Sunday, December 31, 2017

hope and confidence for the New Year

We're just about ready to begin a brand new year.  As 2017 comes to an end, don't despair.  Instead, look ahead to a kinder year, to better happier days. May we start out fresh tomorrow with hope and with confidence that great things will happen in 2018!

Saturday, December 30, 2017


If you can dream it, you can achieve it.  Never give up.  Oh and when you accomplish your own dreams, reach out and help some other folks do the same.

Friday, December 29, 2017

beyond the plateaus

Bruce Lee lived a very short life, but it was an inspiring life. He said so many profound things. One of my favorites is "If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them."

Thursday, December 28, 2017

Button up your overcoat

As the cold comes to so many of us, kindness is all the more important.  I love the collection drives at this time of year for blankets and coats.  When the winder winds blow, so many cannot button up their overcoat because they don't have one.  Giving doesn't just help other folks get warm.  It leaves the giver with a warm feeling too!

Wednesday, December 27, 2017

More to come

Just to set the record straight, Christmas isn't over.  It seems some folks want to start things off earlier and earlier each year and end earlier too.  How sad.  This is a time of great kindness and joy and I think it's best when it is fully embraced for each of the twelve days.  December 25th didn't end the Christmas season.  It was actually the beginning and we can continue to celebrate right through January 5th!

Tuesday, December 26, 2017

Holidays galore

I love December 26th.  It's Boxing Day, the second day of Christmas, the first day of Kwanzaa, and Saint Stephen's Day!  So many opportunities to show kindness.  So much joy!!

Monday, December 25, 2017

Here it is

Here it is, what the say is the most wonderful time of the year.  Not just wonderful too, but Christmas Day just might possibly be the kindest day of the year.  Why though?  All the joy and love shared can just as easily happen on those other 364 days.  Let's make it so!

Sunday, December 24, 2017


I don't know a lot about the kindness of Albert Einstein, but I do know of his wisdom. This is one of the most inspiring things he said: "There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."

Saturday, December 23, 2017

Charity begins at home

So many donation requests this time of year - dozens and dozens of charities asking for money.  It might be a pain to sort through all those letters and emails, but there are indeed many organizations worth giving too and this annual push get them a lot of money.  Of course charity begins at home, so our first responsibility is for the needs of our own family and friends and co-workers.  Not all of us can give with money (sometimes it just isn't there), but we can all show extra kindness and we all can show love and concern.

Friday, December 22, 2017

What is better than love?

Ask yourself this:  What is better than love?  Seriously.  Can you come up with an answer?  In December, more than any other time of year, love is all around.  How wonderful, because I think there is nothing better than love!

Thursday, December 21, 2017

share a hot beverage

In the top half of the earth, today is winter solstice or the first day of winter - the day with the shortest period of daylight and the longest period of dark.  Oh yes, and it's colder in many places.  Bundle up and share warm wishes with others.  A very kind gesture might be to give folks hot beverages - cider is particularly popular at this time of year.

Wednesday, December 20, 2017


There are great people you meet along the way, who inspire you to do great things yourself.  Mothers so often are those great people.  My own mom certainly was.  All good things that I might do are because of the good things she inspired me to do.  I try to be kind.  I'm not perfect, but hopefully writing this daily blog helps me too.  Today would have been Mom's 91st birthday.  I'll be thinking of her a little extra today I'm sure.  Of your kindness, think of your own mothers too!

Tuesday, December 19, 2017

Everybody loves the holidays

Most of us think that everybody loves the holidays, but if you are homeless, or can't afford food, or recently lost a loved one, or a number of other things, the holidays just make bring more sadness than happiness.  Join me in thinking of others and help make the days brighter, now and in the new year ahead.  Spread that kindness!

Monday, December 18, 2017

Wisdom from a poster

I just saw this on a poster -
FIVE INGREDIENTS FOR HAPPINESS:  Be grateful, Be helpful, Be Understanding, Be kind, Be Yourself

Sunday, December 17, 2017

Gettin close

If you should happen to be keeping track, we're getting closer to Christmas.  Next Sunday dawns as the Fourth Sunday of Advent and then transitions into Christmas Eve.  Help others celebrate by being especially kind!

Saturday, December 16, 2017

Kindness guidebook

Taking a page from our kindness guidebook, how about buying an extra meal when you go into that fast food place, and give it to the homeless person you passed outside? With so much road rage, be different. When drivers try to merge into your lane, let them in with a wave and a smile. Say something nice to every single person you encounter today. Volunteer at an organization that could use your help. The ideas are endless!

Friday, December 15, 2017

Making people smile

The other day someone I know tweeted "All I want for Christmas this year is to make people smile."  What an incredible wish!  This caring, kind, unselfish guy always makes me smile.  My wish would be that we could all smile every single day of our lives.

Thursday, December 14, 2017

Let me make this perfectly clear

Every single morning I wrote about kindness.  Does that mean I am an expert?  Does it even mean I am a kind person?  Let me make this perfectly clear.  I am just as flawed as anyone else, but I believe that being kind to one another is the only way to live.  Hopefully I will someday be an expert.  You can be sure I will keep trying!

Wednesday, December 13, 2017

the holidays

When we say "happy holidays," most people only think of two or three, but December has many!  Last night at sundown, Hanukkah began and lasts until December 20th at nightfall.  Also coming up are Longest Night:, Festivus, Christmas, Boxing Day, Kwanzaa, and more!  Which ones do you celebrate?  Of your kindness, find out about the customs of others and help make their celebrations happy!

Tuesday, December 12, 2017

Respect for the dead

I'll never understand how anyone can curse someone who has died.  I woke up this morning to the shocking news that San Francisco's Mayor passed away unexpectedly in the wee hours of the morning, and on social media I saw the most horrible, vile, disgusting comments about him, some of which included his family.  Here is another place where we always need kindness.  Being anything other than kind at the time of someone's death is just plain mean.

Monday, December 11, 2017

Jonah Kim on love

My friend Jonah Kim is one of the most inspiring people I know. He says "It's easy to love those who love you, that is, when they love you the way you want to be loved. It isn't so easy to love those who wrong you time and time again. But we are human and we are bound to fail those we love over and over again over the course of a lifetime." Jonah continues "Some say this kind of love can only exist between parent and child. If you have never experienced the desire to love this way, perhaps you haven't learned to truly love yet. This is why divorce rates keep rising; majority of matrimonial vows are defenestrated in the first year because the 'I' is so much more important than the 'love you'."

Sunday, December 10, 2017

The little bit of love that I sow

Priest and theologian Henri Nouwen, put forth some great questions when he asked "Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone's face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I love?" Father Nouwen said "These are the real questions. I must trust that the little bit of love that I sow now will bear many fruits, here in this world and the life to come."

Saturday, December 9, 2017

Another few minutes in bed

Another few minutes in bed this morning would have made me very happy, but it's not the only thing. Right now, I'll be happy to get some smiles. I'll be happy when I see others who are happy. I'm pretty easy to please. Oh I can get more sleep - I might even go to bed a bit earlier tonight. Right now though, I just want to share some joy!

Friday, December 8, 2017

Cassidy's words

Just before he passed away last month, we are told that David Cassidy said "So much wasted time." Since hearing this, I've thought about it a lot and it serves as a reminder for me to cherish every moment.  ("Cherish" of course was a Cassidy hit song).  I don't want to waste a single moment.  I want to always share my gratitude and share kindness to all. 

Thursday, December 7, 2017

the happiness you share

Some people are nicer around this time of year in hopes of getting more Hanukkah and Christmas presents.  Of course there are those who are always nice.  Those are my kind of people.  The biggest present of all is the happiness you share!

Wednesday, December 6, 2017


She posted pictures on facebook.  They looked so good.  I jokingly commented that she should have made some for me.  She did.  About half an hour after I posted my comment, there was a knock at my door, and here was this lady with a plate of cookies for me.  So very nice, and despite my comment, it was also quite a surprise.  This is kindness!

Tuesday, December 5, 2017

Baby it's cold outside

The song "Baby, It's Cold Outside" has been recorded by tons of artists over the years, but it is also the phrase that comes to mind for me when the temperature begins to drop severely.  In the duet of course, one tries to convince the other that they should stay together for a romantic evening because the weather is cold and the trip home would be pretty tough.  In my thinking, when it gets cold like this, it's all the more reason to be kind and considerate of others.  Let's build a fire, break out the blankets, and stir up some nice hot cocoa (or perhaps a hot toddy).  The warmth of human kindness can melt any cold!

Monday, December 4, 2017

Three important things

I know I have said this before, but since I agree so much, I just have to say it once again!  Novelist Henry James said (to his nephew Billy James) "Three things in human life are important. The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind."  Indeed.

Sunday, December 3, 2017

From the mind of Andy Rooney

I used to love hearing Andy Rooney's observations on life. This is one of my favorites: “For most of life, nothing wonderful happens. If you don’t enjoy getting up and working and finishing your work and sitting down to a meal with family or friends, then the chances are you’re not going to be very happy. If someone bases his/her happiness on major events like a great job, huge amounts of money, a flawlessly happy marriage or a trip to Paris, that person isn’t going to be happy much of the time. If, on the other hand, happiness depends on a good breakfast, flowers in the yard, a drink or a nap, then we are more likely to live with quite a bit of happiness.”

Saturday, December 2, 2017

No lists

In November, we not only had a month of thanks but also a month of kindness with lists of ideas of various acts of kindness.  No lists this month.  We all have this kindness thing down now.  It comes naturally, and oh it feels so good!

Friday, December 1, 2017

Happy December everybody

So many observances this month including World AIDS Day (today), Advent, Saint Nicholas' Day, Saint Lucia's Day, Hanukkah, Longest Night:, Festivus, Christmas, Boxing Day, Kwanzaa, Saint Stephen's Day, Holy Innocents' Day, Saint Sylvester's Day, Watch Night, and New Year's Eve.   Happy December everybody!

Thursday, November 30, 2017

Ending the month but continuing the kindness

As we end the month, I'm not going to mention any more specific ideas (although I certainly will in the future).  I hope a lot of you have joined with me in making November not only a special month of thanksgiving, but also a special month of kindness.  Now, let's keep in going all year long!

Wednesday, November 29, 2017

30 days of ideas

As the month winds down, here's a few more ideas - Clean graffiti from neighborhood walls and buildings. Buy a stranger a free pizza. Mow a neighbor’s grass or sweep a neighbor’s walk. Offer to return a shopping cart to the store for someone loading their car. Call an estranged family member.  Buy cold drinks for the people next to you at a ball game. Spend some time serving food at a meal program for the needy.  (Often there are more volunteers than are needed on Thanksgiving Day, but today and the days right up to Christmas, they are often short-handed).

Tuesday, November 28, 2017

Giving Tuesday

It's Giving Tuesday and of course there are even more ideas! Give another driver your parking spot. Tell your boss that you think he/she does a good job.  Open the door for another person.  Give flowers to be delivered with meal delivery programs. Give your full attention to someone in need and simply listen. Stop by a nursing home, and visit a resident with no family nearby. Think about those donations too!

Monday, November 27, 2017

We're not out of ideas

We're getting closer to the end of the month, but we're not out of kindness ideas.  Here are some more for you.  Deliver fresh-baked cookies to city workers. Share your smile generously. Take an acquaintance to dinner. Sponsor people in fundraising walk-a-thons. Make telephone calls in support of equality urging others to put aside hate.

Sunday, November 26, 2017

Sunday suggestions

As we near the end of this month (today is the last Sunday) of kindness ideas, I am so grateful for all the contributions from folks who read this.  Together we can make this a kinder world!  Oh and when November ends, we certainly don't have to stop!  Kindness by now if a way of life for us all, right?  Now, some more ideas for today?  Whisper them to me.

Saturday, November 25, 2017

The ideas just keep on coming

Kindness ideas are never-ending!  Here are some more.  Send a treat to a school or day-care center. Volunteer at an organization that needs help. Go through your closets and find several nice items and then donate them to a shelter. Buy books for a day care or school. Give toys to the children at a shelter.  Give a Thanksgiving week tip or gift to your mailman or other delivery person.

Friday, November 24, 2017


Everyday should be Thanksgiving and every day should be Kindness Day.  That's just how I feel.  I try to treat others with the respect and dignity that they deserve and I aim to make at least one person smile everyday.  This month we have placed a special emphasis and so today I hope that it's not just a trip to the malls, but that we will spread even more kindness.  Look back on the ideas we have already shared.  Think up some new ones.  Didn't finish all of your big holiday spread yesterday?  Share it!  Who doesn't like leftovers?  Maybe make up some nice turkey sandwiches and share them with hungry folks on the street.

Thursday, November 23, 2017

Let us give thanks

Being kind and giving thanks - the two seem to go hand in hand.  That's why I thought it would be great to have a whole month of extra kindness and extra thanks and I am thankful that so many are joining in.  Let us give thanks for all we have and let us eagerly share that, spreading good and kindness wherever we go.  Today, think of those who are hungry and do what you can.  Grab some paper plates and set up a nice array of food from your Thanksgiving dinner, to share with those who might have nothing.  Make as many plates as you are able and then take them to a place where homeless people gather.  Your kindness will be appreciated!

Wednesday, November 22, 2017

For the feast

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving Day.  All this month we have been suggesting that this be not only the month filled with thanks, but also filled with kindness.  One huge thing that happens on Thanksgiving (as well as Christmas Day, and in some places Easter), is big Thanksgiving dinners for the homeless or folks who just can't afford the banquet.  A kind way to give back is volunteering to help with prep, serving, or cleanup.  Donating food or money helps too.  Having dinner at home?  Maybe make up some take-out containers with traditional food, and then hand them out to folks on the street whom you think will enjoy them.  The list goes on and on!

Tuesday, November 21, 2017

feeding the hungry

There are lots of folks out there who go hungry, and nobody should have an empty belly.  In two days many of us will sit down to a huge feast.  Think about those who cannot.  As we continue our list of kind acts, consider volunteering to serve at a homeless shelter or other meal program - not necessarily on Thanksgiving Day when more volunteers often show up than are needed.  Help out on those days when nobody else is around.  Meals-On-Wheels or similar programs are usually in need of help too!

Monday, November 20, 2017

Teaching moments

Teaching others to do things can be very kind and helpful!  Teaching someone to read, for example, is a gift that will last forever.  Perhaps tutoring a student, spending more time with your own kids or grandkids, offering to read at a children's library, or volunteering as a helper at an after-school program.  Senior citizens often can use a hand learning things too, especially new technology.  On this Transgender Day of Remembrance, may we also hold in our memories all who have died as a result of hate, and work to see justice and fairness for all.

Sunday, November 19, 2017

Giving thanks, being kind

The whole idea of stretching Thanksgiving through the entire month and doing special acts of kindness as well, seemed like such a natural pairing.  (Of course as I often say, I'd like to see this daily throughout the year).  Now about those special acts - we've certainly listed a lot, huh?  We can always add more too.  Anything that is done with love and respect, is worthy of that list.

Saturday, November 18, 2017

November 18th ideas

Did you think we could really come up with this many kindness ideas?  Well today we have some more!  Make a point of finding the name of a supermarket or drugstore employee and then praise him/her through that company’s corporate office. Share this blog with friends.  Become active in a cause that is important to you.  When drivers try to merge into your lane, let them in with a wave and a smile.

Friday, November 17, 2017


There are a lot of canned food drives at this time of year, so get involved in one.  Donate food or help collect!  If your community has a food bank or a meal program for low income people, volunteers are always appreciated.  Some of us are blessed with food while others go hungry.  Nobody should have to go hungry.  One of the kindest things a person can do is simply sharing their food.

Thursday, November 16, 2017

What would you add to our list?

Do we have more kindness ideas?  Of course we do!  Hold a door for someone.  Teach a senior how to text or some other technology they might not be familiar with.  Adopt a pet.  What ideas would you like to add?

Wednesday, November 15, 2017


Well we are halfway through this month, but nowhere near the end of kindness suggestions!  Here are some more.  Volunteer to fix up an elderly couple’s home. Buy a pack of brightly colored stickers and give them to children you meet during the day. Let the person behind you in the grocery store go ahead of you in line. Invite someone new for dinner, either in your home or in a restaurant.

Tuesday, November 14, 2017


As our month of kindness continues, how about some ideas involving cans?  My grandmother used to keep an empty coffee can to collect and change she might accumulate during the day.  When the can was full, she'd donate it.  At this time of year many people hold can food drives to help out those who may have little or no food.  Recycling is another thing involving cans (and bottles) and you can raise money to do good things.  more ideas? 

Monday, November 13, 2017

Lucky thirteen

Don't think of today being unlucky because it's a Monday or because it's the thirteenth.  Think instead that you are a very lucky person, sharing your kindness with others and giving particular emphasis on kindness every single day this month.  Thirteen can indeed be lucky!  As you can see, we have a lot of great ideas too with many more to come!  Oh and today is actually World Kindness Day!  Seriously.  Even more of a reason to be kind.

Sunday, November 12, 2017

Here are more November ideas

Doing some kind act every single day of the month doesn't have to be a difficult task.  Call up a friend or two just to say hello.  (Note I said call, not text.  Actually connect with them)!  As you go about your day, say something nice to everyone you meet. Be pleasant and you'll notice a lot more folks being pleasant toward you!  Some specific acts?  Leave  a suggestion or two below! 

Saturday, November 11, 2017

November ideas continue

Oh there are so many ways to show kindness, as you have already seen.  Please feel free to add your suggestions today (or any day) and let's continue to make this an especially kind month!  How about some Thanksgiving themed ideas too or some surrounding veterans, since today is Veteran's Day.  Donating time to a veteran's health and recovery is a great way to show your appreciation. Check with the VA hospital closest to you.

Friday, November 10, 2017

For the 10th

Here it is the tenth of the month and we have already shared a lot of ideas.  Here are some more.  Have a clean-up party in the park. Bring coworkers a special treat. Give the gift of your smile. Draw names at work/school and have people bring a small gift or treat for their secret pal. Share some of yours in the comments section below.

Thursday, November 9, 2017

All month continues

We're really trying to emphasize kindness this month, by listing various random acts every day.  I think people are generally more kind toward others between Thanksgiving Day and New Year's, but why wait?  Let's do kind things every single day!  We already gave you eight days of ideas (and will continue with more tomorrow), but what can YOU add to the list? 

Wednesday, November 8, 2017

Random kindness all month

Treat someone to fresh fruit Sing at a nursing home. Leave an extra-large tip for the waitperson. Tell a bus or taxi driver how much you appreciate their driving. .

Tuesday, November 7, 2017

And on the seventh

As our month of kindness continues, we share these ideas.  Tell your parents/children why you love them. Give blood. Give coffee to people on their way to work in the morning. Leave a treat or handmade note of thanks for a delivery person or mail carrier.

Monday, November 6, 2017

Kindness on the sixth

Volunteer to be a tutor in a school. Remember the bereaved with phone calls, cards, plants, and food. Give a bag of groceries to a homeless person. Volunteer to read to kids in the library. Donate time at a senior center. Give a pair of tickets to a concert or baseball game to a stranger. Send a gift anonymously to a friend. Pay for the person behind you in the movie line.

Sunday, November 5, 2017

Family ideas

Today is my sister's birthday and she is always doing kind things!  As we continue with a month full of special kindness, I was thinking that we certainly shouldn't ignore our families.  When you are under the same roof, or even in the same community, it's a lot easier, but you can regularly do kind things for family members, even when you are far away.  Frequent text messages, emails, or phone calls help let folks know you care.  My sister bakes a lot, and she always makes something extra for me.  If she isn't going to see me right away, she'll freeze it and then give it to me when we next get together.  What ideas would you like to share?

Saturday, November 4, 2017

It's never-ending

Like I said, the list of random acts of kindness is never-ending.  Here are more:  Pay for the meal of the person behind you in the drive-through. Smile. Bring flowers to work and share them with coworkers. As you go about your day, pick up trash. Pay a compliment at least once a day.  Buy some bottles of water and randomly hand them out to strangers on the street. Drop off a plant or a plate of cookies to your nearby police or fire station.

Friday, November 3, 2017

Third day of November suggestions

Start a fundraiser for someone in need and surprise them with money (which you could also present in the form of gift cards or groceries).  Go and sing at a nursing home.  Have a clean-up party in the park. Volunteer your time at an organization with special meaning for you.  Please add to these in the comments section below!

Thursday, November 2, 2017

The November list of kindness

Starting a list yesterday, I said there was much more we could include.  Do you have some ideas to add to these?  Make telephone calls in support of equality urging others to put aside hate. Let the person behind you in the grocery store go ahead of you in line.  Leave an extra-large tip for the waitperson. Open the door for other people.   Bring coworkers a special treat.

Wednesday, November 1, 2017

Listing kind things

The month of Thanksgiving can also me the month of kind acts.  Some ideas: Call or visit a homebound person, especially on the holiday when they may feel even more lonely.  Give toys to the children at a shelter. Say nice things randomly to social media friends. Transport someone who can’t drive. Give a bag of groceries to a homeless person. Tell a bus or taxi driver how much you appreciate their driving.  Can you add to this list?  There are lots of things we can do!

Tuesday, October 31, 2017

Reverse trick-or-treating

Reverse trick-or-treating is just one of many kind things you can do to celebrate Halloween.  Put on your costumes but instead of going door to door asking for treats, go to specific places (like social clubs or senior centers) and GIVE your treats away!  You might also go to police or fire stations or maybe to hospitals (be sure to ask first though if dealing with patients.  Take treats and donate them to a food bank or shelter too.  All kinds of things you can do for others today.  Have fun!

Monday, October 30, 2017

Just wait

I shouldn't be munching on candy yet - I should save it for tomorrow.  Oh and I can hardly wait for the next day.  I decided to do an All-Kindness November.  Just wait!  This is going to be so encouraging for me, and I hope you will all participate too.  Now though, I'm going to get really for a nice fun Halloween!

Sunday, October 29, 2017

Kindness makes me happy

Kindness makes me happy - all of it.  I love when people are kind to me of course, but I love being kind and doing kind things and I love seeing others do kind acts to their families and their friends.  I love seeing kindness toward animals too.  One of the most satisfying things in the whole world is kindness!

Saturday, October 28, 2017

being happy

Being happy does not mean that everything is perfect. What it means is that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections.

Friday, October 27, 2017

Not an expert

Kindness is something I strive for in myself, but I am certainly not an expert.  I love when folks are good and kind toward me, and I get a genuinely wonderful feeling when I am the recipient of the kindness of others.  That doesn't mean I am perfect.  That doesn't mean I don't need help along the way.  I always welcome suggestions of how I can be more kind.

Thursday, October 26, 2017

laugh as much as I cry

Everything that came out of Maya Angelou's mouth was inspiring, or so it seemed. Ponder this statement of hers: "My great hope is to laugh as much as I cry; to get my work done and try to love somebody and have the courage to accept the love in return." I particularly like the "laugh as much as I cry" part. Human emotion.

Wednesday, October 25, 2017

Kindness in giving

Ancient Chinese philosopher Laozi told us "Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love."

Tuesday, October 24, 2017

We can change

Not a very kind person?  Well it doesn't have to be that way.  I woke up this morning hearing a wonderful story of redemption and I thought about all the mean folks who became nice folks.  Yes, it happens.  Never give up.  Oh and just because you do nice things occasionally doesn't make you a nice person.  Let's never turn away from good, but always strive to be more kind.

Monday, October 23, 2017

They're coming

We're just days away from Halloween, about a month away from Thanksgiving, and two months from Christmas.  Tuo, the holidays are coming!  Don't you wish the kindness and the joy of our holidays could be with us every single day?  Guess what?  It can!  Don't wait for a special day.  Share the kindness and the joy every single day.

Sunday, October 22, 2017

This is a kindness-only zone

Let's not be uncharitable, mean-spirited, mean, uncaring, cruel, unpleasant, nasty, vindictive, disagreeable, vicious, spiteful, malicious, unsympathetic, callous, unfeeling, or anything else that is negative.  Let kindness be the only way for us.  Let positive feeling and a happy spirit guide our way.  This is a kindness-only zone!

Saturday, October 21, 2017

Continuing to build the list

Every now and then, I have listed here some random acts of kindness.  Here are more:  Give toys to the children at a shelter. Volunteer to fix up an elderly couple’s home. Give a bag of groceries to a homeless person. Call an estranged family member. Leave a treat or handmade note of thanks for a delivery person or mail carrier. Mow a neighbor’s grass or sweep a neighbor’s walk.

Friday, October 20, 2017

Beautiful lawns and gardens

The groundskeepers where I live do excellent work. The lawns are always exceptional and the flowers and trees so incredibly beautiful. Yesterday, one of the men was packing up tools at the end of the day and I complimented him on the way they had just changed the plants and the rocks surrounding the parking area. "Oh you're too kind." he said. Was that kindness? I was just speaking the truth. Maybe we should all do that a bit more often.

Thursday, October 19, 2017

Spirit Day

Spirit Day (no, not like the spirits we'll be thinking about on Halloween) is an annual LGBTQ awareness day observed on the third Thursday in October that was started a few years ago by Canadian teenager.  It's a time to publicly take a stand against bullying.  Of course I think it is important everyday, but on Spirit Day, Be Brave - Be Kind - Be You!

Wednesday, October 18, 2017

Daily reminder

Years ago on the radio, I used to close by saying "It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice."  I've probably told you this story before, but a listener called in and thanked me for saying that.  She said it was her daily reminder to be nice to others.  I'll never forget that.

Tuesday, October 17, 2017

say it

Do you have wonderful friends?  How about your family?  Do you enjoy the people you work with?  Think about it.  When did you ever say it to them?  Compliments don't cost money because they are priceless.  You really can make someone's day too, and just using a few words.  Don't just think about how much you like someone or something they do.  Say it.

Monday, October 16, 2017

What was I thinking?

Did you ever sit down and start to write something, but then your mind goes blank?  What was I thinking?  Have I run out of things to say?  Is there not even one more thing to be said about kindness?  Oh my!  You know the answer of course.  There is always more to say because there is always more to do, until kindness becomes a way of life for us all!

Sunday, October 15, 2017

Do Re Mi

Do Re Mi is the name of the musical that gave us that song Make Someone Happy. I love that song. I love the idea of making someone happy even more. Let's start at the very beginning (that sounds like another Make Do Re Mi) - making someone happy makes me happy. Wow! It's a never-ending circle. That' the way is really should be!

Saturday, October 14, 2017

Funeral talk

Yesterday I was at a funeral, and although it was of course a sad occasion, it was rather pleasant to hear so many kind things being said.  I wish we shared that sort of kindness everyday.  Of course you don't expect malicious, nasty, or unkind words when folks gather to remember the dead, but it was extra nice hearing positive things said about the deceased and others, including some people who knew my mom and mentioned how much they missed her.

Friday, October 13, 2017


Are you afraid?  Don't be.  Paraskevidekatriaphobia (fear of Friday the 13th) is easily overcome with a smile and a confidence that this day can be just as good as any other.  Be kind to yourself.  Never fear. 

Thursday, October 12, 2017

Conversation hearts

Remember those heart-shaped candies we see at Valentine's Day?  They're called Sweethearts or conversation hearts.  Now I know we still have five months to go before they are due, but I was just thinking of a new type, one we could use all year.  Instead of "be mine," they might say "be kind."  Sweethearts are made by the New England Confectionery Company (Necco), and we're not trying to steal their thunder, but spreading kindness is always good.

Wednesday, October 11, 2017

Come out Come out

On National Coming Out Day it should be noted that folks are urged to come out, but nobody should feel pressured into doing it.  It's a personal thing - when the time is right for you.  Nobody should have to hide though.  Everyone should be free to live their life openly and honestly.  If you feel safe, come out as gay, bisexual, transgender, lesbian, queer, supportive, questioning - whatever label works best, and be your true self.

Tuesday, October 10, 2017

be aware of mental health

World Mental Health Day is a good time to remind ourselves that mental illness is no less important that physical illness.  Be aware of the changes others may be going through.  You can make a difference!  Be supportive.  Be kind.  Be compassionate. Be caring.

Monday, October 9, 2017

Ending violence and hate

In a world where this are increasing incidents of violence and hate, it is more important than ever to spread love and kindness.  The horrible incidents over this past weekend have left so many dead and wounded, not to mention the emotional scars.  We should all vow to work for a permanent end to hate and hostility, as we hold in our thoughts and prayers, all affected by the tragic attacks.

Sunday, October 8, 2017

Beginning another week

As we begin this second week of October, may it be a kinder and happier we than last, and may we all show more love toward one another.  We can all do great things.  We can all make a positive difference.  Let's spread joy and make the world a better place.

Saturday, October 7, 2017

Watch out for the candy

Have you seen the Halloween candy?  It's still early in my opinion (although many store have had Christmas items out for weeks too!) but people are already filling up on sweets, especially all those bite size bars and the special pumpkin shapes and flavors.  Be kind to your friends and don't give them too much, especially if weight or diabetes is an issue.  Be kind to yourself too.  Maybe instead of candy we can start giving out something healthy like fruit or even exercise guidelines.

Friday, October 6, 2017

This weekend

This weekend is going to be incredible.  You believe me, right?  Think positive.  Let us all set out to be kinder than ever this weekend.  Yeah, that's the ticket!

Thursday, October 5, 2017

The importance of WE

In the past few days I have heard so many people say the Las Vegas massacre happened because of this or that - lots of finger pointing all around.  The same sort of thing seems to happen with every tragedy.  "He made it happen.  It's his fault.  If he really cared, he'd do something about it."  After a few days or weeks, there is little thought of the tragedy, and that is where the problem is.  We need to keep on caring.  Together we can change attitudes and behavior and work to prevent horrors.  No one human being is responsible for all of our problems, and no one person can solve it all.  We need each other.  We should all think of "we" instead of "me."  Let's begin by simply being kind to each other.

Wednesday, October 4, 2017

The kindness of Francis

The first week of October is always a welcome time for me because I see so many images of Saint Francis of Assisi along with blessings of animals and commemorations of this most admired and yet least imitated of all the saints.  A kind and loving man, even non-Christians and those who aren't even religious, honor this holy man who's feast day is today.

Tuesday, October 3, 2017

Never give up

When we see massive deaths from natural disasters and from horrific attacks, of course we get frustrated.  When some beloved celebrities die at the same time, it's even more difficult to deal with.  We are sad and we are angry and we have so many emotions.  We must hope though for a better time ahead.  Let's all show kindness toward others who are dealing with the same difficulties, and above all, let's never give up.  We have the power to bring about change.

Monday, October 2, 2017

Still like what you see?

Last October I wrote here "If you like what you see here, share this with a friend.  Make it a habit of coming to every morning.  Oh and do share your own stories of kindness too!  We really would love to hear from you!"

Sunday, October 1, 2017

October is

October is the tenth month of the year but was the eighth month in the old Roman calendar (January and February were inserted later).  That's why it's name means eight in Latin.   October is the month of pumpkins, witches, and candy, even though the celebration of Halloween is actually only a single day - the last day of the month.  October is also All American Breakfast Month, so begin your day with a healthy breakfast.  Oh and October is also a time when we can be more kind to those around us, but actually, that's EVERY month!

Saturday, September 30, 2017

Hold the door

Waiting an extra ten seconds can seem like an annoyance, especially if you're running late, but holding that elevator for the person who is rushing to catch it, is a perfect way to show you value another's time.  The same thing is true when you hold the door open for a person entering a building behind you.

Friday, September 29, 2017

Be an angel

Thinking of angels today - the heavenly messengers.  Of course there is another kind.  Have you ever heard someone say "She is such an angel"?  Of course they mean the person is nice and kind.  We should all want to be that kind of angel.

Thursday, September 28, 2017

Second year

Today I begin my second year of writing these brief daily thoughts about kindness.  Encourage me by sharing your thoughts in the comments and by sharing this blog with others.  Hopefully with me focusing on kindness, I will become a kinder person.  One can only hope!

Wednesday, September 27, 2017

From Tom Giaquinto

In his book Be A Good Human, Tom Giaquinto says this very important thing:  "We change the world a little each day with our kindness."

Tuesday, September 26, 2017

This is your family

Athlete and activist Colin Kaepernick says "My parents told me from the time I can remember that, 'Yeah, you're adopted. But this is your family.' I can remember my mom, she tells me this story: when I was little, I was looking at her, and I was like, 'Why isn't my skin the same color as yours?' 'Oh, you're adopted, but I wish I had pretty brown skin like you,' said Mom."  From a caring family came this caring American hero.

Monday, September 25, 2017

The things I see

It really warms my heart when I witness the kindness of others.  Despite all the negative news we hear, I am seeing more and more nice gestures, often by strangers.  The other day I got up to pay for my breakfast at the restaurant where I occasionally treat myself in the morning, and the hostess told me a couple that had just left had paid for me.  I have no idea who they were, but this is what kindness is all about.  I am truly grateful!

Sunday, September 24, 2017

Pumpkin spice and everything nice

Don't you just love this time of year?  For a few weeks now that good old pumpkin spice has been showing up in so many things and all kinds of nice fall colors and flavors.  If you live in one of the areas where the leaves change colors this time of year, that's very nice too.  Happy surroundings breed kindness I think.  People seem to show more kindness in the fall and then during the holiday season.  Of course if I could cast a spell, I'd do an extra dose of kindness all year long!

Saturday, September 23, 2017

Kinder world

Every now and then I hear people say they are looking for a kinder world.  That of course would be wonderful indeed, but don't forget that we each have the power to make it so!

Friday, September 22, 2017

Start spreadin' the word

Being kind is not part of a secret club, and neither is this daily blog.  Leave comments.  Share this with others.  Let's all help each other become kinder!  May being nice and being kind be at the forefront of all our minds.

Thursday, September 21, 2017

Fires, storms, and earthquakes

So any natural disasters lately and so much destruction as a result.  It's hard to see the homes that have been lost due to fires, hurricanes, and earthquakes and all of the people who are struggling through this loss, often mourning the death of friends or family at the same time.  The thing that warms my heart and gives me great home, is seeing all the people who spring into action to help in whatever way they can.  I am seeing so much love, compassion, and kindness, and that is indeed encouraging!

Wednesday, September 20, 2017

tons of great things

Relaxing and enjoying nature is often a great time to think about all the good things that come your way.  I am so fortunate to have tons of great things in my life - not just now, but tons of great things always.  How wonderful is that?  I think that's what makes me want to share these great things.  Of course every time I share my great things, I get a whole lot more back!

Tuesday, September 19, 2017

Awareness of those around you

Do you think you're a kind person?  What is your level of awareness concerning those around you?  Do you see the smiles or the frowns?  When someone has tears in their eyes, do you know why?  Could it be that you are so incredibly mean that crying is their natural reaction, or are they shedding tears of joy because they think you are wonderful.  Which would you prefer?  Let's all try to be sensitive of those we come in contact with and perhaps we will become more kind.

Monday, September 18, 2017

Have any kind words?

Happy Monday!  Midway through our nineth month of the year, I am overflowing with kind thoughts, but was wondering this morning about other folks.  Do you have any kind words that you would like to share?  Kindly add them in the comments section below, so that others may benefit!  Thanks for your kindness.

Sunday, September 17, 2017

Tiny ripples

The late Robert F Kennedy was a hero to me.  He said so many encouraging things. This morning I am thinking about when he spoke of tiny ripples, saying  "Each time a man stands up for an ideal, or acts to improve the lot of others, or strikes out against injustice, he sends forth a tiny ripple of hope, and crossing each other from a million different centers of energy and daring, those ripples build a current that can sweep down the mightiest walls of oppression and resistance."

Saturday, September 16, 2017

About that glass

Is there optimism or pessimism in your life?  Perhaps a bit of both?  About that glass - you know, is it half full or half empty?  It seems to me that we sometimes think about that too much and should simply be grateful to have the glass!

Friday, September 15, 2017

A simple phone call

Yesterday morning the phone rang, and I was delighted to hear the voice of a friend I haven't spoken to in a couple of years.  (We have emailed and messaged, but this was our first time speaking to each other).  It made my day!  Something so simple and so kind - a phone call.  Kindness doesn't have to be complex.

Thursday, September 14, 2017

I admire kind people

Rabbi and Jewish theologian and philosopher Abraham Joshua Heschel once said "When I was young, I used to admire intelligent people as I grow older, I admire kind people." You KNOW I agree with that!

Wednesday, September 13, 2017

Hand in Hand kindness

Such a great example of kindness was the telethon last night for hurricane relief.  The Hand in Hand event raised $76,378 so far and donations are still being accepted.  (Text “GIVE” to 80077 to donate $25 or go to to donate online).  THIS is kindness!

Tuesday, September 12, 2017

Inspiration from Michelangelo

"Danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low and achieving our mark." - Michelangelo di Lodovico Buonarroti Simoni

Monday, September 11, 2017

Prayers on 9/11

"Tonight, I ask for your prayers for all those who grieve, for the children whose worlds have been shattered, for all whose sense of safety and security has been threatened. And I pray they will be comforted by a power greater than any of us." -President George W. Bush September 11, 2001

Sunday, September 10, 2017

No day off

It's Sunday, so no school or work, and therefore no need to be kind, right?  WRONG!  We don't take a day off from caring about others?  Being good and kind is an everyday occurrence we should practice every single day!

Saturday, September 9, 2017

Kindness even toward those we dislike

Many people are of the opinion that they must never show any kindness to those with whom they disagree or those they dislike.  Nope.  We can be kind to everyone.  Let them do they negative.  We can strive to take the high road.  Sometimes it's just a matter of common courtesy, but being kind and extending a positive attitude should always be they way we operate.  Who knows?  We just might bring about change in those other people!

Friday, September 8, 2017

Oh and speaking of kindness

What can you say of being kind?  A lot!  Just look back at the daily thoughts I have posted here.  Oh and speaking of kindness, what say YOU?  Are you a kind person?  Would you like to share some thoughts about kindness with us?  Please feel free - any of you, to comment below!

Thursday, September 7, 2017

When our brothers are in trouble

The aftermath of Hurricane Harvey and the approach of Hurricane Irma and the wildfires, and all of the natural disasters, it is heartwarming to see people come together.  Human kindness and compassion should always be a part of who we are.  When our brothers and sisters are in trouble, so are we.  Let's always help of neighbors.

Wednesday, September 6, 2017

too late

Ralph Waldo Emerson certainly had a way with words! His religious views were often considered radical during his lifetime. I can relate to so many things he said though, like this: "You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late."  Yes, I posted this quote before, but I really like it!

Tuesday, September 5, 2017

School days

It would be right about this time of year, that I would be going back to school (way back when I was that age).  These days most schools return in late July or early August.  Summer break was fun.  People went on trips.  I was usually at a summer camp, at least for a time when school was out.  The first few days back at school were dreadful, except for a few exceptional years.  I had some very kind teachers whom I will always remember.  They taught us how to interact with others and how to always be nice in everything we do.  Going to school those years was a joy!

Monday, September 4, 2017

It's the little things

We can change our world one small act at a time. That's why kindness is so important.  It's the little things that add so much when life's journey is difficult.  We can begin with something as little as a smile.

Sunday, September 3, 2017

On this Sunday

On this Sunday morning, as you go about your business, take a moment to think about the kindness you experience and how it makes you feel.  Share that with others and help them experience it as well!  Kindness is always best when shared!

Saturday, September 2, 2017

How about you

How about you? I keep listing random acts of kindness here, but what about you? Please always feel free to add ideas in the comments section below or to just tell us a story about kindness. There are so many wonderful heartwarming stories out there, and sharing is caring!

Friday, September 1, 2017

What can I do for you?

Some folks go through life always asking "What have you done for me?"  I much prefer thinking "What can I do for you?"  Usually I don't ask, I just look and see what might bring you a little joy, and if I can make it happen, that ends up bringing me joy too!

Thursday, August 31, 2017

Hold the door

Remember when folks always opened a door for a woman?  How about when people see someone else coming and keep the door open for you?  Remember?  It doesn't seem to happen as much as it once did.  Something as simple as holding the door open can make someone's day.  Such an easy kind act!

Wednesday, August 30, 2017

A smile from Christie

Model Christie Brinkley knows a thing or two about smiling, so when you said "Share your smile with the world. It's a symbol of friendship and peace," you know that she knows that to be true!

Tuesday, August 29, 2017

Such an outpouring

Kindness comes in so many colors and in the past few days I have seen more that usual, with so much directed toward me.  There has been such an outpouring of love and caring that I am truly overwhelmed.  I received birthday greetings from a few folks I seldom see or hear from, there was a card from the management company that owns the property where I live, relatives and friends sent well-wishes, and I even had some kind thoughts from a waiter when he found out it was my birthday.  Wonderful it was and I am so grateful.  It is my wish that everyone be able to experience that kind of love and kindness!

Monday, August 28, 2017


It's my birthday, but as much as I love a good party, I have never really liked to focus on myself, not even for a day.  I write a blog called "It's NOT about me," focusing on those heroes who make a difference in the world.  Even today isn't really about me.  My mom and dad, with the help of God, were the ones who made it all happen.  Every years as I celebrate, I think first of my parents, especially Mom, and all they gave me.  They were such kind and loving people.  That is something to celebrate!

Sunday, August 27, 2017

Phone a friend

Call a friend out of the blue or call your grandparents, or an uncle, or perhaps a distant cousin. Come to think of it, call anyone you don't normally call.  You'd be surprised how good it can make someone feel to know that someone is thinking about them.  It doesn't have to be a long call (in fact it is good if you are very conscious of whether you are really connecting or if you are interrupting).  I know I love getting calls from folks I seldom hear from.  I'm sure you have people like that in your life.  Call them!

Saturday, August 26, 2017

question from a philosopher

Here's a question for you this morning from the French philosopher Jean-Jacques Rousseau:  "What wisdom can you find that is greater than kindness?"  You're welcome to mull that around today, but I'm sure you will find there is none.

Friday, August 25, 2017

let me talk to you

Let me talk to you about hospitality or niceness or affection or helpfulness or warmth or unselfishness or benevolence or consideration or warmheartedness or friendliness or neighborliness or charitableness or gentleness or understanding or thoughtfulness or generosity or big-heartedness - in other words, kindness.  That's what this daily blog is all about.  Come join us each day and tell your friends too!

Thursday, August 24, 2017

Size doesn't matter

There are those who think that when you speak of kindness, you are referring to some huge lavish extravagant action, but that really isn't the case.  Size doesn't matter at all.  In fact it's the little things that mean so very much - the smile or the nod hello.  The daily niceties of life are the foundation of kindness.

Wednesday, August 23, 2017


For many people, kindness is automatic.  Unfortunately though there are some who have never done anything we would think of as kind.  That can change though.  It's really quite easy.  The more good you do, the easier it is, and before you know it, it can become automatic for you too.  Think about how wonderful you can make someone feel.  Think about the smile they'll give you!

Tuesday, August 22, 2017

It's super, man!

Look, Up in the Sky!  No, it's not Superman.  Yesterday though it was an eclipse, and that was pretty super, man!  I was noticing too how it brought us all together - amazing! We were united.  We were all looking in the same direction.  I didn't hear any arguing at all.  It was really quite wonderful.  The eclipse may have united the country for a few hours, but it also proved that we can be united.  So what else can bring us together?  Kindness.  Really.  I think if we all tried to be more kind, the whole country could really rally around that!

Monday, August 21, 2017

The kindness of cooking

Cooking a meal for someone is such a kind thing!  TV chef Julia Child once said "I think careful cooking is love, don't you? The loveliest thing you can cook for someone who's close to you is about as nice a valentine as you can give."

Sunday, August 20, 2017

Something to look forward to

Do you have things you look forward to?  Every December, as Christmas draws near, I look forward to the holiday celebrations.  My birthday is coming up later this month, and I always look forward to that.  One of the big things I look forward to every single day is seeing friends and neighbors, chatting with strangers, seeing smiles and acts of kindness.  I will never tire of seeing people do nice things for each other.

Saturday, August 19, 2017

Who's ugly?

The world might judge people by the color of their hair, the way they dress, or even how cute their smile is, but the important beauty is found inside.  Some of the most incredibly beautiful people in the world, are folks that others may call ugly.  I like to look beyond that first image and see how someone lives their life - are they nice?  are they kind?  do they care about others?  THAT is where the true beauty is!

Friday, August 18, 2017

Receiving compliments

Raising funds for a large charity, I was very pleased last night to receive a large donation from someone I have known for many years, but when I saw that on my fundraising page he had written that I have "always had a big heart," it made my day.  The money was certainly great, but oh those words!  We don't go through life looking for compliments, but when they receive them it is such a beautiful tonic.

Thursday, August 17, 2017

keep those cards and letters coming

How often do you receive mail?  I don't mean email or texts, but actual physical paper inside an envelope that is delivered by the Postal Service right to your door.  Folks don't do it nearly as much as they used to, and that's a shame.  It's such a kind thing to let someone know you are thinking of them and it's so nice to open a card from a friend!

Wednesday, August 16, 2017

That kind man back home

There's a man back home whom I met after I had moved away from there.  During a few visits back there I've had an opportunity to chat with him a little, but certainly don't know him well.  I know he is very kind though.  I know he makes a huge difference in my life.  Yesterday I was chatting with someone who also knows him, but not well, and the first thing he said was "he is such a kind man."  What a wonderful way to be known!

Tuesday, August 15, 2017

The sleeping giant

With all the problems in the world, the past few days have also been quite wonderful.  As we hear more and more about hate groups, I'm also seeing people stand up and show great energy and determination in fighting hatred.  There are times when you think that nobody cares, but this week it is as if a sleeping giant has just woken up.  I'm seeing so many rise up with love and kindness and take a stand against hate.  Yes, it's about time, but it's so wonderful!

Monday, August 14, 2017

In troubled times

Racial tensions, fear of war, drug addiction, a slowed-down economy - so many things in the news that give us fear.  In troubled times it is even more important to be kind to one another.  Let's reach out and show love to others - even those strangers we have never even met.

Sunday, August 13, 2017

No place for hate

The hate and violence in various places these past few days is quite discouraging.  I don't even understand the concept.  Love and kindness is so much more positive.  There is always room for more positive attitudes, and as far as I am concerned, there really is no place for hate.

Saturday, August 12, 2017

What we need is love

We can remove statues and symbols all day long, but it's the hate in people's hearts that needs to be removed.  We need to share love and kindness.  We need to put aside violence and destruction.  Hate is never a value we should be embracing.  What we need is love.

Friday, August 11, 2017

August 11th

What does Friday, August 11th mean to you?  Hey!  That's easy - it's another day to show kindness to one another!  (Oh I never get tired of this).  Also, for anyone keeping score, it's 17 days until my birthday!

Thursday, August 10, 2017

lazy day

National Lazy Day?  Really?  I can't believe there would be such an observance, but that's what it says on the calendar!  Seriously.  Now I don't mean to be unkind, but aren't there already enough lazy folks out there?  How about if we turn it around.  Let's do more today, instead of less - especially when looking at of being kind.  Let's all be more kind today than ever!

Wednesday, August 9, 2017

Kindness can change the world

In my opinion, kindness can change the world, and so I not only want to be a kind person myself, but I want to urge others to be kind as well.  Have you ever heard anyone complain about a kind act?  Kindness is always looked upon with positive feelings.

Tuesday, August 8, 2017


Doing laundry can be expensive. Buying a bottle of water from a machine is ridiculously costly. Actually any coin-operated machine will likely cost more than you would expect. Surprise others by springing for their wash or beverage or other automated expense. Leave a few quarters near the coin slot of washers, dryers, or other machines, or collect a number of quarters in a plastic sandwich bag and leave it with a "this one is on me" note.  Quarters can make someone's day!

Monday, August 7, 2017


Mother Teresa was such a kind person, such a joyful person, such a loving person - it's no wonder she has been declared a saint.  She once said "Joy is prayer; joy is strength: joy is love; joy is a net of love by which you can catch souls."

Sunday, August 6, 2017

brand new week

It's a brand new week filled with brand new opportunities. May your week be filled with good thoughts, kind people, and happy moments!

Saturday, August 5, 2017

Kind or not

Being kind isn't something most people stop and thing about.  Should I be kind today or not?  Nobody should ever want to choose not being kind!  Of course we are all human and from time to time we do things without thinking.  That's why I suppose thinking about kindness can be a very good thing.  We can remind ourselves of the rewards that come from being kind to others and when others are kind to us.

Friday, August 4, 2017

There are allways more ideas

Many times I have listed various acts of kindness here, and there are always more ideas.  Pretty cool huh?  Something we will never run out of! Here's some more ideas: Let the person behind you in the grocery store go ahead of you in line. Invite someone new for dinner, either in your home or in a restaurant. Say nice things randomly to social media friends. Buy some bottles of water and randomly hand them out to strangers on the street. Drop off a plant or a plate of cookies to your nearby police or fire station. Clean graffiti from neighborhood walls and buildings. Buy a stranger a free pizza. What ideas can you add?

Thursday, August 3, 2017

We can top that

When we were younger, most of us had a competitive spirit.  We wanted to win at sports or academia or maybe something as silly as who can eat the most hot dogs.  There is certainly nothing wrong with trying to improve and do better.  How about it we worked on being kinder?  Yesterday I think I was a kind person, but I can top that.  I can do better.  We all can.

Wednesday, August 2, 2017


Can you bake a cherry pie?  How about an apple one?  How about baking one for someone else - or maybe some bread or cake?  One of the kindest things you can do is to give a nice freshly baked item to someone.  Yum!

Tuesday, August 1, 2017

favorite month

August has always been my favorite month.  Part of that might be because my birthday comes late in August.  Maybe because where I have lived most of my life, it's the loveliest time of the year.  Over the years though I have grown to like pretty much anytime, even grey and dull February.  I suppose my favorite month has become whatever month we are in!

Monday, July 31, 2017

Lincoln words

The sixteenth President of the United States, Abraham Lincoln said some terribly inspiring things like "I like to see a man proud of the place in which he lives.  I like to see a man live so that his place will be proud of him."  Lincoln also said "I dream of a place and a time where America will once again be seen as the last best hope of earth."

Sunday, July 30, 2017

Gorgeous days

Where I live there is so much natural beauty all around me.  Personally I think there is beauty wherever you may be - sometimes you just have to look in a different manner.  During this especially gorgeous days of summer, it's especially easy to show kindness.  The beauty of the earth just makes you want to give back more!

Saturday, July 29, 2017

The store clerk

Walking through a department store in a nearby city (the small town where I live has no department stores), I was having a great time browsing.  As I was leaving, I spoke to a clerk near the doors and said I had enjoyed my trip through the store, even though I hadn't bought anything, but now just had to get some coffee.  She smiled, waved, and said "Get some for me too."  I did.  Why not?  It only cost a few bucks more and you should have seen the look on her face.  Her request hadn't been serious - neither of us had even seen the other before.  Her genuine surprise and her joy at receiving that simple cup of coffee, made my day!

Friday, July 28, 2017

ten months ago

Ten months ago I began writing these daily thoughts about kindness and I am so glad I did.  What a nice exercise this is for me each morning, and thinking about kindness and writing about it, just might make me more kind myself!

Thursday, July 27, 2017

Discrimination is NOT kind

I will never understand discrimination in any form.  When I was little I remember the separate drinking fountains labeled "whites" and "colored."  I remember when guys with long hair were thought to be bad.  Oh yeah and there was the looks people gave when they encountered two people of different races together.  Banning gays in the military went on way too long and now apparently we are reintroducing a transgender ban.  Why?  I don't get it.  This is one of the most unkind things I can think of.  How can you ban an entire group of people?

Wednesday, July 26, 2017


After a medical incident this week, I haven't really felt much like going anywhere.  Yesterday, there was a knock at the door, and a dear friend was standing there with a gallon of milk and several bags of groceries with meat, bread, eggs, soup, and more - a gift from he and his wife because they "thought it would be helpful."  Indeed.  Of course I stood there crying for several minutes.  It's east to write about being kind, but for me it's a bit more difficult to welcome the kindness from others.  I am truly grateful though.  Such a very thoughtful thing to do!

Tuesday, July 25, 2017

So rewarding

You know I agree with the young singer Mary Lambert when she said "Treat others as you wish to be treated. Don't just be nice, but be kind to other people. That can be so rewarding."  Rewarding indeed!

Monday, July 24, 2017

Up on Crumhorn Mountain

I was thinking this morning of a Boy Scout Camp nearly a century old, on Crumhorn Mountain in Upstate New York.  As a scout, I spent a lot of time there.  I learned about nature and about kindness and about how to get along with others.  The scouts back then did a lot of good things, but they excluded a lot of kids too.  I think they have improved.  I think they have finally learned more about kindness.

Sunday, July 23, 2017

Watch it grow

How many people do you encounter in the space of one day?  If you show kindness toward each and every one of them, and they in turn show kindness towards each other, that's a lot of kindness!  People who might never have been kind in the past, suddenly are showing kindness too, as the entire world grows more kind.  Watch it grow!  Be a part of it!

Saturday, July 22, 2017

Universal Kindness Day

July 22nd - Universal Kindness Day!  Actually I just made that up, but I will certainly keep trying.  After all, I think every single day should be Universal Kindness Day, don't you?

Friday, July 21, 2017


Another celebrity took their own life yesterday.  We hear about the famous people, but not the stranger across town who commits suicide.  It happens every day and it is sad no matter who it is.  The answers are complicated, but one thing I have seen in the past 24 hours is people saying "I am here if you need me.  Please reach out."  The presence of people who care - people who will listen, can make a huge difference.  As I said, the answers can be complicated but a good place to start is the kind and caring folks who reach out.  I'm so grateful there are people like this in the world!

Thursday, July 20, 2017

special kind things to do

Kindness is something we do all the time, but some special kind acts?  Here's a few ideas:  Send dessert to another table when eating out.  Donate your old eyeglasses so someone else can use them.  Help a parent with their baby stroller.  Talk to the shy person who's sitting by themselves at a party.  Help someone with heavy packages.  Let the other person have the parking space, even if you arrived first.  Other ideas?

Wednesday, July 19, 2017

thorn bushes have roses

Abraham Lincoln once said "We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses."   What a great way of looking at things!  I love a positive attitude, don't you? 

Tuesday, July 18, 2017

Kindly share this

Do you enjoy reading this brief thoughts every day?  Perhaps you have some thoughts of your own regarding kindness.  Do feel free to share your comments below and kindly share this blog with your friends on social media and via text or email.  Thanks!

Monday, July 17, 2017

Monday Monday

So many people dislike Mondays because it is often the return to work after two days off (or for some, the return to school classes), but why should that be a bad thing?  If we work at something we enjoy, every single day can be positive.  Be kind to the calendar and be kind to yourself, and of course be kind to others.  Monday can be just as wonderful as any day!

Sunday, July 16, 2017

Thankful for the givers

Today is the 30th AIDS Walk San Francisco, a 10k fundraising walk to fight the epidemic.  While HIV/AIDS is still touching millions of people, the kindness of so many cannot be ignored, and I am thinking of all who have sponsored me over the years in this walk and of all the other walkers and all the people making a difference.  So many giving people, and I am thankful.

Saturday, July 15, 2017

Angels working through us

Actress Roma Downey, who once played an angel on television, once said "I think we all do have a guardian angel. I believe they work through us all the time, when we are thoughtful and good and kind to each other."

Friday, July 14, 2017

And the livin is easy

Remember that old song?  ""Summertime, and the livin is easy."  I could almost burst out singing!  That living we sing of just isn't quite as easy for everyone though.  Remember that.  Your kindness toward others can go a long way!

Thursday, July 13, 2017

Love on a two-way street

Don't they love me anymore?  Oh my!  Did you ever think about friends or relatives with that question, because you never or rarely hear from them anymore?  Ask yourself one more question:  when did they last hear from you?  It really is a two-way street.  If we want so desperately to hear from them and to be included in their lives, it would seem to me we should be including them in ours!

Wednesday, July 12, 2017

Grateful fo have known him

Sometimes the minute you meet someone, you realize they are special and they are going to make a difference in your life.  Years ago I met such a person, who was always a kind and gentle soul.  Yesterday he passed away.  I'll certainly miss his quiet loving nature, but I am grateful to have known him.

Tuesday, July 11, 2017

And the list continues

More kind things we can do: Stop by a nursing home, and visit a resident with no family nearby. Draw names at work or school and have people bring a small gift or treat for their secret pal. Say something nice to everyone you meet today. Volunteer at an organization that needs help. Go through your closets and find several nice items and then donate them to a shelter. And the list continues - it really has no end because kindness has no end! Please know that you are always welcome to add to this list and to share with us your thoughts about kindness in the comments section below.

Monday, July 10, 2017

Yup, there's more

For the past few days I have been listing random acts of kindness, and here are still more: Tell your boss that you think s/he does a good job. Have a clean-up party in the park. Give blood. Pay for the meal of the person behind you in the drive-through. Call or visit a homebound person. Pay a compliment at least once a day. Transport someone who can’t drive. Make telephone calls in support of equality urging others to put aside hate. There are so many more ideas!

Sunday, July 9, 2017

Still more ideas

Here are still more random acts of kindness.  Tell your parents or your children why you love them.  Make a point of finding the name of a supermarket or drugstore employee and then praise him or her through that company’s corporate office.  As you go about your day, pick up trash.  When drivers try to merge into your lane, let them in with a wave and a smile.  Yesterday I mentioned that some kind acts cost money, but each of these things here don't cost us a penny!  Are there more?  You bet!

Saturday, July 8, 2017

Even more ideas

The list we began here keeps growing.  Here's some more ideas:  Deliver fresh-baked cookies to city workers.  Buy cold drinks for the people next to you at a ball game.  Spend some time serving food at a meal program for the needy.  Give a pair of tickets to a concert or baseball game to a stranger.  Send a gift anonymously to a friend.  Pay for the person behind you in the movie line.  Yes, some of the suggestions I have made require money, but that's part of what makes them so kind.

Friday, July 7, 2017

More ideas

Yesterday I suggested some random acts of kindness we might all think about doing, and there are so many more!  We could invite an acquaintance to dinner, sponsor people in fundraising walk-a-thons, volunteer to be a tutor in a school, remember the bereaved with phone calls, cards, plants, and food, and volunteer to read to kids in the library.  We'd love to hear your ideas too!

Thursday, July 6, 2017

A few ideas

So speaking of kindness, what are a few things we can each do to get the ball rolling, if we are not already kind people? Well there area lot of random acts, and for the next few days, I'll try to think of a few. On your way to do the shopping, you could give another driver your parking spot. How about just a nice cheery greeting to each person you encounter during your day? Those are both pretty easy. Donate time at a senior center. The gift of time is so appreciated! Maybe you have some ideas. Please share them in the comments section below!

Wednesday, July 5, 2017

Holiday confusion

It seems that whenever there is a holiday in the week, I get confused about what day it is.  I'm sure I'm not the only one.  Already this morning I read something referring to today as Monday when in fact it's Wednesday.  Oh my!  All the more reason we need kindness in our world.  When I make that error, please don't yell or call me a fool.  Gently correct my mistake and realize that I am probably not alone.

Tuesday, July 4, 2017

Thoughts of the Fourth

My favorite day of the year is Independence Day.  I actually can relate to the Declaration of Independence and the birth of our country - growing up in Upstate New York, I had a chance to visit a lot of the historic sites.  I also happen to love patriotic music and fireworks.  Nearly every year I go out to see some of the pyrotechnics (or watch it on tv) and spend much of every Fourth of July thinking of the wonderful potential our country has.

Monday, July 3, 2017


I saw an internet listing for children's books that tell about kindness.  How wonderful!  The earlier we know about being kind, the better.  It isn't a difficult thing - you might say it's childsplay.  Being kind is something we should never outgrow too.

Sunday, July 2, 2017

Sunday Kindness

On Sundays folks are generally out of school and more often than other days, are also off from work.  That would seem to me like more opportunities for doing kind things.  As this Sunday unfolds, just how many people will smile at your kindness?

Saturday, July 1, 2017

Thirty one days

I love it every time a new month begins!  July first doesn't mean that summer is half over - it means another new beginning is here, and it means we have another thirty-one days during which we can share love and kindness with all the other humans on this planet.  Wow!  Such a beautiful thing:  more time!

Friday, June 30, 2017

Don't be amazed

It may come as a big surprise, but it shouldn't.  People are basically kind natured.  Don't be amazed when you have the urge to make someone's day.  Don't allow yourself to be surprised by the goodness that is inside you.  Rejoice!  Let it flow!  Let kindness spread to everyone you come in contact with.

Thursday, June 29, 2017


Yesterday was wonderful.  (I try to make every day wonderful, but yesterday was extra special).  Some people are so filled with love and kindness that it shines forth in all that they do, and spending an hour with such a person yesterday was really wonderful.

Wednesday, June 28, 2017

Kindness never dies

June 28 will always be a special day to me.  My dear friend was born 44 years ago on this date.  He was one of the most thoughtful and kindest people I ever met.  Even though he passed away two years ago, the love and the kindness live on in my memory.  Kindness never dies.

Tuesday, June 27, 2017

Relax and be kind

Recreation,  travel, and vacationing are all big at this time of year.  School is out for most folks and families tend to do more things together.  Hey, how about a family kindness project?  Sound good?  Even if we are all alone, now is a great time to relax, reduce the stress in our lives, and maybe reduce the stress that others have too.  There is never a bad time to be kind to others, so let's all have fun, enjoy this time of year, relax, and be kind!

Monday, June 26, 2017

This glorious summer

Flowers, birds, blue skies, all kinds of wonderful - it is a glorious summer for me!  How kind of nature to give us such a gift.  We must repay by treasuring her beauty and not littering or otherwise abusing all this great earth gives us.  If he treat our world right, we can have glorious summers for many years to come!

Sunday, June 25, 2017

And love is love is love is love is love

On this day when many lgbtq Pride Parades and Celebrations take place at various cities around the globe, we still have so much work to do to make this a kinder world.  But I'm encouraged when I think of the words spoken by Lin-Manuel Miranda in June of last year when he was awarded a Tony Award:  "This show is proof that history remembers. We live through times when hate and fear seem stronger. We rise and fall and light from dying embers, remembrances that hope and love last longer. And love is love is love is love is love is love is love, and love cannot be killed or swept aside. I sing Vanessa's symphony, Eliza tells her story, now fill the world with music, love, and pride."

Saturday, June 24, 2017

testify to love

Songwriters Paul Field, Henk Pool, Robert Riekerk, and Ralph Van Mennen hit a home run when they wrote Testify to Love.  On what is LGBTQ Pride Weekend in many places, I'm thinking of the incredible lyrics of that song:  "For as long as I shall live I will testify to love.  I'll be a witness in the silence Says the words are not enough.  With every breath I take I will give thanks to God above.  For as long as I shall live I will testify to love."

Friday, June 23, 2017

Ugly dress

If a woman asks you about the hideous dress she is wearing, there is no great need for you to say it is ugly.  If you are spouse or close friend, you might make a suggestion about how she might improve her appearance, but this is one of those times when it is okay to skirt the truth.  Oh and if she didn't ask, what does it accomplish if you simply blurt out that the dress is ugly?  The kind thing to do is sometimes to simply keep your mouth shut.

Thursday, June 22, 2017

Kinder than yesterday

Am I a kinder person than I was yesterday?  Do I show more warmth and affection toward others? Am I unselfish?  Is there love and consideration in my behavior?  How thoughtful am I?  None of us is perfect of course, but I try each day to be kind toward everyone - not always the easiest of tasks!

Wednesday, June 21, 2017

Like stepping on to the surface of the sun

It's 99° where I live, and it's only 7am.  I keep hearing about other really hot cities.  In Phoenix I'm told it was 122° yesterday!  I told someone that is like stepping on to the surface of the sun!  On hot days like these, kindness is more and more important.  People are not comfortable, so help them with a pleasant attitude.  Stay hydrated.  You might want to carry an extra bottle or two of water to share with others.  Don't forget the animals too.  They won't be liking this heat either!

Tuesday, June 20, 2017

The kindest of all

I was just trying to think of the kindest thing anyone ever did for me.  I'm fortunate to have so many kind people in my life, it may take me a while to come up with the kindest of all.  Actually that inspires me to think up more ways to be kind!

Monday, June 19, 2017

Is kindness something we learn?

Did someone teach you to be kind? Did you observe your grandmother or your mom, or perhaps a teacher and learn from seeing them, or did you become a kind and thoughtful person all on your own? I wonder, just how much is nature and how much is nurture?

Sunday, June 18, 2017

How can we become more kind?

Want to become a more kind person? Perhaps you can begin with some of these ideas. Stop by a nursing home, and visit a resident with no family nearby. Go through your closets and find several nice items and then donate them to a shelter. Volunteer to be a tutor in a school. Tell your children (or your parents) why you love them. Spend some time serving food at a meal program for the needy. Take an acquaintance to dinner. Sponsor people in fundraising walk-a-thons. Pay a compliment at least once a day. The possibilities are endless.

Saturday, June 17, 2017

Make the best of it

Yesterday I saw a wonderful and inspiring sign.  It said "The happiest people don't have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything."  Indeed.

Friday, June 16, 2017

No More Teacher's Dirty Looks!

"No More Pencils, No More Books, No More Teacher's Dirty Looks!"  Remember that?  Was your teacher really giving you a dirty look?  I'll bet you're sorry you even thought that.  Hey with summer upon us and no school for many (yes, I know there is summer school and year-round school), I'd like to think about all those teachers who make a difference.  Be kind to those who instruct.  It's not an easy job!  I'm grateful for all my teachers from years ago and especially Lou Ella Gridley and Letha Sines.

Thursday, June 15, 2017

You know what else is kind?

Sometimes out of the blue, someone will do something that just warms your heart.  It's easy to talk about kindness and those various things we do for each other, but you know what else is kind?  Simple concern.  The other day I got a phone call from someone who just wanted to be sure I was okay.  She said that she hadn't seen or heard from me in awhile, and was concerned.  What a kind an loving thing to do!

Wednesday, June 14, 2017

Don't change

Remember that being kind also means being kind to YOU.  Don't change yourself for other people. Let them accept you for who you are, not who they want you to be.

Tuesday, June 13, 2017

always possible

They tell me the Dalai Lama once said "Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible."  Listen to the Dalai Lama.  He speaks the truth.

Monday, June 12, 2017

No hate

On June 12, 2016, a man pulled out a gun and killed 49 people and wounded 58 others in a hate crime inside Pulse, a gay nightclub in Orlando, Florida. It was the deadliest act of violence against LGBT people in US history. It was not the last. LGBT people face hate and violence every day. In some parts of the world, it is even worse. We must remember the massacre in Orlando, but we must also insure that these incidents don't keep repeating. We need to turn to kindness and love and we need to end the hate.

Sunday, June 11, 2017

Equality for Unity and Pride

The late San Francisco Supervisor said "It takes no compromise to give people their rights. . .it takes no money to respect the individual.  It takes no political deal to give people freedom.  It takes no survey to remove repression."  During today's Equality March for Unity and Pride, I'll be thinking about Harvey's words.  Someday I hope true equality is a reality.

Saturday, June 10, 2017

losing happiness

Remember the words of Ralph Waldo Emerson, who said "For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness."  Indeed.

Friday, June 9, 2017

all things can be mended

After some tough days, I was trying to think of something encouraging and most of my words seemed a bit short.  Then I was reminded of some marvelous words from L.R. Knost,  She gets right to it saying "Do not be dismayed by the brokenness of the world.  All things break.  And all things ... can be mended.  Not with time, as they say, but with intention.  So go.  Love intentionally, extravagantly, unconditionally."

Thursday, June 8, 2017

Sizzling kindness

When it's really hot outside, it can me easier to get frustrated and even lose your temper, but a kind smile can help.  On those sizzling days of summer, it's more important than ever to be kind to each other.  Pop a few bottles of water in the freezer, and take them with you are you go about your day.  Most folks will be delighted it you give them one of these bottles, with the water still nice and cold!

Wednesday, June 7, 2017

Spreading it

Someone thanked me for spreading kindness.  Do I do that?  I just try to encourage the behavior that I would like to encounter, and yes, I love it when folks are kind to me.  If we all like it, we can all do it too, and the spreading is very easy.  Being kind just comes naturally!

Tuesday, June 6, 2017

It's free

How much will they charge you to be kind?  Absolutely nothing!  It's free.  Hold that door wide open for the person approaching behind you.  Pay your coworker a compliment.  Share that smile with folks on the street.  There are so many ways to be kind to others, and it doesn't have to cost you a thing!

Monday, June 5, 2017

Sound familiar?

I really like these words of Ralph Waldo Emerson: "You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late." I'm also inspired by this that he said: "Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail."  Do these words of inspiration sound at all familiar?  I wrote all of the above once before in this space, exactly one year ago!

Sunday, June 4, 2017

Kumbaya and Imagine?

Just a couple of weeks ago, concert-goers were killed and others wounded, and last night another night of terror in England with more deaths and many injuries.  When will this end?  I'm not saying we can wave a magic wand or that we should all sing Kumbaya and Imagine and all will be well, but surely we can return love and kindness to this world and get rid of all the hate.  I really believe that.  Let's work on it.

Saturday, June 3, 2017

Why so quiet?

So many kind readers out there in cyberspace (a counter tells me when someone clicks on this blog.  It doesn't say who and it certainly doesn't know if you actually read these words, but I would guess that most who come here, actually read what I have written), but everyone is silent.  Oh my!  Please feel free to add your thoughts about kindness below!

Friday, June 2, 2017


Be kind.   (It's really quite simple.  The message doesn't have to be complex.  We don't have to spend hours thinking about it.  Why would anyone not want to be a good kind person?  It just doesn't make sense.   And so, this very simple message).   Be kind.

Thursday, June 1, 2017

President Obama's lgbt messages

During his inaugural address January 21, 2013, President Barack Obama said "Our journey is not complete until our gay brothers and sisters are treated like anyone else under the law for if we are truly created equal, then surely the love we commit to one another must be equal as well."  I should also point out that during all eight years in office, President Obama issued proclamations naming June as LGBT Pride Month.

Wednesday, May 31, 2017

kindness poem

This is a kindness poem we used to recite in grade school. Does anyone else remember it?
Kind hearts are the gardens,
 Kind thoughts are the roots,
 Kind words are the blossoms,
 Kind deeds are the fruits.

Tuesday, May 30, 2017

Say the secret word

How fortunate I am to have enjoyed so much of the work of Groucho Marx. From his films and tv appearances, must folks think of him as a very funny man, but he was also very wise. Said he: “I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.”

Monday, May 29, 2017

what you can do for your country

May 29, 2017 is Memorial Day, a federal holiday here in the United States on which we remember the women and men who died while serving in our country's armed forces, and it is also the 100th anniversary of the birth of John Fitzgerald Kennedy. How appropriate that the two should fall on the same day. When I think of service to our country, I can't help think of Kennedy's stirring words "Ask not what your country can do for you — ask what you can do for your country."

Sunday, May 28, 2017

That breakfast surprise

Two friends that I seldom see, asked if I might want to meet them for coffee yesterday morning.  Wonderful!  I love chatting with friends over a nice hot cup of joe.  We all arrived at just about the same time, and planning on just getting a tall dark roast drip coffee, I waited behind them as they ordered.  One said "Have you ever had the breakfast bagels here?  The sausage ones are especially good."  Good idea!  "I think I'll get one with my coffee," I replied.  They stepped away from the cash register and I stepped up, ordering my drink and food.  "Oh they already ordered (and paid) for you," the cashier said.  Nice conversation followed, as I had anticipated, but they having paid for me was a kind a lovely surprise.

Saturday, May 27, 2017


We always remember the good stuff, right?  I can remember those wonderful moments when folks did really kind things for me, and I also remember when I witnessed their kind acts toward others.  You know what?  I can also remember the reaction to things I have done for others.  it might have given them joy, but I think it gave me even greater joy seeing their happiness.  That is truly unforgettable.

Friday, May 26, 2017

If we ALL try

Fighting just about every day somewhere in this world, and so much loss of life this week, including a bomb set off at a Manchester concert killing 22 people including many youngsters and an attack on Coptic Christians early this morning in Egypt has killed at least 23.  Why?  Has our world become evil?  Have love and kindness disappeared?  I hope not!  I really think if we try, we can make this a better world.  I really think if we try - if we ALL try, we can spread good instead of evil.

Thursday, May 25, 2017

We must do

The actor and martial artist Bruce Lee, was also a poet and philosopher.  One of the most profound things Lee is known to have said is "Knowing is not enough; We must apply. Willing is not enough; We must do."

Wednesday, May 24, 2017

Fortune question

Someone asked me about the fortune that is displayed next to the messages here each day.  I thought I had mentioned it before, but it actually came inside a fortune cookie about the time I began writing this.  The simple message "From now on your kindness will lead to success," seems like a good moto to me!