Wednesday, May 31, 2017

kindness poem

This is a kindness poem we used to recite in grade school. Does anyone else remember it?
Kind hearts are the gardens,
 Kind thoughts are the roots,
 Kind words are the blossoms,
 Kind deeds are the fruits.

Tuesday, May 30, 2017

Say the secret word

How fortunate I am to have enjoyed so much of the work of Groucho Marx. From his films and tv appearances, must folks think of him as a very funny man, but he was also very wise. Said he: “I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.”

Monday, May 29, 2017

what you can do for your country

May 29, 2017 is Memorial Day, a federal holiday here in the United States on which we remember the women and men who died while serving in our country's armed forces, and it is also the 100th anniversary of the birth of John Fitzgerald Kennedy. How appropriate that the two should fall on the same day. When I think of service to our country, I can't help think of Kennedy's stirring words "Ask not what your country can do for you — ask what you can do for your country."

Sunday, May 28, 2017

That breakfast surprise

Two friends that I seldom see, asked if I might want to meet them for coffee yesterday morning.  Wonderful!  I love chatting with friends over a nice hot cup of joe.  We all arrived at just about the same time, and planning on just getting a tall dark roast drip coffee, I waited behind them as they ordered.  One said "Have you ever had the breakfast bagels here?  The sausage ones are especially good."  Good idea!  "I think I'll get one with my coffee," I replied.  They stepped away from the cash register and I stepped up, ordering my drink and food.  "Oh they already ordered (and paid) for you," the cashier said.  Nice conversation followed, as I had anticipated, but they having paid for me was a kind a lovely surprise.

Saturday, May 27, 2017

Unforgetable

We always remember the good stuff, right?  I can remember those wonderful moments when folks did really kind things for me, and I also remember when I witnessed their kind acts toward others.  You know what?  I can also remember the reaction to things I have done for others.  it might have given them joy, but I think it gave me even greater joy seeing their happiness.  That is truly unforgettable.

Friday, May 26, 2017

If we ALL try

Fighting just about every day somewhere in this world, and so much loss of life this week, including a bomb set off at a Manchester concert killing 22 people including many youngsters and an attack on Coptic Christians early this morning in Egypt has killed at least 23.  Why?  Has our world become evil?  Have love and kindness disappeared?  I hope not!  I really think if we try, we can make this a better world.  I really think if we try - if we ALL try, we can spread good instead of evil.

Thursday, May 25, 2017

We must do


The actor and martial artist Bruce Lee, was also a poet and philosopher.  One of the most profound things Lee is known to have said is "Knowing is not enough; We must apply. Willing is not enough; We must do."

Wednesday, May 24, 2017

Fortune question

Someone asked me about the fortune that is displayed next to the messages here each day.  I thought I had mentioned it before, but it actually came inside a fortune cookie about the time I began writing this.  The simple message "From now on your kindness will lead to success," seems like a good moto to me!

Tuesday, May 23, 2017

Danger at a concert

So much hate and so much negativity seems to be all around.  For as simple a thing as attending an Ariana Grande concert to be considered dangerous - to be risking your life, is very hard for me to even comprehend.  Where did the love go?  Have we stopped caring about others?  Have we forgotten how to be kind and caring?  Please tell me I am wrong.  Please tell me that the world is going to return to a safe and loving place.

Monday, May 22, 2017

you have to give them hope

"The only thing they have to look forward to is hope. And you have to give them hope. Hope for a better world, hope for a better tomorrow, hope for a better place to come to if the pressures at home are too great. Hope that all will be all right. Without hope, not only gays, but the blacks, the seniors, the handicapped, the us'es, the us'es will give up." -Harvey Milk, 1978

Sunday, May 21, 2017

Henry James on kindness

Novelist Henry James said (to his nephew Billy James) "Three things in human life are important. The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind."  I certainly agree! 

Saturday, May 20, 2017

Change?

Thinking about changing your personality or your hair color or how you occupy your time?  Why?  Are you making a change for YOU?  If you are doing it for others, think about that hard and long before doing it.  Seriously.  Don't change so that people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love for who you really are.  Sometimes the only change that is necessary, is someone's point of view.

Friday, May 19, 2017

Life is worth living

With several celebrity suicides in the news recently I was thinking about the importance of suicide prevention, and also kindness toward the vulnerable and to those who survive.  I was just reading about a Utah woman, who after losing her husband to suicide,  has been surviving his death through the kindness that has been shown to her family.  Kindness makes a difference.  The word needs to be spread that life is worth living and that things can be better, especially when others care about you.

Thursday, May 18, 2017

role models

Basketball superstar Jeremy Lin is someone I always find inspiring. Lin said "I think right now the way society's going, I think role models are important, and kids need direction. If I didn't have that direction growing up, who knows what I could be doing, because I've been lost many times in my life, and I've had to have someone guide me back on the right path."

Wednesday, May 17, 2017

Ending Homophobia and Transphobia

This International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia, which is held on May 17 every year, is a day I wish weren't necessary, but as long as there is hate and prejudice and inequality, today, and other days like this must continue so that folks can get together and reach out to one another, and with kindness and love put an end once and for all to homophobia and transphobia.

Tuesday, May 16, 2017

It just takes one

One kind word can make someone's day!  (Of course one mean word can ruin the day).  Think about it.  We're not talking about spending a lot of money, or requiring a lot of time, or even putting in great effort.  It is so very simple.  It just takes one - just one kind word, and you can bring happiness to someone else.

Monday, May 15, 2017

letting go of our need to be right

Author and meditation expert Sharon Salzberg once wrote "Sometimes kindness takes the form of stepping aside, letting go of our need to be right, and just being happy for someone."  Indeed.

Sunday, May 14, 2017

The quick and the dead

I have a friend who reminds folks at every Mother's Day to remember their moms, be she among the quick or the dead.  Indeed.  Think too about those friends of yours who have lost a parent during the previous few years, and be there for them.  The first few Mother's Days can be tough when mom isn't around anymore.

Saturday, May 13, 2017

Another be good to mommy day

Personally I'd rather show my mom that I love her every day! On the old Captain Kangaroo tv show, they used to sing a song called "It's another be good to mommy day."  I agree!   I don't need a special holiday to appreciate my mom!  The same is true with grandmothers, aunts, and even folks who are like a mother to you. 

Friday, May 12, 2017

Kind bars

You have probably heard of kind bars.  They are healthy snacks - energy bars, and have become quite popular.  I'm not promoting them (although I should - they not only taste good, but are good for you), but a funny image just popped into my head.  Instead of thinking of a supplemental bar containing cereals, nuts and such, I was picturing that type of bar where folks go for a cocktail, but instead of libations the bartenders dispense kindness and various ways.  Oh wait!  That might describe this blog.  WE are a kind bar!

Thursday, May 11, 2017

Lots of sweetness

Too much Candy Crush for me lately!  Really.  I seem to have become sweeter than ever.  I know I shouldn't be patting myself on the back, but I just seem so incredibly happy, and each day is happier!  (I wonder what will happen when Candy Crush becomes a tv show with Mario Lopez.  Everybody will have the sweetness then)!

Wednesday, May 10, 2017

Kinds of Kind

I can kinda think of many kinds of kind - can you?  Haha!  Yes, I know, kindness is a way of life - a showing of care and concern for others, and yes, there are many "kinds" or ways to do this.  In fact, I think the ways are never-ending!

Tuesday, May 9, 2017

In appreciation of all those teachers

Letha Sines is someone I will never forget.  She was my sixth grade teacher and gave us so much!  My aunt, who later became a teacher also, was a student of Miss Sines too.  Even my sister had the great experience of this wonderful teacher, although by her year in sixth grade, she had become Mrs Letha Munson.  I fondly remember Lou Ella Gridley who taught me in fifth grade too, and Mrs Doyle from the fourth grade.  I appreciate them all, and my numerous friends and relatives who went into teaching.  Such a giving profession!

Monday, May 8, 2017

Your thoughts

If you read this every day, you know that I always have something different to say about kindness, but there is so much more that what I might share here.  Would you be so kind as to share your thoughts with us as well?  I'd love to hear some other ideas!  Using the comments section below, write whatever seems to fit relating to being kind.  Thanks for sharing!

Sunday, May 7, 2017

Happiness and success

I believe it was Albert Schweitzer who said "Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success." I was just thinking about that. How happy are you?  How successful are you?

Saturday, May 6, 2017

With the Mayor

I was at a morning gathering yesterday, with the Mayor of the small town where I am currently living.  Sometimes political events can be difficult.  This one was the opposite.  Everyone was kind and courteous to the others and our conversation was always positive.  Perhaps we should have made a diagram for others to follow!

Friday, May 5, 2017

There's something to be said for spontaneity

We can plan all sorts of things to show kindness  to others, but sometimes the best acts of all are ones we don't plan ahead of time.  There's something to be said for spontaneity - let the moment guide you.  Of course that is much easier when you are always someone who does nice things for others!

Thursday, May 4, 2017

Whole heart

"Life is going to give you just what you put into it. Put your whole heart in everything you do."
-words of Vivian Baxter

Wednesday, May 3, 2017

Special appreciation days

Mother's Day is coming this month and Father's Day next month.  Have you ever thought about Creating extra holidays to celebrate your parents?  You could include grandparents too, along with aunts and uncles and maybe even close friends.  Do a "Nana Appreciation Day" or a "My dad is special Day." It can be as simple as declaring the date of your special holiday and perhaps creating a nice sign or writing a note of thanks.  You can enlist other family members to join you.  Design some "coupons" to give our for an extra special hug or unlimited kisses.  Get creative and truly make someone's day.

Tuesday, May 2, 2017

Are they stars?

Look up into the sky, and think about this wonderful Eskimo Proverb: “Perhaps they are not stars, but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy.”

Monday, May 1, 2017

The May Pole

I remember back when I was little (perhaps a kinder and gentler time) when we danced around a Maypole on the first day of May. Poet Jonathan Swift describes a Maypole this way:
Deprived of root, and branch, and rind,
Yet flowers I bear of every kind:
And such is my prolific power,
They bloom in less than half an hour;