Friday, March 31, 2017

No worries

Have you noticed that employees don't say "you're welcome" these days? Most of the time it seems to be "no worries," which wouldn't bother me if I were Australian, but I'm not. I'd have no issue if they said "my pleasure." I might even prefer it. It's all about courtesy. "No worries" just seems way too indifferent to me. In courtesy, it's always better to take the high road.  "I'm so glad I didn't cause a problem or worry you," should not be what you are thinking.  Instead I want to feel glad I was there.  Wow!  She said it was her pleasure.  How nice! 

Thursday, March 30, 2017

Disney dream

The great film producer, animator, voice actor, and movie pioneer Walt Disney only lived to be 65 years old, but he accomplished so much. Whenever I need any sort of encouragement, all I have to do is look at his brilliant life. Disney once said "If you can dream it, you can do it."

Wednesday, March 29, 2017

Building up others

Putting someone else down doesn't make you look better. Building up others will do that. When you build up someone else, you build up yourself at the same time. Oh and it actually feels good to say positive things about other people!

Tuesday, March 28, 2017

We're supposed to be different

How can we discriminate against an entire group of people? I don't get it. When I was little I remember the drinking fountains labeled "colored" and "white."  (I actually used the colored one once in a store, thinking the water was colored, and boy did I get yelled at by the racist storekeeper). These days I see more discrimination based on religious affiliation or gender identity, and I still don't get it. We're supposed to be different. That is part of the beauty of life. We are supposed to discriminate though, because despite all of our many differences, we still are all equal!

Monday, March 27, 2017

The Trip

Kindness comes in many forms, but all kind acts make love so much more joyful. Once, a couple I know who were aware I really wanted to attend an event, made sure I was indeed there. They sent me on a trip, paying for my flight and my hotel, and wouldn't take no for an answer. There kindness and that trip will always be happy memories for me and are just one more encouragement that we should all show kindness, whenever we can.

Sunday, March 26, 2017

Too much time on social media?

"The one who loves a good rumor hates a peaceful life."  This was on my fortune cookie last night.  Was it telling me that I need to spend less time on social media?

Saturday, March 25, 2017

thanks Mom

When Mom passed away on March 25th in 2013, I was a basket case. Seeing a loved one die is a difficult thing. Since then though, while I still miss her a lot, I have become stronger. Everything I am is because of her. She was one of the kindest people I ever have known and also one of the most loving. Mom also left me a note to read after she was gone. In it she said I had been the best son a mother could have, and she wished me a good life. "We'll be together again someday" was how she closed. Thanks Mom, for everything.

Friday, March 24, 2017

Check your memory

Think back. Do you remember a kind act that someone did for you? How did it make you feel? It doesn't have to be a huge event - it doesn't have to require any money or gifts. Kindness is a way of life for many of us, and certainly you have been the recipient at some time. Check your memory. Didn't it feel great? Wouldn't you want to share that feeling with others?

Thursday, March 23, 2017

ideas are endless

More kindness ideas:  Buy extra at the grocery store and donate it to a food pantry,  Buy flowers for someone (postal worker, grocery store clerk, bus driver, etc.).  Bring coffee to a co-worker.  Help someone change a flat tire.  Post anonymous sticky notes with validating or uplifting messages around for people to find.  Compliment a work colleague on their work.  Send an encouraging text to someone.  Let a car into the traffic ahead of you. 

Wednesday, March 22, 2017

Unkind vs Kind

Have you ever had unkind things said about you? How did that make you feel? Now, take a moment to think about when kind things were instead said about you. I'll bet that felt a whole lot better, huh? If we all learned this simple lesson, we could make every day so much better.

Tuesday, March 21, 2017

living by our words

Writing here every day about kindness is not enough. I have to practice what I preach. I have to BE kind. In the words of John F. Kennedy, "As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them."

Monday, March 20, 2017

Timing

The wonderful science fiction writer Octavia Butler, wrote some nonfiction too. She once spoke so eloquently of timing saying "Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it's all over."

Sunday, March 19, 2017

I shall not pass this way again

One of my favorite quotes about kindness is from William Penn, even though it might sound a lot like something sung by Jim Seals and Dash Crofts. Penn said "I expect to pass through this world but once. Any good therefore that I can do, or any kindness that I can show to any fellow creature, let me do it now. Let me not defer or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again."

Saturday, March 18, 2017

sharing chocolate

Sharing chocolate is pretty darn kind, don't you think? Actually sharing anything is kind. Right now, I could go for some of that chocolate though - maybe a nice cup of hot chocolate - the kind I used to drink at Christopher Elbow's shop! Yum! I'll share. I promise.

Friday, March 17, 2017

blessings of the day

One Saint Patrick's Day (probably long ago) I was blessed with these words: "May you have the hindsight to know where you’ve been, the foresight to know where you are going, and the insight to know when you have gone too far. Have a long life and a merry one, a quick death and an easy one, a pretty girl and an honest one, and a cold pint and another one!"

Thursday, March 16, 2017

Everyone enjoys a little kindness

Start each day with kindness (you can always find a dose of it here), and spread it around too.  Everyone enjoys a little kindness!

Wednesday, March 15, 2017

Language of kindness

“Kindness is a language that the deaf can hear and the blind can see,” said Mark Twain. Wow! "The deaf can hear and the blind can see - sounds like a pretty incredible language. We should speak it more often.

Tuesday, March 14, 2017

Sharing stories

I love hearing stories of kindness.  Sometimes on the local news we hear of a neighborhood hero or maybe on Ellen's show or in a facebook post.  The kind acts that people do always warm my heart and getting all the details is such an extra bonus.  Sharing stories can be done here too - just add them in the comments below!

Monday, March 13, 2017

Make someone happy

I woke up on this Monday morning and the first thing I thought of was to make someone happy! (Yes that is indeed an old Jimmy Durante song. June Christy, Doris Day, Perry Como, Barbra Streisand, Aretha Franklin, Sergio Franchi, Dinah Washington, and Judy Garland also recorded it, along with a number of others. That isn't the point I am making though). Making someone happy shouldn't be too difficult. Will you join me?

Sunday, March 12, 2017

the kindness of that guy over there

Did you expect the man you passed to smile and nod hello?  Did you expect the little boy in the park to offer you one of the candies his mom had just given him?  Did you expect your next door neighbor to sweep off your sidewalk this morning?  The kindness of that guy over there might be unexpected, but it sure is nice.

Saturday, March 11, 2017

such an outpouring

Yesterday I attended a funeral.  The church was packed - mourners were in the doorway and spilling outside.  At a luncheon and civic memorial later in the day, the crowd was even bigger.  My heart was warmed to see such an outpouring.  Many present didn't even know the man who died, but they knew he was a good man and they knew the wonderful things he had done.

Friday, March 10, 2017

we shape our lives

Former First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt was very inspiring by the things she did and the words she spoke. I am touched especially by these words of hers: "In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility."

Thursday, March 9, 2017

walking the earth like brothers

It's been many years since Martin Luther King Jr. said “We have flown the air like birds and swum the sea like fishes, but have yet to learn the simple act of walking the earth like brothers.” When will we learn?

Wednesday, March 8, 2017

Women's Day

On International Women's Day, the words of Mahatma Gandhi come to mind: "Of all the evils for which man has made himself responsible, none is so degrading, so shocking or so brutal as his abuse of the better half of humanity; the female sex."

Tuesday, March 7, 2017

Behind the music

Todd Rundgren has always been one of my favorite musicians. The moment I hear the first notes of Hello It's Me, I get a lump in my throat. I remember that Rundgren once said "Music is the way I understand how to communicate now, the way that I've learned how to communicate . . . but it will eventually have to go beyond that. You see, I've realized that music is not what keeps people involved - it's the attitude behind the music."

Monday, March 6, 2017

The inspiring Michael Jordan

Ask Michael Jordan why he succeeds. His response is truly inspiring! "I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed."

Sunday, March 5, 2017

kind acts

I've listed various acts of kindness here before. Here are a few more: Volunteer to read to kids in the library. Donate time at a senior center. Give a pair of tickets to a concert or baseball game to a stranger. Send a gift anonymously to a friend. Pay for the person behind you in the movie line. Tell your parents/children why you love them. Give blood. Pay for the meal of the person behind you in the drive-through. Bring flowers to work and share them with coworkers. Can you think of more?

Saturday, March 4, 2017

Mom's command

My mother always said March 4th is a command (march forth). Of course I think of Mom more often than this day, but when the calendar turns to this page, I think of Mom's command with a smile. May all the world march forth on March fourth and do kind things for each other!

Friday, March 3, 2017

ethics

Did you know that March is National Ethics Awareness Month?  It's true.  It seems to be that being ethical is also being kind.  Would you agree?

Thursday, March 2, 2017

two-fer

Amazing. For me it will always be amazing how wonderful it feels to make someone else feel good. I think that's what some folks call a two-fer. One act makes two people feel good (and probably many more, once they hear about it). One simple act of kindness. For me it will always be amazing.

Wednesday, March 1, 2017

Another beginning

Oh how I love new beginnings.  It's always nice to have a fresh start.  It's especially nice when there are more opportunities to do good and kind things for other people.  Let's march forward into March, enjoying another beginning, and make this month the kindest one ever!