stood there crying for several minutes. It's east to write about being kind, but for me it's a bit more difficult to welcome the kindness from others. I am truly grateful though. Such a very thoughtful thing to do!
Saturday, August 5, 2017
Being kind isn't something most people stop and thing about. Should I be kind today or not? Nobody should ever want to choose not being kind! Of course we are all human and from time to time we do things without thinking. That's why I suppose thinking about kindness can be a very good thing. We can remind ourselves of the rewards that come from being kind to others and when others are kind to us.
Friday, August 4, 2017
More kind acts - Call or visit a homebound person. Make telephone calls in support of equality urging others to put aside hate. Let the person behind you in the grocery store go ahead of you in line. Give toys to the children at a shelter. Say nice things randomly to social media friends. Transport someone who can’t drive. Give a bag of groceries to a homeless person. Go and sing at a nursing home. Leave an extra-large tip for the waitperson. Open the door for other people. Have a clean-up party in the park. Bring coworkers a special treat. Tell a bus or taxi driver how much you appreciate their driving. Can you add to this list?
Thursday, August 3, 2017
When we were younger, most of us had a competitive spirit. We wanted to win at sports or academia or maybe something as silly as who can eat the most hot dogs. There is certainly nothing wrong with trying to improve and do better. How about it we worked on being kinder? Yesterday I think I was a kind person, but I can top that. I can do better. We all can.
Wednesday, August 2, 2017
Tuesday, August 1, 2017
August has always been my favorite month. Part of that might be because my birthday comes late in August. Maybe because where I have lived most of my life, it's the loveliest time of the year. Over the years though I have grown to like pretty much anytime, even grey and dull February. I suppose my favorite month has become whatever month we are in!
Monday, July 31, 2017
Priest and theologian Henri Nouwen, put forth some great questions when he asked "Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone's face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I love?" Father Nouwen said "These are the real questions. I must trust that the little bit of love that I sow now will bear many fruits, here in this world and the life to come."
Sunday, July 30, 2017
Where I live there is so much natural beauty all around me. Personally I think there is beauty wherever you may be - sometimes you just have to look in a different manner. During this especially gorgeous days of summer, it's especially easy to show kindness. The beauty of the earth just makes you want to give back more!
Saturday, July 29, 2017
Walking through a department store in a nearby city (the small town where I live has no department stores), I was having a great time browsing. As I was leaving, I spoke to a clerk near the doors and said I had enjoyed my trip through the store, even though I hadn't bought anything, but now just had to get some coffee. She smiled, waved, and said "Get some for me too." I did. Why not? It only cost a few bucks more and you should have seen the look on her face. Her request hadn't been serious - neither of us had even seen the other before. Her genuine surprise and her joy at receiving that simple cup of coffee, made my day!
Friday, July 28, 2017
Thursday, July 27, 2017
I will never understand discrimination in any form. When I was little I remember the separate drinking fountains labeled "whites" and "colored." I remember when guys with long hair were thought to be bad. Oh yeah and there was the looks people gave when they encountered two people of different races together. Banning gays in the military went on way too long and now apparently we are reintroducing a transgender ban. Why? I don't get it. This is one of the most unkind things I can think of. How can you ban an entire group of people?
Wednesday, July 26, 2017
Flowers, birds, blue skies, all kinds of wonderful - it is a glorious summer for me! How kind of nature to give us such a gift. We must repay by treasuring her beauty and not littering or otherwise abusing all this great earth gives us. If he treat our world right, we can have glorious summers for many years to come!
Tuesday, July 25, 2017
Monday, July 24, 2017
I was thinking this morning of a Boy Scout Camp nearly a century old, on Crumhorn Mountain in Upstate New York. As a scout, I spent a lot of time there. I learned about nature and about kindness and about how to get along with others. The scouts back then did a lot of good things, but they excluded a lot of kids too. I think they have improved. I think they have finally learned more about kindness.
Sunday, July 23, 2017
Take an acquaintance to dinner. Sponsor people in fundraising walk-a-thons. Buy cold drinks for the people next to you at a ball game. Spend some time serving food at a meal program for the needy. Remember the bereaved with phone calls, cards, plants, and food. Leave a treat or handmade note of thanks for a delivery person or mail carrier. Share some ideas here. There's never an end to kindness.
Saturday, July 22, 2017
Friday, July 21, 2017
Another celebrity took their own life yesterday. We hear about the famous people, but not the stranger across town who commits suicide. It happens every day and it is sad no matter who it is. The answers are complicated, but one thing I have seen in the past 24 hours is people saying "I am here if you need me. Please reach out." The presence of people who care - people who will listen, can make a huge difference. As I said, the answers can be complicated but a good place to start is the kind and caring folks who reach out. I'm so grateful there are people like this in the world!
Thursday, July 20, 2017
I often wish I'd spend more time with Grandpa. Nana and I did things together, and she lived much longer and was quite active. Senior citizens are often alone, but have so much to share. Nana got out and kept busy, but that's not true of many as they get older. A day in a retirement community can be very rewarding, and can brighten the day for them. I like chatting with elders and asking them to share memories - how has the world changed during your life? can you remember your first date? Sharing memories helps both us and them stay connected.
Wednesday, July 19, 2017
Did you ever sit down and start to write something, but then your mind goes blank? What was I thinking? Have I run out of things to say? Is there not even one more thing to be said about kindness? Oh my! You know the answer of course. There is always more to say because there is always more to do, until kindness becomes a way of life for us all!
Tuesday, July 18, 2017
Monday, July 17, 2017
So many people dislike Mondays because it is often the return to work after two days off (or for some, the return to school classes), but why should that be a bad thing? If we work at something we enjoy, every single day can be positive. Be kind to the calendar and be kind to yourself, and of course be kind to others. Monday can be just as wonderful as any day!
Sunday, July 16, 2017
Today is the 30th AIDS Walk San Francisco, a 10k fundraising walk to fight the epidemic. While HIV/AIDS is still touching millions of people, the kindness of so many cannot be ignored, and I am thinking of all who have sponsored me over the years in this walk and of all the other walkers and all the people making a difference. So many giving people, and I am thankful.
Saturday, July 15, 2017
Friday, July 14, 2017
She posted pictures on facebook. They looked so good. I jokingly commented that she should have made some for me. She did. About half an hour after I posted my comment, there was a knock at my door, and here was this lady with a plate of cookies for me. So very nice, and despite my comment, it was also quite a surprise. This is kindness!
Thursday, July 13, 2017
How many people do you encounter in the space of one day? If you show kindness toward each and every one of them, and they in turn show kindness towards each other, that's a lot of kindness! People who might never have been kind in the past, suddenly are showing kindness too, as the entire world grows more kind. Watch it grow! Be a part of it!
Wednesday, July 12, 2017
Sometimes the minute you meet someone, you realize they are special and they are going to make a difference in your life. Years ago I met such a person, who was always a kind and gentle soul. Yesterday he passed away. I'll certainly miss his quiet loving nature, but I am grateful to have known him.
Tuesday, July 11, 2017
Monday, July 10, 2017
Do Re Mi is the name of the musical that gave us that song Make Someone Happy. I love that song. I love the idea of making someone happy even more. Let's start at the very beginning (that sounds like another Make Do Re Mi) - making someone happy makes me happy. Wow! It's a never-ending circle. That' the way is really should be!
Sunday, July 9, 2017
Saturday, July 8, 2017
Kindness is something we do all the time, but some special kind acts? Here's a few ideas: Send dessert to another table when eating out. Donate your old eyeglasses so someone else can use them. Help a parent with their baby stroller. Talk to the shy person who's sitting by themselves at a party. Help someone with heavy packages. Let the other person have the parking space, even if you arrived first. Other ideas?
Friday, July 7, 2017
Thursday, July 6, 2017
Wednesday, July 5, 2017
It seems that whenever there is a holiday in the week, I get confused about what day it is. I'm sure I'm not the only one. Already this morning I read something referring to today as Monday when in fact it's Wednesday. Oh my! All the more reason we need kindness in our world. When I make that error, please don't yell or call me a fool. Gently correct my mistake and realize that I am probably not alone.
Tuesday, July 4, 2017
My favorite day of the year is Independence Day. I actually can relate to the Declaration of Independence and the birth of our country - growing up in Upstate New York, I had a chance to visit a lot of the historic sites. I also happen to love patriotic music and fireworks. Nearly every year I go out to see some of the pyrotechnics (or watch it on tv) and spend much of every Fourth of July thinking of the wonderful potential our country has.
Monday, July 3, 2017
The sixteenth President of the United States, Abraham Lincoln said some terribly inspiring things like "I like to see a man proud of the place in which he lives. I like to see a man live so that his place will be proud of him." Lincoln also said "I dream of a place and a time where America will once again be seen as the last best hope of earth."
Sunday, July 2, 2017
Saturday, July 1, 2017
I love it every time a new month begins! July first doesn't mean that summer is half over - it means another new beginning is here, and it means we have another thirty-one days during which we can share love and kindness with all the other humans on this planet. Wow! Such a beautiful thing: more time!
Friday, June 30, 2017
Thursday, June 29, 2017
Wednesday, June 28, 2017
June 28 will always be a special day to me. My dear friend was born 44 years ago on this date. He was one of the most thoughtful and kindest people I ever met. Even though he passed away two years ago, the love and the kindness live on in my memory. Kindness never dies.
Tuesday, June 27, 2017
Have you noticed that employees don't say "you're welcome" these days? Most of the time it seems to be "no worries," which wouldn't bother me if I were Australian, but I'm not. I'd have no issue if they said "my pleasure." I might even prefer it. It's all about courtesy. "No worries" just seems way too indifferent to me. In courtesy, it's always better to take the high road. "I'm so glad I didn't cause a problem or worry you," should not be what you are thinking. Instead I want to feel glad I was there. Wow! She said it was her pleasure. How nice!
Monday, June 26, 2017
Sunday, June 25, 2017
On this day when many lgbtq Pride Parades and Celebrations take place at various cities around the globe, we still have so much work to do to make this a kinder world. But I'm encouraged when I think of the words spoken by Lin-Manuel Miranda in June of last year when he was awarded a Tony Award: "This show is proof that history remembers. We live through times when hate and fear seem stronger. We rise and fall and light from dying embers, remembrances that hope and love last longer. And love is love is love is love is love is love is love, and love cannot be killed or swept aside. I sing Vanessa's symphony, Eliza tells her story, now fill the world with music, love, and pride."
Saturday, June 24, 2017
Songwriters Paul Field, Henk Pool, Robert Riekerk, and Ralph Van Mennen hit a home run when they wrote Testify to Love. On what is LGBTQ Pride Weekend in many places, I'm thinking of the incredible lyrics of that song: "For as long as I shall live I will testify to love. I'll be a witness in the silence Says the words are not enough. With every breath I take I will give thanks to God above. For as long as I shall live I will testify to love."
Friday, June 23, 2017
Thursday, June 22, 2017
Am I a kinder person than I was yesterday? Do I show more warmth and affection toward others? Am I unselfish? Is there love and consideration in my behavior? How thoughtful am I? None of us is perfect of course, but I try each day to be kind toward everyone - not always the easiest of tasks!
Wednesday, June 21, 2017
It's 99° where I live, and it's only 7am. I keep hearing about other really hot cities. In Phoenix I'm told it was 122° yesterday! I told someone that is like stepping on to the surface of the sun! On hot days like these, kindness is more and more important. People are not comfortable, so help them with a pleasant attitude. Stay hydrated. You might want to carry an extra bottle or two of water to share with others. Don't forget the animals too. They won't be liking this heat either!
Tuesday, June 20, 2017
When I was little, I remember seeing "whites only" signs and public water fountains were all labeled "colored" or "white." I didn't understand it. My mom said the only thing that should be separated by color is laundry. I still see people not wanting to interact with people of different races or ethnicities and I still don't understand it. The same with sexual orientation - why be separate? The more we experience each other, the more we experience life!
Monday, June 19, 2017
Sunday, June 18, 2017
Want to become a more kind person? Perhaps you can begin with some of these ideas. Stop by a nursing home, and visit a resident with no family nearby. Go through your closets and find several nice items and then donate them to a shelter. Volunteer to be a tutor in a school. Tell your children (or your parents) why you love them. Spend some time serving food at a meal program for the needy. Take an acquaintance to dinner. Sponsor people in fundraising walk-a-thons. Pay a compliment at least once a day. The possibilities are endless.
Saturday, June 17, 2017
Friday, June 16, 2017
My friend Jonah Kim is one of the most inspiring people I know. He says "It's easy to love those who love you, that is, when they love you the way you want to be loved. It isn't so easy to love those who wrong you time and time again. But we are human and we are bound to fail those we love over and over again over the course of a lifetime." Jonah continues "Some say this kind of love can only exist between parent and child. If you have never experienced the desire to love this way, perhaps you haven't learned to truly love yet. This is why divorce rates keep rising; majority of matrimonial vows are defenestrated in the first year because the 'I' is so much more important than the 'love you'."
Thursday, June 15, 2017
Sometimes out of the blue, someone will do something that just warms your heart. It's easy to talk about kindness and those various things we do for each other, but you know what else is kind? Simple concern. The other day I got a phone call from someone who just wanted to be sure I was okay. She said that she hadn't seen or heard from me in awhile, and was concerned. What a kind an loving thing to do!
Wednesday, June 14, 2017
I used to love hearing Andy Rooney's observations on life. This is one of my favorites: “For most of life, nothing wonderful happens. If you don’t enjoy getting up and working and finishing your work and sitting down to a meal with family or friends, then the chances are you’re not going to be very happy. If someone bases his/her happiness on major events like a great job, huge amounts of money, a flawlessly happy marriage or a trip to Paris, that person isn’t going to be happy much of the time. If, on the other hand, happiness depends on a good breakfast, flowers in the yard, a drink or a nap, then we are more likely to live with quite a bit of happiness.”
Tuesday, June 13, 2017
Monday, June 12, 2017
On June 12, 2016, a man pulled out a gun and killed 49 people and wounded 58 others in a hate crime inside Pulse, a gay nightclub in Orlando, Florida. It was the deadliest act of violence against LGBT people in US history. It was not the last. LGBT people face hate and violence every day. In some parts of the world, it is even worse. We must remember the massacre in Orlando, but we must also insure that these incidents don't keep repeating. We need to turn to kindness and love and we need to end the hate.
Sunday, June 11, 2017
The late San Francisco Supervisor said "It takes no compromise to give people their rights. . .it takes no money to respect the individual. It takes no political deal to give people freedom. It takes no survey to remove repression." During today's Equality March for Unity and Pride, I'll be thinking about Harvey's words. Someday I hope true equality is a reality.
Saturday, June 10, 2017
Friday, June 9, 2017
After some tough days, I was trying to think of something encouraging and most of my words seemed a bit short. Then I was reminded of some marvelous words from L.R. Knost, She gets right to it saying "Do not be dismayed by the brokenness of the world. All things break. And all things ... can be mended. Not with time, as they say, but with intention. So go. Love intentionally, extravagantly, unconditionally."
Thursday, June 8, 2017
When it's really hot outside, it can me easier to get frustrated and even lose your temper, but a kind smile can help. On those sizzling days of summer, it's more important than ever to be kind to each other. Pop a few bottles of water in the freezer, and take them with you are you go about your day. Most folks will be delighted it you give them one of these bottles, with the water still nice and cold!
Wednesday, June 7, 2017
Someone thanked me for spreading kindness. Do I do that? I just try to encourage the behavior that I would like to encounter, and yes, I love it when folks are kind to me. If we all like it, we can all do it too, and the spreading is very easy. Being kind just comes naturally!
Tuesday, June 6, 2017
How much will they charge you to be kind? Absolutely nothing! It's free. Hold that door wide open for the person approaching behind you. Pay your coworker a compliment. Share that smile with folks on the street. There are so many ways to be kind to others, and it doesn't have to cost you a thing!
Monday, June 5, 2017
Yesterday I met someone for the first time and it began with a compliment. Now compliments are always great, especially when they are sincere and from the heart. One more compliment though that he won't even hear: this was the kindest and most productive experience I have had in a very long time!
Sunday, June 4, 2017
Just a couple of weeks ago, concert-goers were killed and others wounded, and last night another night of terror in England with more deaths and many injuries. When will this end? I'm not saying we can wave a magic wand or that we should all sing Kumbaya and Imagine and all will be well, but surely we can return love and kindness to this world and get rid of all the hate. I really believe that. Let's work on it.
Saturday, June 3, 2017
So many kind readers out there in cyberspace (a counter tells me when someone clicks on this blog. It doesn't say who and it certainly doesn't know if you actually read these words, but I would guess that most who come here, actually read what I have written), but everyone is silent. Oh my! Please feel free to add your thoughts about kindness below!
Friday, June 2, 2017
Thursday, June 1, 2017
During his inaugural address January 21, 2013, President Barack Obama said "Our journey is not complete until our gay brothers and sisters are treated like anyone else under the law for if we are truly created equal, then surely the love we commit to one another must be equal as well." I should also point out that during all eight years in office, President Obama issued proclamations naming June as LGBT Pride Month.
Wednesday, May 31, 2017
If you read this every day, you know that I always have something different to say about kindness, but there is so much more that what I might share here. Would you be so kind as to share your thoughts with us as well? I'd love to hear some other ideas! Using the comments section below, write whatever seems to fit relating to being kind. Thanks for sharing!
Tuesday, May 30, 2017
How fortunate I am to have enjoyed so much of the work of Groucho Marx. From his films and tv appearances, must folks think of him as a very funny man, but he was also very wise. Said he: “I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.”
Monday, May 29, 2017
May 29, 2017 is Memorial Day, a federal holiday here in the United States on which we remember the women and men who died while serving in our country's armed forces, and it is also the 100th anniversary of the birth of John Fitzgerald Kennedy. How appropriate that the two should fall on the same day. When I think of service to our country, I can't help think of Kennedy's stirring words "Ask not what your country can do for you — ask what you can do for your country."
Sunday, May 28, 2017
Two friends that I seldom see, asked if I might want to meet them for coffee yesterday morning. Wonderful! I love chatting with friends over a nice hot cup of joe. We all arrived at just about the same time, and planning on just getting a tall dark roast drip coffee, I waited behind them as they ordered. One said "Have you ever had the breakfast bagels here? The sausage ones are especially good." Good idea! "I think I'll get one with my coffee," I replied. They stepped away from the cash register and I stepped up, ordering my drink and food. "Oh they already ordered (and paid) for you," the cashier said. Nice conversation followed, as I had anticipated, but they having paid for me was a kind a lovely surprise.
Saturday, May 27, 2017
We always remember the good stuff, right? I can remember those wonderful moments when folks did really kind things for me, and I also remember when I witnessed their kind acts toward others. You know what? I can also remember the reaction to things I have done for others. it might have given them joy, but I think it gave me even greater joy seeing their happiness. That is truly unforgettable.
Friday, May 26, 2017
Fighting just about every day somewhere in this world, and so much loss of life this week, including a bomb set off at a Manchester concert killing 22 people including many youngsters and an attack on Coptic Christians early this morning in Egypt has killed at least 23. Why? Has our world become evil? Have love and kindness disappeared? I hope not! I really think if we try, we can make this a better world. I really think if we try - if we ALL try, we can spread good instead of evil.
Thursday, May 25, 2017
Wednesday, May 24, 2017
Someone asked me about the fortune that is displayed next to the messages here each day. I thought I had mentioned it before, but it actually came inside a fortune cookie about the time I began writing this. The simple message "From now on your kindness will lead to success," seems like a good moto to me!
Tuesday, May 23, 2017
So much hate and so much negativity seems to be all around. For as simple a thing as attending an Ariana Grande concert to be considered dangerous - to be risking your life, is very hard for me to even comprehend. Where did the love go? Have we stopped caring about others? Have we forgotten how to be kind and caring? Please tell me I am wrong. Please tell me that the world is going to return to a safe and loving place.
Monday, May 22, 2017
"The only thing they have to look forward to is hope. And you have to give them hope. Hope for a better world, hope for a better tomorrow, hope for a better place to come to if the pressures at home are too great. Hope that all will be all right. Without hope, not only gays, but the blacks, the seniors, the handicapped, the us'es, the us'es will give up." -Harvey Milk, 1978
Sunday, May 21, 2017
Saturday, May 20, 2017
Thinking about changing your personality or your hair color or how you occupy your time? Why? Are you making a change for YOU? If you are doing it for others, think about that hard and long before doing it. Seriously. Don't change so that people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love for who you really are. Sometimes the only change that is necessary, is someone's point of view.
Friday, May 19, 2017
With several celebrity suicides in the news recently I was thinking about the importance of suicide prevention, and also kindness toward the vulnerable and to those who survive. I was just reading about a Utah woman, who after losing her husband to suicide, has been surviving his death through the kindness that has been shown to her family. Kindness makes a difference. The word needs to be spread that life is worth living and that things can be better, especially when others care about you.
Thursday, May 18, 2017
Basketball superstar Jeremy Lin is someone I always find inspiring. Lin said "I think right now the way society's going, I think role models are important, and kids need direction. If I didn't have that direction growing up, who knows what I could be doing, because I've been lost many times in my life, and I've had to have someone guide me back on the right path."
Wednesday, May 17, 2017
This International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia, which is held on May 17 every year, is a day I wish weren't necessary, but as long as there is hate and prejudice and inequality, today, and other days like this must continue so that folks can get together and reach out to one another, and with kindness and love put an end once and for all to homophobia and transphobia.
Tuesday, May 16, 2017
One kind word can make someone's day! (Of course one mean word can ruin the day). Think about it. We're not talking about spending a lot of money, or requiring a lot of time, or even putting in great effort. It is so very simple. It just takes one - just one kind word, and you can bring happiness to someone else.
Monday, May 15, 2017
Happy Monday! Midway through our fifth month of the year, I am overflowing with kind thoughts, but was wondering this morning about other folks. Do you have any kind words that you would like to share? Kindly add them in the comments section below, so that others may benefit! Thanks for your kindness.
Sunday, May 14, 2017
I have a friend who reminds folks at every Mother's Day to remember their moms, be she among the quick or the dead. Indeed. Think too about those friends of yours who have lost a parent during the previous few years, and be there for them. The first few Mother's Days can be tough when mom isn't around anymore.
Saturday, May 13, 2017
Personally I'd rather show my mom that I love her every day! On the old Captain Kangaroo tv show, they used to sing a song called "It's another be good to mommy day." I agree! I don't need a special holiday to appreciate my mom! The same is true with grandmothers, aunts, and even folks who are like a mother to you.
Friday, May 12, 2017
You have probably heard of kind bars. They are healthy snacks - energy bars, and have become quite popular. I'm not promoting them (although I should - they not only taste good, but are good for you), but a funny image just popped into my head. Instead of thinking of a supplemental bar containing cereals, nuts and such, I was picturing that type of bar where folks go for a cocktail, but instead of libations the bartenders dispense kindness and various ways. Oh wait! That might describe this blog. WE are a kind bar!
Thursday, May 11, 2017
Too much Candy Crush for me lately! Really. I seem to have become sweeter than ever. I know I shouldn't be patting myself on the back, but I just seem so incredibly happy, and each day is happier! (I wonder what will happen when Candy Crush becomes a tv show with Mario Lopez. Everybody will have the sweetness then)!
Wednesday, May 10, 2017
Tuesday, May 9, 2017
Letha Sines is someone I will never forget. She was my sixth grade teacher and gave us so much! My aunt, who later became a teacher also, was a student of Miss Sines too. Even my sister had the great experience of this wonderful teacher, although by her year in sixth grade, she had become Mrs Letha Munson. I fondly remember Lou Ella Gridley who taught me in fifth grade too, and Mrs Doyle from the fourth grade. I appreciate them all, and my numerous friends and relatives who went into teaching. Such a giving profession!
Monday, May 8, 2017
The groundskeepers where I live do excellent work. The lawns are always exceptional and the flowers and trees so incredibly beautiful. Yesterday, one of the men was packing up tools at the end of the day and I complimented him on the way they had just changed the plants and the rocks surrounding the parking area. "Oh you're too kind." he said. Was that kindness? I was just speaking the truth. Maybe we should all do that a bit more often.
Sunday, May 7, 2017
Saturday, May 6, 2017
I was at a morning gathering yesterday, with the Mayor of the small town where I am currently living. Sometimes political events can be difficult. This one was the opposite. Everyone was kind and courteous to the others and our conversation was always positive. Perhaps we should have made a diagram for others to follow!
Friday, May 5, 2017
We can plan all sorts of things to show kindness to others, but sometimes the best acts of all are ones we don't plan ahead of time. There's something to be said for spontaneity - let the moment guide you. Of course that is much easier when you are always someone who does nice things for others!
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Thursday, May 4, 2017
Wednesday, May 3, 2017
Mother's Day is coming this month and Father's Day next month. Have you ever thought about Creating extra holidays to celebrate your parents? You could include grandparents too, along with aunts and uncles and maybe even close friends. Do a "Nana Appreciation Day" or a "My dad is special Day." It can be as simple as declaring the date of your special holiday and perhaps creating a nice sign or writing a note of thanks. You can enlist other family members to join you. Design some "coupons" to give our for an extra special hug or unlimited kisses. Get creative and truly make someone's day.
Tuesday, May 2, 2017
Monday, May 1, 2017
I remember back when I was little (perhaps a kinder and gentler time) when we danced around a Maypole on the first day of May. Poet Jonathan Swift describes a Maypole this way:
Deprived of root, and branch, and rind,
Yet flowers I bear of every kind:
And such is my prolific power,
They bloom in less than half an hour;
Sunday, April 30, 2017
It was twenty years ago today that "The Puppy Episode" of Ellen aired on abc-tv. It's amazing how much better things have gotten, and it was nice on Friday seeing the kindness shown to Ellen DeGeneres, who not only came out on that program, but also in real life on Oprah Winfrey's talk show. It is sad though that DeGeneres and episode guest star Laura Dern both faced career backlash for this sitcom moment. It changed lives though and some say it saved lives. Still a ways to go.
Saturday, April 29, 2017
Friday, April 28, 2017
I remember when I was little seeing the niceness of the spring plants poking up through the snow. I remember the hyacinth plants that I loved for both their beauty and that wonderful smell. I remember how nice the changing of the seasons made folks feel. That was when I was little in Upstate New York. I don't seem to see the niceness as much anymore. Why is that?
Thursday, April 27, 2017
I suppose the bus driver didn't see me because she kept on going. I waved and yelled, but it didn't do any good - for her, but another driver, going the other direction. He pulled around, let me board and wouldn't let me pay. He then proceeded directly to my door (he knew where I lived because he sometimes drove that other route), before resuming his schedule. He might have gotten a tad behind, although I am sure he was able to make it up. He also did one of the kindest things I can imagine, and it made my day!
Wednesday, April 26, 2017
Tuesday, April 25, 2017
Some churches celebrate the Feast of Saint Mark the Evangelist. Whenever I think of Saint Mark, I think of a church in Berkeley, CA named for him. Some of the kindest people I have ever met are there and there is so much love and joy. I suppose that should be common in churches, but it doesn't seem to be. Perhaps they are paying good attention to their patron and the One he followed.
Monday, April 24, 2017
Here are a few random kindness suggestions for this Monday: Volunteer to fix up an elderly person's home. As you go about your day, pick up trash. Buy books for a day care or school. Remember the bereaved with phone calls, cards, plants or flowers, and food. Send a gift anonymously to a friend. Pay for the person behind you in the movie line. Bring flowers to work and share them with coworkers. Share your smile generously. Donate time at a senior center. Say something nice to everyone you meet today. Clean graffiti from neighborhood walls and buildings. Call an estranged family member.
Sunday, April 23, 2017
Remember back around Thanksgiving when folks were collecting canned goods or just after that when toy drives were in full swing and collections for warm clothing? Why don't we do that ALL the time? There are people in need at any time of the year, not just for a month or two at year's end. Think about putting aside a couple of food items every single week and donating them to a food bank, church, or other organization that is helping those in need. Some places will also accept toys and clothing as well.
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Saturday, April 22, 2017
The earth has been here a long time and it will be around for a long time to come, BUT will it be able to sustain life? Will plants and flowers grow and fish swim in the water and birds fly through the air? Will cows and chickens, dogs and cats, all manner of life, including humans, still roam the planet? Environmental protection is important for the future. They earth will be here, but will it be bare? Thanks up to us!
Friday, April 21, 2017
Thursday, April 20, 2017
Every April 20th I think of my grandmother - she was born on this date. I think of Nana more than once a year though. She was one of the kindest and fairest people I have ever known, and I learned a lot from her. I think our entire family learned the importance of kindness because of her.
Wednesday, April 19, 2017
Two days after a murder that the killer recorded on video and posted to Facebook, the killer apparently took his own life. When Whoppi Goldberg made the announcement during her tv program yesterday, the audience applauded, until Whoppi held up her hands and asked for quiet. Last night convicted murderer Aaron Hernandez apparently committed suicide as well and the internet is lit up with comments of happiness at this and even jokes. I don't understand. I seriously don't. Suicide is not to be cheered. Has all kindness disappeared. ALL life is precious, even the lives of those who do wrong.
Tuesday, April 18, 2017
There are so many ways to show kindness toward others. Here are a few. Offer to return a shopping cart to the store for someone loading a car. Call an estranged family member. Clean graffiti from neighborhood walls and buildings. Buy a stranger a free pizza. Mow a neighbor’s grass or sweep a neighbor’s walk. Smile and acknowledge everyone you encounter. Give a bag of groceries to a homeless person. Treat someone to fresh fruit. Sing at a nursing home. Open the door for another person.
Monday, April 17, 2017
We all know there are folks who try to rush Christmas every year, and the same thing is true about Easter. Just so you know, Easter lasts four times longer! Yup. Fifty days! Don't celebrate Easter? Nope a problem, but allow those who do, the joy of this annual remembrance of the resurrection of Jesus.
Sunday, April 16, 2017
Christian evangelist Joslin McDowell tells us "No matter how devastating our struggles, disappointments, and troubles are, they are only temporary. No matter what happens to you, no matter the depth of tragedy or pain you face, no matter how death stalks you and your loved ones, the Resurrection promises you a future of immeasurable good." A good reminder at Eastertime.
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Saturday, April 15, 2017
"Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled. Blessed are the merciful, for they will receive mercy. Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God. Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God. Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness' sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are you when people revile you and persecute you and utter all kinds of evil against you falsely on my account. Rejoice and be glad, for your reward is great in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you." -Gospel According to Saint Matthew
Friday, April 14, 2017
Thursday, April 13, 2017
Wednesday, April 12, 2017
Last night while shopping, the store was playing Humble and Kind, a song written by Lori McKenna and sung by country music artist Tim McGraw. I've heard it before, but last night, I was really listening to the lyrics: "Don't take for granted the love this life gives you. When you get where you're goin' Don't forget turn back around And help the next one in line Always stay humble and kind." How wonderful if this could become the theme song for our lives!
Tuesday, April 11, 2017
Do you ever just need someone around to hear you? Sometimes, especially in times of crisis, the thing you need the most is someone to talk to. They don't have to talk back. How wonderful it is to have a person who can simply sit in silence and listen to those who need a listening ear. In times of worry or sorrow or loneliness, this is particularly true. Listening to another person is a great act of kindness.
Monday, April 10, 2017
Sunday, April 9, 2017
Did you ever have someone tell you how many things they had done for you and how you now owe them? In my way of thinking, they gave you nothing at all. Gifts don't come with strings attached. Of course if is always very nice to do kind things for those who have done kind things for you, but that should not be your reason. Actually no reason is necessary at all. Give out of the love in your heart, and expect nothing in return. That is the real joy.
Saturday, April 8, 2017
Friday, April 7, 2017
Just about everything I ever heard from the incredible Maya Angelou, makes me feel good. It's so appropriate that she is the one who said "I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."
Thursday, April 6, 2017
It was only in the last several years of his life that I knew him, but the kindness he showed toward me, my mother, and every single person he met was inspiring. Ewing was a genuinely nice man, and from the stories I heard from those who had known him longer, he had always been nice. He was an adventurer too, having hopped a freight train and traveled across the country in his younger days. He was also a man of great faith - always active in his church, and in his community. Memories of Ewing will always stay with me.
Wednesday, April 5, 2017
Thinking of the long show business career of Marlene Dietrich, you might not easily be able to quote her, but I find one tiny sentence of hers to me a great anthem for our lives. Dietrich said "Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless."
Tuesday, April 4, 2017
Thinking of Martin Luther King, Jr. on the anniversary of his murder, these words of his come to mind: "We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies."
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Monday, April 3, 2017
Sunday, April 2, 2017
When I'm in a restaurant, I seldom order dessert, especially when I am eating alone, but I recall one time when the waiter approached my table with a beautiful looking orange kanten, telling me the table across the room had sent it. I glanced over and realized that the couple seated there were people I knew. How lovely though - a nice surprise dessert! What a kind thing to do,
Saturday, April 1, 2017
I remember when All Fool's Day was a time of clever jokes. We would try to be creative and to actually fool everyone. These days there are just too many mean-spirited pranks. In my opinion, that's not fun. That's a terrible thing to do. Scaring someone out of their wits isn't very kind or funny. I think the real fool now is the one who plays evil jokes.
Friday, March 31, 2017
Kindness comes in many forms, but all kind acts make love so much more joyful. Once, a couple I know who were aware I really wanted to attend an event, made sure I was indeed there. They sent me on a trip, paying for my flight and my hotel, and wouldn't take no for an answer. There kindness and that trip will always be happy memories for me and are just one more encouragement that we should all show kindness, whenever we can.
Thursday, March 30, 2017
The great film producer, animator, voice actor, and movie pioneer Walt Disney only lived to be 65 years old, but he accomplished so much. Whenever I need any sort of encouragement, all I have to do is look at his brilliant life. Disney once said "If you can dream it, you can do it."
Wednesday, March 29, 2017
Yesterday morning the phone rang, and I was delighted to hear the voice of a friend I haven't spoken to in a couple of years. (We have emailed and messaged, but this was our first time speaking to each other). It made my day! Something so simple and so kind - a phone call. Kindness doesn't have to be complex.
Tuesday, March 28, 2017
How can we discriminate against an entire group of people? I don't get it. When I was little I remember the drinking fountains labeled "colored" and "white." (I actually used the colored one once in a store, thinking the water was colored, and boy did I get yelled at by the racist storekeeper). These days I see more discrimination based on religious affiliation or gender identity, and I still don't get it. We're supposed to be different. That is part of the beauty of life. We are supposed to discriminate though, because despite all of our many differences, we still are all equal!
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Monday, March 27, 2017
Funny how the weather varies from place to place. Where I grew up there might be snow on the ground this time of year, even though it is officially spring. In some places it's even hot. Yes, it's really spring, even if it doesn't seem like it where you are. Why not pick up a nice bouquet of flowers to put you in the spirit? Wait! How about picking up two bouquets and giving one to a friend?
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Sunday, March 26, 2017
Saturday, March 25, 2017
When Mom passed away on March 25th in 2013, I was a basket case. Seeing a loved one die is a difficult thing. Since then though, while I still miss her a lot, I have become stronger. Everything I am is because of her. She was one of the kindest people I ever have known and also one of the most loving. Mom also left me a note to read after she was gone. In it she said I had been the best son a mother could have, and she wished me a good life. "We'll be together again someday" was how she closed. Thanks Mom, for everything.
Friday, March 24, 2017
Think back. Do you remember a kind act that someone did for you? How did it make you feel? It doesn't have to be a huge event - it doesn't have to require any money or gifts. Kindness is a way of life for many of us, and certainly you have been the recipient at some time. Check your memory. Didn't it feel great? Wouldn't you want to share that feeling with others?
Thursday, March 23, 2017
More kindness ideas: Buy extra at the grocery store and donate it to a food pantry, Buy flowers for someone (postal worker, grocery store clerk, bus driver, etc.). Bring coffee to a co-worker. Help someone change a flat tire. Post anonymous sticky notes with validating or uplifting messages around for people to find. Compliment a work colleague on their work. Send an encouraging text to someone. Let a car into the traffic ahead of you.
Wednesday, March 22, 2017
Have you ever had unkind things said about you? How did that make you feel? Now, take a moment to think about when kind things were instead said about you. I'll bet that felt a whole lot better, huh? If we all learned this simple lesson, we could make every day so much better.
Tuesday, March 21, 2017
Monday, March 20, 2017
The wonderful science fiction writer Octavia Butler, wrote some nonfiction too. She once spoke so eloquently of timing saying "Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it's all over."
Sunday, March 19, 2017
One of my favorite quotes about kindness is from William Penn, even though it might sound a lot like something sung by Jim Seals and Dash Crofts. Penn said "I expect to pass through this world but once. Any good therefore that I can do, or any kindness that I can show to any fellow creature, let me do it now. Let me not defer or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again."
Saturday, March 18, 2017
Friday, March 17, 2017
One Saint Patrick's Day (probably long ago) I was blessed with these words: "May you have the hindsight to know where you’ve been, the foresight to know where you are going, and the insight to know when you have gone too far. Have a long life and a merry one, a quick death and an easy one, a pretty girl and an honest one, and a cold pint and another one!"
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Thursday, March 16, 2017
Wednesday, March 15, 2017
Tuesday, March 14, 2017
I love hearing stories of kindness. Sometimes on the local news we hear of a neighborhood hero or maybe on Ellen's show or in a facebook post. The kind acts that people do always warm my heart and getting all the details is such an extra bonus. Sharing stories can be done here too - just add them in the comments below!
Monday, March 13, 2017
I woke up on this Monday morning and the first thing I thought of was to make someone happy! (Yes that is indeed an old Jimmy Durante song. June Christy, Doris Day, Perry Como, Barbra Streisand, Aretha Franklin, Sergio Franchi, Dinah Washington, and Judy Garland also recorded it, along with a number of others. That isn't the point I am making though). Making someone happy shouldn't be too difficult. Will you join me?
Sunday, March 12, 2017
Did you expect the man you passed to smile and nod hello? Did you expect the little boy in the park to offer you one of the candies his mom had just given him? Did you expect your next door neighbor to sweep off your sidewalk this morning? The kindness of that guy over there might be unexpected, but it sure is nice.
Saturday, March 11, 2017
Yesterday I attended a funeral. The church was packed - mourners were in the doorway and spilling outside. At a luncheon and civic memorial later in the day, the crowd was even bigger. My heart was warmed to see such an outpouring. Many present didn't even know the man who died, but they knew he was a good man and they knew the wonderful things he had done.
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Friday, March 10, 2017
Former First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt was very inspiring by the things she did and the words she spoke. I am touched especially by these words of hers: "In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility."
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Thursday, March 9, 2017
Wednesday, March 8, 2017
Tuesday, March 7, 2017
Todd Rundgren has always been one of my favorite musicians. The moment I hear the first notes of Hello It's Me, I get a lump in my throat. I remember that Rundgren once said "Music is the way I understand how to communicate now, the way that I've learned how to communicate . . . but it will eventually have to go beyond that. You see, I've realized that music is not what keeps people involved - it's the attitude behind the music."
Monday, March 6, 2017
Ask Michael Jordan why he succeeds. His response is truly inspiring! "I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed."
Sunday, March 5, 2017
I've listed various acts of kindness here before. Here are a few more: Volunteer to read to kids in the library. Donate time at a senior center. Give a pair of tickets to a concert or baseball game to a stranger. Send a gift anonymously to a friend. Pay for the person behind you in the movie line. Tell your parents/children why you love them. Give blood. Pay for the meal of the person behind you in the drive-through. Bring flowers to work and share them with coworkers. Can you think of more?
Saturday, March 4, 2017
Friday, March 3, 2017
Thursday, March 2, 2017
Amazing. For me it will always be amazing how wonderful it feels to make someone else feel good. I think that's what some folks call a two-fer. One act makes two people feel good (and probably many more, once they hear about it). One simple act of kindness. For me it will always be amazing.
Wednesday, March 1, 2017
Oh how I love new beginnings. It's always nice to have a fresh start. It's especially nice when there are more opportunities to do good and kind things for other people. Let's march forward into March, enjoying another beginning, and make this month the kindest one ever!
Tuesday, February 28, 2017
I've quoted Ellen DeGeneres here before. What can I say? She inspires me! I was especially stirred when she said "If we're destroying our trees and destroying our environment and hurting animals and hurting one another and all that stuff, there's got to be a very powerful energy to fight that. I think we need more love in the world. We need more kindness, more compassion, more joy, more laughter. I definitely want to contribute to that."
Monday, February 27, 2017
The wonderful actor and producer Steven Seagal once said "My philosophy is that the most important aspect of any religion should be human kindness. And to try to ease the suffering of others. To try to bring light and love into the lives of mankind." I certainly agree with that!
Sunday, February 26, 2017
Saturday, February 25, 2017
Do you know anyone who is confined indoors, either as a result of physical or mental disability, or simply because they have no transportation? Days can become rather boring for some of these folks and an occasion note in the mail or call on the phone might really brighten things for them! Such a simple act is also a very kind thing.
Thursday, February 23, 2017
Wednesday, February 22, 2017
My fortune cookie said "All great things had small beginnings." Indeed. We want a better world. We want a better life for our children. We want a more kind and more caring humankind. "Oh it is so difficult. It's too big for me!" So often we can become discouraged. What can one person do after all? Well we can change the world. We can make things better. Even if we are the only one at the beginning, we just need to remember that all great things had small beginnings.
Tuesday, February 21, 2017
Need some kindness ideas? How about paying the bus fare for the passenger boarding behind you. Take muffins or doughnuts to work. Take a gift to new neighbors and introduce yourself. Wash someone else's car. Pay for the person behind you in the drive-thru. Take a friend to lunch. Give the gift of time - volunteer. Let someone go ahead of you in line.
Monday, February 20, 2017
I have no idea who said this, but it isn't my own original thought. (I have searched, and can't find it, but I am certain I read it somewhere or heard someone else say it). "In a world full of people who couldn't care less, be someone who couldn't care more." Yeah, it's not my original thought, but I certainly agree with it!
Sunday, February 19, 2017
Saturday, February 18, 2017
During yesterday afternoon's rain, I saw a man running beside a motorized scooter, holding an umbrella over the elderly lady seated in it. She was being shielded from the downpour, but he was getting quite wet. I overheard some employees in the store talking about him a few minutes later. I had assumed he was her son, or even grandson, but it turns out he didn't even know her. He just saw her out in the elements, and didn't want her to get soaked. How perfect that it happened on Random Acts of Kindness Day too!
Friday, February 17, 2017
Thursday, February 16, 2017
My memory of actor John Wayne, "The Duke," is that he was a big man with a big heart. Despite being very conservative, there were things he said that have made a positive impact on me. One such saying: "Tomorrow is the most important thing in life. Comes into us at midnight very clean. It's perfect when it arrives and it puts itself in our hands. It hopes we've learned something from yesterday."
Wednesday, February 15, 2017
Tuesday, February 14, 2017
It doesn't matter to me if the jewelers, florists, chocolatiers, and card companies all conspire for Valentine's Day. I just like the idea of celebrating love! A bit more often would be nice though. How great it would be to discover that love is in the air every single day of our lives!
Monday, February 13, 2017
The 13th of February is National Hug A Short Person Day! Seriously. I'm not sure who comes up with these, but this is one I really like. Of course I'd like to extend it to hugging everyone. Oh and I'd actually not want to limit myself to just today. How about every day? The world can always use more hugging! By the way, is hugging someone a random act of kindness?
Sunday, February 12, 2017
Kindness - is there every enough? For the next seven days, I'm joined by many in an effort to at least raise awareness. This is the start of Random Acts of Kindness Week! I'm always interested in the new ideas too. There really are so many ways to be kind. Off I go to put smile on faces and to spread kindness wherever I go!
Saturday, February 11, 2017
That old saying "a woman's place is in the home," is ridiculous to me. Last year I heard a woman critical of Hillary Clinton, say "We have no business thinking we are leaders. That's men's work." Nonsense. Just ahead of International Women's Day, I'm thinking of all the inspiring women in the world and am grateful for their leadership. A woman's place is anywhere she wants to be!
Friday, February 10, 2017
Peanuts cartoon creator Charles Schulz, was a very inspiring man. One of the things I remember he said was "If I were given the opportunity to present a gift to the next generation, it would be the ability for each individual to learn to laugh at himself." Indeed. Thank you Mr Schulz.
Thursday, February 9, 2017
Way back when I was first on the radio, I used to close each day saying "It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice." That was likely something I had read, but I liked it, and still do. Another one that most likely was said before: "Only I can change my life. Nobody can do it for me." That too wasn't an original thought by me (no idea who said it first), but I really like it.
Wednesday, February 8, 2017
How can you show kindness toward other people? Here are some more suggestions: Leave an extra-large tip for the waitperson. Donate blood. Give coffee to people on their way to work in the morning. Give another driver your parking spot. Give flowers to be delivered with meal delivery programs. Give your full attention to someone in need and simply listen. Stop by a nursing home, and visit a resident with no family nearby. Have a clean-up party in the park. The ideas never end. Keep spreading kindness!
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Tuesday, February 7, 2017
Every now and then I have listed things we can all do to show kindness toward others. Here are some more: Volunteer to be a tutor in a school. Buy a pack of brightly colored stickers and give them to children you meet during the day. Let the person behind you in the grocery store go ahead of you in line. Invite someone new for dinner, either in your home or in a restaurant. Give toys to the children at a shelter. Say nice things randomly to facebook and twitter friends. Buy some bottles of water and randomly hand them out to strangers on the street. Drop off a plant or a plate of cookies to your nearby police or fire station. Please add your own ideas below!
Monday, February 6, 2017
When I was younger, I remember having a "happy place," or perhaps I should say a "happy thought." If there was ever a scary moment, I could just direct my thinking to that happy place, and the fear would disappear. Kindness and love and only good things would be in my happy place. Often if was like Christmas but sometimes like a big wedding banquet or a Mother's Day buffet. I doubt if I'm the only one who created these happy places. For me it always worked to think positive and dwell on the good, instead of the bad or the scary.
Sunday, February 5, 2017
Years ago, a woman used to bring this most delicious mace cake to my church. I don't remember how popular it was with others, but whenever I saw it, I just had to have a slice! Years later, at another church in another city, I mentioned this to a lady who was planning coffee hour refreshments. She had never heard of a mace cake, but she very kindly looked it up and presented one for church the next Sunday. It was delicious! That was her first mace cake, but not her last. She didn't have to make one at all, but she did. That's kindness.
Saturday, February 4, 2017
Off from work today? Have you ever volunteered to help cleanup around the highway or the shores of a lake or ocean? Working in a community garden is a great way to give back also. Oh and you can help clean graffiti from neighborhood walls and buildings. Tons of things can be done to make a difference. It's kind to help out and it makes you feel good. What about mowing a neighbor’s grass or sweeping a neighbor’s walk? The list of ideas can go on and on!
Friday, February 3, 2017
“In New York, whether you are gay, straight or transgender, Muslim, Jewish or Christian, rich or poor, black or white or brown, we respect all people – and we will continue to enforce our laws and stand united against those who seek to drive us apart.” New York Governor Andrew M. Cuomo said these words yesterday. Not just the kind thing, but the right thing. This should be true everywhere!
Thursday, February 2, 2017
The February 2nd tradition of deciding how much longer winter will last goes way back. An old English poem says "If Candlemas be fair and bright, winter has another flight. If Candlemas brings clouds and rain, winter will not come again." Back in the 18th and 19th centuries in central Pennsylvania, we began looking to a groundhog for predictions. Although he isn't the only one, Punxsutawney Phil became the most famous. All I have to ask is "Mr Groundhog, be kind to us. Let spring come early!"
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Wednesday, February 1, 2017
Some folks refer to February as the month of love because of Valentine's Day. I say that love should never be confined. Love is today and it was also yesterday, and will be tomorrow. Instead of the month of love, it should be the year of love, or even better, the lifetime of love! We do have Random Acts of Kindness Week later on in February, and you KNOW I'm happy about that!
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Tuesday, January 31, 2017
What do you think will be the kindest thing you do this week? Oh there are certainly a lot of loving and nice things we can all do for each other, and everyone can add suggestions, but I like the idea of always trying to outdo myself? Let's be kind to everyone! Let's put some smiles of those faces! Let's all try to be more kind than we ever have been before.
Monday, January 30, 2017
Many people feel that self-care is something that only happens if and when we have time. Oh no! We should all be kind to ourselves too and to treat ourselves with the respect we deserve by making our well-being a priority. Be kind to others for sure, but be kind to ourselves too!
Sunday, January 29, 2017
Sometimes I wonder how many people have actually read the Declaration of Independence. In the second paragraph, you'll find these words: "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness." Now please note there is no asterisk. It doesn't say except for people of color or people with blue eyes or people who are gay or Jewish people or transgender or any other exception. It says ALL!
Saturday, January 28, 2017
Friday, January 27, 2017
Remember the advice columnist Ann Landers? She always had such wise words! One very inspiring thing from her: "Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses." I really like that picture she gave us. "Friendship that has caught fire" - what a wonderful image!
Thursday, January 26, 2017
Some things we can achieve in life, and other things are out of our hands. We can try to be the richest or the best looking or the tallest or the fastest, but what do any of those things really mean? Years after someone meets me, I'd prefer for them to remember that I was nice to them. They don't have to recall my sense of humor or my incredible physique. I'd much rather have them remember that I was kind to them, and to others.
Wednesday, January 25, 2017
Saint Paul had a thing or two to say about kindness and compassion. This from the third chapter of his letter to the Colossians: "Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony."
Tuesday, January 24, 2017
Monday, January 23, 2017
Sunday, January 22, 2017
With kind remarks from strangers and with smiles and words of encouragement, millions and millions of people gathered for women's marches in Washington, DC and all around the world. The was a march in little Pacifica, CA and London, Paris, Las Vegas, Park City, Miami, San Francisco and scores of other cities. I'm told there was at least one march in all fifty states as well as the numerous foreign ones, and that all of them were upbeat. Change comes about when people work together for the good, and it sounds to me like yesterday was a marvelous example!
Saturday, January 21, 2017
There's a lot of worry surrounding yesterday's activities in Washington, DC but it is important to remember that we are the same people with the same potential. We didn't just crown a king. We're not bowing down to a dictator. What actually happened yesterday is our new employee started his temporary job. We are still the boss. We can still make change. We can!
Friday, January 20, 2017
"With malice toward none, with charity for all, with firmness in the right as God gives us to see the right, let us strive on to finish the work we are in, to bind up the nation's wounds, to care for him who shall have borne the battle and for his widow and his orphan, to do all which may achieve and cherish a just and lasting peace among ourselves and with all nations." -President Abraham Lincoln, March 1865
Thursday, January 19, 2017
Thinking of Barack Obama as he begins his last full day as President of the United States, perhaps the greatest President of all time. What a kind and caring man he is and with his wife, Michelle, and daughters, Malia and Sasha he has been such a comforting presence at the White House these past eight years. I know he will be missed. Thank you Mister President.
Wednesday, January 18, 2017
"We, the People, recognize that we have responsibilities as well as rights; that our destinies are bound together; that a freedom which only asks what's in it for me, a freedom without a commitment to others, a freedom without love or charity or duty or patriotism, is unworthy of our founding ideals, and those who died in their defense." -President Barack Obama
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Tuesday, January 17, 2017
"If everyone took personal responsibility for their animals, we wouldn't have a lot of the animal problems that we do. I'm a big spay-and-neuter supporter. Don't have babies if you're not going to take care of those babies. We don't need more. We just need to take care of the ones we have. Take responsibility and breathe kindness." -Wonderful words of wisdom from actress Betty White who turned 95 today.
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Monday, January 16, 2017
"I say to you today, my friends, though, even though we face the difficulties of today and tomorrow, I still have a dream. It is a dream deeply rooted in the American dream. I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up, live out the true meaning of its creed: 'We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal'." -Martin Luther King Jr. (from his I Have a Dream" speech delivered during the March on Washington on August 28, 1963)
Sunday, January 15, 2017
"Let's go to lunch," said my friend Danny. Of course I'd have to fight him for the check afterward. Oh and it wasn't just food. When I spent time with Danny, there was great conversation, about his calendar models and all number of things. Of course there was his great ever-present smile too. That alone would make my day! I remember the Ovaltine too. When I think of kind people I know, Danny always comes to mind immediately.
Saturday, January 14, 2017
As a fellow broadcaster, the great Casey Kasem was always an inspiration to me. It wasn't just his talent though that inspired, it was the many profound things he said, especially his signature saying "Keep your feet on the ground and keep reaching for the stars." It's always good advice to keep reaching for the stars!
Friday, January 13, 2017
We all find inspiration from somewhere - our parents, God, perhaps a teacher or close friend. I am inspired by so many people, and some of that inspiration is what got me talking so much about kindness. I have a wonderful friend Toan who inspires me in every single thing he does. He has such a zest for life and enjoying it to the fullest. There's a celebrity who greatly inspire me too. Her name is Ellen and the kind and generous things she does are simply amazing. I'm so lucky to be inspired by so many, and at the top of the list is my late mother. Wow! What a great lady!
Thursday, January 12, 2017
Wednesday, January 11, 2017
"But for now, whether you are young or whether you're young at heart, I do have one final ask of you as your President - the same thing I asked when you took a chance on me eight years ago. I'm asking you to believe. Not in my ability to bring about change - but in yours. I am asking you to hold fast to that faith written into our founding documents; that idea whispered by slaves and abolitionists; that spirit sung by immigrants and homesteaders and those who marched for justice; that creed reaffirmed by those who planted flags from foreign battlefields to the surface of the moon; a creed at the core of every American whose story is not yet written: Yes, we can." -President Barack Obama in his farewell address last night in Chicago
Tuesday, January 10, 2017
The wonderful actress and humanitarian Audrey Hepburn, was quite inspirational in many things she spoke. For example, Miss Hepburn said "I believe in pink. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles."
Monday, January 9, 2017
Forty six years ago, Karen Carpenter was singing "What I've got they used to call the blues. Nothin' is really wrong, Feelin' like I don't belong." Ever had a day like that yourself? That popular song Rainy Days and Mondays could easily describe today, except for one thing: Nothing needs to get us down. Nothing. It's raining where I live, and it is indeed Monday, but I refuse to be depressed about anything. There are bright corners everywhere. Just look for them.
Sunday, January 8, 2017
Our nation's sixteenth president, Abraham Lincoln, is said to be our most inspiring. I have read so many of his speeches and writings and one of the things he said that always sticks with me is "I do the very best I know how - the very best I can; and I mean to keep on doing so until the end."
Saturday, January 7, 2017
"If your family doesn’t have much money, I want you to remember that in this country, plenty of folks, including me and my husband, we started out with very little," said First Lady Michelle Obama in her farewell speech yesterday. "Though with a lot of hard work and a good education, anything is possible, even becoming President. That’s what the American dream is all about." Mrs Obama also said that being First Lady "has been the greatest honor of my life." It was a very kind, encouraging, and emotional speech.
Friday, January 6, 2017
"There’s no space, there's no room for any kind of prejudice in 2017 and moving on," Pharrell Williams said yesterday on The Ellen DeGeneres Show. Speaking about anti-gay remarks that another performer had made, Williams added "We all have to get used to everyone's differences and understand that this is a big, gigantic, beautiful, colorful world, and it only works with inclusion and empathy. It only works that way."
Thursday, January 5, 2017
It is my great pleasure to know a lovely lady named Marjorie. She is a constant inspiration for a number of reasons, but today I think particularly of her longevity. Today is her 101st birthday, and I'm sure that part of the reason she has lived this long, with the ability to still do pretty much anything, is because she is so kind and nice. Everybody loves her, and I believe that love is an excellent tonic for good living.
Wednesday, January 4, 2017
Have you had your fill of winter yet? Tired of the snow or the cold or both? Do a kind deed for someone and that will warm you up! It's never to cold to help someone else! Shovel the snow from your neighbor's walk or just help by sweeping it. Pick up an extra coffee (or two or three) and share it with random people you come in contact with. Think of all the ways you can warm someone's heart, and you will end up warming your own.
Tuesday, January 3, 2017
A couple of weeks ago, a floral delivery driver I know, walked up to a house with a large beautiful flowering plant. Assuming it to be a holiday gift, he said to the woman opening the door, "Boy are you a lucky lady." The woman burst into tears. The driver later found out that the plant was a sympathy gift. The woman had just lost her husband. He was trying to be kind but cheerfully greeting her, but not knowing all the facts, he added to her sorrow. I've been thinking about this and realized that we sometimes need to know what to say, and when to say it.
Monday, January 2, 2017
Be honest. How many of you stayed up late on Saturday, just so you could watch 2016 die. It wasn't exactly the kindest of years. But, although its effects will linger on, we have a brand new year with us now, and on this second day, let's think for a moment of all the kind things we can do to make this a great year. Let's begin by being good to ourselves and those immediately around us, and then, let's head out and show the whole world the ways of love and peace.